So there is this guy at work that I really think is cute. I asked a friend if he was single and she asked him. He said he was single and that he would ask me out but he doesn't know very much English (my Spanish is so so but getting better). Anyway, I really don't want a boyfriend, I am just getting out of a long relationship and I just really want to be single for awhile. So, he showed up at a friend of mine's house after work one day. We kind of talked a little and I kissed him on the cheek. He really doesn't talk to me much. I think he is embarrassed that he doesn't speak English. So finally decided to make the first move. I asked him to go out after work for a beer. He said he couldn't. So I figured oh well, he must not be interested. I was sitting in the parking lot outside of work waiting for a friend to call and tell me where they were. I see him leave. A few minutes later, I leave. I was about two blocks from work at a red light when he pulls up next to me and tells me to follow him. We end up in the parking lot at a bar, so I figure he changed his mind. He jumps in my car. Silence for a while. Again I made the first move. I asked him some questions and then started stroking his hand. I go to kiss him and he pulls away saying He has a girlfriend in Mexico. What? After all of this. He still stays in my car. We talk a little more, then he moves closer and puts his hand on my thigh. So I made my move again. We end up making out in my car. He says lets go somewhere I figured so we could be more comfortable and have sex. I live about 30 miles away and he said he lives with friends. We kiss a little more and then he starts saying, I'm sorry, I can't, I have a girlfriend, I'm so sorry, I'm sorry. And jumps out my car. I know he likes me, but what the hell am I supposed to do. He was ready to go someplace else but then jumps out of my car. Crazy! Please don't judge me but I am really just looking to get laid. It has been about 6 months and that is all I really want out of this relationship anyway. Any advice!
Update: So I guess I should update this. He has been here for over 2 years. He is still asking about me. He called me the night of my bday party and said he was coming, he told 2 other people that same night he was coming. I wonder if he is just shy?
7 months ago
There is nothing wrong with wanting to get laid. But this guy just has too much of a situation for you to deal with. You could find yourself a guy without so many complications.
I agree he probably does like you but feel conflicted with his feelings for his girlfriend and if as you say you are just looking to get laid I'd leave the guy alone. I don't mean to sound judgmental but I'm just stating a fact here your actions could cause his relationship to break up resulting in misery to him and more importantly his girlfriend If you really liked the guy and wanted a serious relationship that would be some reason for going ahead but not just for sex. There are plenty of guys out there looking for no ties sex
It's the common pleasure/consequence problem. We want pleasure, but we know it's not right and there will be consequences. It's the struggle we all face. Part of him wants to be true to his g/f, but part of him wants to have sex. It's really not that odd of behavior. It's something we all go through.
As far as you getting laid, that is something I won't comment on.
You could always let him know how you feel and tell him that if he ever changes his mind that the offer is still available -no strings attached-but if he has a girlfriend (even if she is in Mexico)maybe it's best just to leave him alone. Especially if you work with him. It might make things awkward even if he's the only one weirded out by it.
There are plenty of other guys out there who would love to have a one nighter with no commitments after. LoL
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