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How long should I make a guy wait for sex?

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Deeplove55 (Age:18 to 24)     When: 5 months ago
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How many months? Or dates? Until we have sex? I just don't want to make the same past mistakes with giving in to the sex too soon then the guys don't want me afterwards. I want to be with a guy who wants to stay with me for a long time. No more flings or games. So I figure I change and make them wait. I just need to know when its time to have sex to where you know they will stay after.

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johnsmith2116
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johnsmith2116 (Age:30 to 35)      When: 5 months ago
I'd say at least 2 or 3 months. That's enough time for him to develop real feelings for you.
You seem like a good person hun. Good luck to you! :-)
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juice (Age:Under 18)      When: 5 months ago
Well don't judge with time because everyone is different so judge in the person judge when you can totally trust this guy and he can trust you equally then it would be a good time
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archer86
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archer86 (Age:36 to 45)      When: 5 months ago
3 dates within one month should do it. Anything longer is bad only because a man will feel you are just using him. Usually after a month if there is no sex and he's still interested in you, then it's green light. Otherwise he will move on if sex only is the goal. But watch his moods carefully. Waiting til marriage is ridiculous, especially if marriage is not your goal nor is religion is a major part of your life.

I admire your decision in avoiding flings though, there does come a time when a person is ready to stick with one person. But don't wait too late though
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Lenny
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Lenny (Age:25 to 29)      When: 5 months ago
First, I think the best thing to do is to wait until your married, because then a guy will only appreciate and love you for you. That's how you can weed out who only wants you for sex. Trust me guys wanting only that will not wait. These days girls and guys don't want to wait until then. Really you can't set a time frame on it if you want to have sex because a guy could still leave you no matter what the time frame is. Real talk
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Question Asker Its kind of hard to b celibate but yea it would b better. And your right about the fact that a guy can still leave you no matter when you decide to give him sex. IF that was his main goal. That's what's sad. U'd think waiting makes a difference but 9 times out of 10 it doesn't. Waiting assures the possibility of a sure thing but in some cases a guy can still just leave you after waiting so long. If you don't wait, its a sure thing for the guy to leave with a hasty exit - 5 months ago

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gdavidson94 (Age:18 to 24)      When: 5 months ago
Well honestly all you have to do if find the right guy make sure he knows your the one for him and the have sex with him
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samthan
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samthan (Age:25 to 29)      When: 5 months ago
My first time doin it I waited 6 months I still with the same guy so I can't talk. what the average wait my guess is like a month or 2 I can't say I haven't been with anyone else.
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sweet-southern-girl (Age:18 to 24)      When: 5 months ago
It is hard to pin-point an exact amount of time for something like that. Wait as long as you feel necessary. You should be able to tell after a couple of months if a guy wants "just sex" or a relationship. Granted (as mentioned before) that still does not guarantee he will stick around, but it will def increase your chances. Generally guys that want "just sex" will not even stick around a couple of weeks, much less a couple of months, if he isn't getting any. A guy that is willing to wait a few months is generally looking for something more than sex and sometimes the relationships work and sometimes they don't.

I think 6 weeks to 3 months is a good "avg" time frame, but it is really something you have to decide for yourself. I am 23 and in all of my previous relationships I had been with guys for 4, 5, 8 months and wasn't ready to have sex with them because in my heart I knew something was missing from the relationship. But with my current boyfriend things were different right from the beginning. I only waited 6 weeks before I slept with him and that seemed like forever! Lol! But I knew their was something different about him. When you meet someone like that you will know he wants YOU not "just sex"! Good luck! I hope you find a good one!
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Anonymous User (Age:Under 18)      When: 5 months ago
I think it is ok after about 2 months because then you know the person well and then if you still don't want sex maybe the person is not right for you
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Anonymous User (Age:18 to 24)      When: 5 months ago
I would suggest that you make a guy wait a good long time to before you have sex with him...the best way to do it is to spend at least 7 months to a year leading up to it......you don't want to have sex with a guy you hardly even know and even if you've been with him for a while you shouldn't have sex with him just because you've been with him for a long time.....sex should be the most amazing thing you guys to together....so you should make it good....in that 7 months to year give him little bits and pieces of you gradually work up to being more and more physical with him and gradually let him do more and more to you...hint at what he could have ;) but don't give him all of yourself until you know that he's going to appreciate it and continue to appreciate it.......you could wait until you get married to have sex, that is one way to go, but in the end it's your call and one you should make with your boyfriend
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Anonymous User (Age:18 to 24)      When: 5 months ago
Ok if your going out a month that should do it personally I think a month
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