We have been enjoying Laura Corn's 101 "Nights of Grrreat Romance" link
Personally the best thing after a hard stressful day is a candle lit back massage from my wife wearing something sexy to start the evening. When your man is beat after a late day, he probably needs some time to decompress before going at it.
Body issues and stretch marks? Try a babydoll with a flowing fit over the tummy that shows enough to be sexy but you feel comfortable in. link link link