Why Do Adults Make Sex Into A Big Deal?

One of the reasons that parents make a big deal out of teenagers having sex is because parents think it's their job, as if they HAVE TO make a big deal out of it. There's probably not a parent out there that thinks any teenager would ever be mature enough to have sex, no matter how mature that teenager is.

Another reason parents don't want their teenager having sex is because of the possibility of the teen having their life ruined, either socially, economically, or simply losing freedom:

By socially, I mean at school, by everyone talking and making her out to be really easy, which can make life at school quite difficult.

By economically, I mean that teenagers don't have money, and if they get pregnant and have a baby, it is very difficult to raise the baby.

By losing freedom, I mean that the teenage years and 20's are supposed to be about having fun and making money. Those things are much too difficult to do if a baby comes along.

Theoretically, having sex is fine as long as you don't get pregnant, don't get a disease, and don't get a bad reputation at school.

and as far as this goes, people will criticize you because "you're only 16"...and having sex...but you really shouldn't let that get to you, if you like doing it, then do it!

Parents worry because...

- They aren't sure you're being safe.
- they don't want to run the risk of you being a teen mom.
- And if so, they're worried about your future.

They just worry a lot for you. You should be happy you have caring parents.

There are a few reasons, some good, some not so good. First, they think of you as their child, even if you're sexually mature, and the thought of you having sex causes cognitive dissonance. Second, STDs and pregnancy can seriously screw up your life, and from a pure cost/benefit analysis perspective, it isn't worth it, so they want you to be prudent and abstain. I have heard so many mothers ask, (in an exasperated tone of voice,) questions like, "why do teenage girls have sex?" I think the answer is simple: the same reasons adults do, minus the procreation part. Humans are ready for sex long before society is ready for them to be ready for sex. It sucks, and parents have a hard time seeing their teenage kids as adults, which they aren't in a social / emotional way, but are in a physical way. The first time I had sex was when I was 15. She was 16. We exchanged a couple emails a couple years back, (I'm 31 now,) and we both mentioned that neither of us regretted it. Then again, if she had gotten pregnant and if that had derailed our entire lives for whatever reason, it would have been the worst thing I've ever done. As it is, my wife and I accidentally got pregnant when I was 25 and it was horrible. I love my daughter, but the fact that we weren't ready to be parents when we had her totally screwed up our lives. We still haven't recovered -- the fallout is still falling 5 years later. Seriously, don't get pregnant and don't give anyone any diseases or get any yourself.

The answer you want to hear: you are right that is perfectly fine as long as you are responsible about it.


The truth: That is very irresponsible to do and you should really think about how you live your life. first of all you are basically lying to your mother that is wrong to do. Sex is supposed to be shared with someone you love but you are turning it in to trash you are ruining the true meaning of sex. You are still at risk of getting pregnant or getting std's think about that.

20 guys?!? HOLY SHIT. Wow just wow words can't explain how stupid you are. You must be a breeding ground for STDs and such. You are gonna be a loser in life if you continue on this course.

You are a dumb ass.

16 with 20 guys? Holy f*** you are slut on a whole new level. Sex is a huge deal and if you can't get that into your tiny brain then you are the most ignorant teenager I know. I hope you get pregnant and learn your lesson.

over 20 guys and you are just now 16? I sense either bullsh*t or someone who needs not reproduce. This is not something to brag out. Its about more than just feeling good, its about emotion and physical intimacy. Shame on you.

i would stop what you are doing! when you get older and are mature and actually want to settle down with somebody for the rest of your life. who knows if anybody is going to want to give it a try. once you are out of high school all that changes. people are most of the time more mature. they be careful who they sleep with. and if yuo get stuck with something you can't get rid of you may never find a guy. unless he has something also and it doesn't really make a difference what goes on in your relationship...sometimes the past will kick you in your ass later on. ...do you want to be known at 30 years old as the town whore...stop b4 its too late. no birthcontrol is 100% effective. for stopping pregnancy or getting exposed to an STD. ... think...!

Girl, you have got your whole life to have sex. But just few years of teenage to have fun (without sex!) and meet people and enjoy your innocence. Don't ruin it! YOU HAVE GOT TO PUT A STOP TO THIS.
because one fine day, you are going to realize what wrong you have been doing and then there will be no looking back because you will have no friends, no1 to help you.
While you are young, take help of your parents or you friend who is not of this genre!

GET OUT OF THIS HELLHOLE!

I think its more of the fact that (and hopefully this doesn't offend anyone) but an adult (someone over the age of eighteen) are more able to take care of a child than someone younger is able to (and I know you said your on birth control, but remember those are NOT 100% effective, and neither are condoms).

I'm going to assume your still in high school, so if you get pregnant, you won't be able to completely bound with the baby because of school. Plus, where's your social life? Once you get older, you can have that bounding process with the baby, plus there's more job opening when your older.

You may or may not have a car, but if you don't, how do you plan to take that child to the doctor? Your parent's will get tired of that.

Easy Slutville

If you would have dated someone for a long time and honestly thought you were in love you could, but you're just a slut and don't have any respect for your body.

ummm you're a slut! why don't you stop having sex with like 5 guys a day!

you slut your only 16 and have had sex with 20 guys? are you addicted to sex? get some help you futon!

Over 20 guys and you are still 16? While it is good that you are using contraceptives, there is still a risk of pregnancy. Adults are more able to handle the consequences of sex and getting pregnant than a 16 year old. Honestly, do you think you can financially support a child? Do you think you would be able to balance school, work, homework, and taking care of a baby 24/7 with absolutely no breaks or time for yourself? An average 16 year old can barely stand even stand on their own. Also, birth control doesn't exactly prevent against STDs, either, so that's another thing you must worry about. I'm really not trying to judge you or anything like that, but what I am saying is the truth. I truly hope that nothing bad comes of this. Please think about what I said and take it into consideration. I wish the best for you.

Sex is for adults,not children.
If you are not of legal age,are not educated about safe sex,can not and will not accept the possible physical,mental and financial consequences of sex and are still under the support of mommy and daddy,and mommy and daddy are providing you with food,clothing and shelter,oh and when mommy has to give permission for you to use Birth control pills,those are major signs you should not be having sex.There's more to sex than pleasure and having been with that many guys at your age,isn't something to brag about

because its is I learned it the hard way. I'm a teen mom with a 1 month old son jason. I used the same things you are