I'm 16 and have been with over 20 guys? What's so bad about that?

That's crazy, but if that is what you want to do that is your choice and nobody else's. Also on another note, are you looking for somebody else? LOL

I love the smell of trolls in the evening...

the reason some girls who are 18+ are not VIRGINS and tell you to wait is because they regret wasting and you should too and not make the mistake of popping ur cherry before marriage or at least until you love some one

Do what you want lol I could not care any less, but know this:




A slut... is a slut.

Where were girls like you when I was in school? Seriously p*sses me off I graduated a virgin lol.



All kidding aside sounds like you're a sex addict. Which is good and bad I guess. Good because it could be worse. Sex is natural and healthy (as long as you avoid std's). It's bad though because even with protection you're always putting yourself at risk whenever you engage in sexual acctivity. Plus I doubt your family agrees with your sex life (which I think is the whole point of this thread).

My advice to you though is simple. Keep sleeping around if you want to. Possibly look into some sexaholics classes. Keep your relations with friends rather then strangers that way your reputation at school isn't shot all to hell. People won't label you as bad if you're only sleeping with 2 or 3 friends rather then if you're getting railed by the whole foot ball team. Also keep it in your age limit. It might just be sex to you but to someone over 18 it's 20 years in the pen.


On a final note, just because people at school don't call you a slut to your face doesn't mean that they don't think you are one. I'm pretty sure you're the talk of all the guys in the locker room. And chances are most guys who talk to you only do so because they consider you an easy lay. That's the only reson why I would talk to someone with your sexaul history to be quite honest, and I know I'm not the only guy who thinks that way.

How do you do it?
What's your secret?
TELL ME!

What's wrong with making smart, informed decisions about your sex life? Nothing whatever. That's how you're supposed to do it.

P.S.: Don't let the bastards get you down. Not worth the energy.

If you're happy, good for you.

But please consider the possibility that you might change your mind when you get older older and start desiring love or whatever. Then don't start crying or complain if you find a nice guy you really REALLY like and he rejects you when you tell them about your promiscuous past or is afraid to even touch you with a 10 feet pole even though you've had yourself checked a dozen times.


That being said, continue doing what you're doing if it makes you happy and I really hope that you don't change your mind.

Why are you discussing it though? It is it because you hate the double standard? Honestly it's no excuse to go out and have sex as much as you want. The fact is you simply enjoy it. Period, I don't think there's any real reason other than that fact.

Is there anything bad about it? Yes, there's lots. One is your 16, and by law your not even an adult. What's gonna happen if you do get pregnant? Some people even with condoms and birth control can still get pregnant. Second, I don't even think you have a car, let alone any other responsibility. But you think being 16 and your right to have sex justifies that. Third, your opening yourself up to std's and other consequences. Did you know it's possible to get an std from oral sex too?

The final fact is that your simply just a kid. Your spinning into a direction there is little return from. If you were older, out of the house, then by all means do whatever you want. No one has a right to judge you. But we do have a right to warn you and tell you of our own experiences and consequences that you neglect to see. The main problem here, is that you think your smarter than the situation calls for.

And if you haven't already. Think about your future, relationship wise. What if you finally meet someone worth having, worth keeping? What do you think he's gonna say when he learns of your number, which will probably be higher than 20 someday? Sure you could use the "if you really love me you'll forget my past" excuse, but that's the sad part about it all. So for right now, if it's fun for you, then that's your decision. I just hope you figure out someday how serious it really is, and how deep. Good luck.

Have as much sex as you want whether it be for fun or love. Just be safe always. Don't do anything you don't feel comfortable doing.

I could suggest you have sex with less people (get a boyfriend who can keep up with your needs) as it would reduce the probability of getting STDs.

The only problem you might have is that if any of the guys talk about you being a slut or whatnot after having sex with them you will get a bad reputation.

Sex might be for fun for you but the other person might get emotionally attached and get bitter if you have sex with other guys.

Regardless of your views most societies will view women who have multiple sexual partners as whores, sluts and the like - it is what it is (not that I agree with it).

If you can keep your rep clean and avoid STDs then all the luck to you have fun but you are increasing your chances of being bad mouthed, falling pregnant and getting STDs by sleeping with so many different guys.

that makes you a slut

oh did I just judged you?

ye, oops

its your prerogative, be safe always if you like to have sex so much. you're right, a lot of people do over think sex. where is it written that sex is only for "adults" who are in love? Christ, man, kids mature sexually when they're 12 anyway.

And here folks is the promising future of the human race. Or should I say not so promising...

Didn't you already post this? If not that's my mistake. But anyways I think it is horribly wrong. You think it's just sex? Sex is a magical wonderful thing that you share with someone you truly love. Not with every man who just wants a place to *cough* fill his needs. I completely disagree with this choice. And saying that it's just sex is a very ignorant thing to say because it isn't just sex. It's a human life you're talking about. Do you want to have a baby? Probably not. Then why would you want to have sex for fun? It's a serious thing. And what if you ever had children? What would you tell them? Kids look up to their parents as people who make good choices and try their hardest to be the best they can be. If you are doing that they will assume it's ok. And you know what? They will probably be on a short road to nowhere mighty fast. Because right now that's where you are heading. You need to grow up one day. It is VERY immature to have so much sex when you are so young. That's because you have no self-control. Mature people know how to control themselves. They are the people who usually end up being successful in life. And by the way birth control, condoms, etc. do not always work. Actually there are many many pregnancies that occur even when the sex is supposedly "safe". If I were you I'd consider turning my life around. NO ONE will EVER have respect for you if you don't. There are bad things in your future if you don't turn around...

NOTE: Don't yell or whine at me for this comment I'm only speaking the truth to you. It will be much appreciated if you can keep the comments on this under control. Thanks...

Nothing wrong with that... right? I mean come on, it's sex. Even when it's bad, it's good.

That is horrible I am sorry it is better to have sex with someone you care about. I know it may be fun but you should have fun with someone you actually care about someone who you would actually want to be the father of a child if you get pregnant.

Hey look at me, I'm doing something guys stereotypically do because I'm a free thinker and y'all are just sheep. Peace out.

to be honest I think you sound like the local bike. from the sounds of things you don't seem to care about who you are sleeping with so why should your partners care about you. at this rate your going to spread disease. don't rely on birth control and condoms they aren't 100% effective as you should know.

Funny but ok as previously stated, if it makes you feel better about ur self I believe I have made you feel bad enough about ur self...prude?...maybe you should buy a dictionary and spend more time learning the true meaning of words then actually f***ing everyone and their grandmother...I bet ur vagina looks like 2 old slabs of roast beef!...hahahahaha...I'm outs for good I have a life to tend too! Good luck with the std's.. ;D

I really find it amusing that you actually believe I'm am insecure when ...who was it that posted this question agian ...Hmmmm that's right you lmfao ! Well I could almost bet my life that you are completely lying about your weight that's not really the point but ok if it makes you feel that much better about yourself okay..close minded about sex...oh hunny if you only knew and who said anything abot love maybe subconsciously you wanna feel loved and that's why ur seeking so much male attention, you should leave some to the imagination now I bet the whole football team has seen you naked...but ill tell you What I'm not gunna waist my very valuable time arguing with a 16 year old on the internet...good luck with std's...fyi you can get std's just by kissing someone ...;D

I don't see anything wrong with what you're doing, I guess. It's your problem and life, not mine. Why would you post this anway? You knew beforehand that everyone was gonna call out sh*t to you. And technically, you are a slut link so don't get testy when people say exactly what you are because you can't handle the truth.

Haha what crawled up ur ass and died?!? Insecurities? Oh no hunny I'm 5'4 115 pounds light skin and jet back hair I have no insecurities I am one of the most confident people imaginable.contradiction? No! why ? Did I tell you that you should have waited no...uneducated? Yes! Why? If you don't have enough common sense to determine whether having sex with 20 guys at ur age or any age is bad that is simply ignorant!...get you facts straight! Fat and ugly yes..why sweety why put yourself on blast, anyone can lose their virginity there are some desperate ass guys out there!...good luck with the STD's...oh an remember if you can't count all the guys uve been with on one hand and you need two...well that's being easy..;D

Wow!...its completely ur choice I'm not gonna call you a slut or tell you that your insecure, however I am going to tell you that ur ignorant and uneducated. I'm 21 I had sex for the first time when I was 16, no regrets. But you know what as an adult you enjoy it more and it has more meaning to it, yes some sex is pointless but when there is passion flowing. FUCK its so good.guys aren't going to respect you obviously you can tell by all of the answers given. Ur so naïve. I have to say this ok because I was in high school one and there was always a girl like you. I picture you being overweight and and not so fortunate looking.its always the ugly chicks that feel they need to prove themselves to the pretty girls. We don't care!

you do what you gotta do...BUT you probably won't find a guy that respects you and wants to date you. this kinda things follows you as you go through life

That's your prerogative. I'm not gonna call you a slut because you aren't hurting anybody. I really don't know why people seem to get so angry just because you are promiscuous. That's your business.

I just think your attitude about sex is a little off. Why is sex supposed to be fun? It can spread STDs and cause babies and destroy relationships, it sounds like serious business to me. Nothing is ever 100% in this day and age I would be really wary of just depending on BC and condoms. What if you get an STD anyway?

Why do you have such a lackadaisical attitude about sex? Don't you care how guys think of you? Just wondering because most guys I know don't treat girls with respect if they are easy to get. I never understood how a girl could just not care about what goes inside her body. But as long as you aren't messing around with anyone's boyfriend and you're staying safe do you.

Personally, I feel that sex is an important thing. I'm 16 and a virgin and I plan to stay that way until I'm ready and with a guy I love (and in a bed where I'm not going to be interrupted).

HOWEVER!

That doesn't mean I feel that everyone should believe the same thing to me. You are doing it because you want to (not because other people are pressuring you), you are taking proper care (protection etc), and you aren't hurting others (or at least I hope not, aka not cheating on people/going out with people who have boyfriends). Truthfully I see nothing wrong with what you are doing. Would I do it? No. But that doesn't matter, sex is your personal choice and it all depends on how you personally feel about it.

Look, if you're having safe sex, great. But why do you care if the people on this website find it bad or not? If you're as secure with yourself as you say you are, I don't think you'd be asking this question.

I don't agree with calling sexually active girls under 18 sluts either, and I certainly don't praise guys who've slept with lots of girls. A lot of people don't. I can't say I agree with what you're doing, but it's not my place to say you're wrong. But I will say that I don't see the point of you posting this at all. Clearly, you've got some issues with what you're doing or else you wouldn't be asking this question. If you want the honest-to-god truth, then you should know that many people are going to judge you, disagree with you, call you a slut, and so on. I'm not saying they're right, but it is what many people are going to think.

My only advice here is to keep being safe and using condoms and birth control. And if you don't want to be judged, then don't make your sex life public. And just for the record -- there are other ways to have fun, you know?

Wow I know that you have an STD Slut!

It seems more like you want people to know what you do more than you care about it being right or wrong. If you say you aren't insecure then why do you need other people's opinion?

I agree with doctorwhofan23 and paigems sex is not just for fun its an experience you share with someone you really care about or are in love with not just something you do just for the heck of it...You'll look back on this I think when you're a little older and understand...And also just because a guy uses condoms with you doesn't mean that you are not at risk to get an std and no birth control is a 100% effective you never know what could happen so I think you should think about that before the next guy you sleep with.. its really not a good look! Well that's my opinion..

do you want a kid or what?

You sound extremely awesome. Don't ever change.

Well if I knew someone your age who has been with 20 people already I would call them a slut! No matter how safe you are there's always risks with sex.

Why is it so bad? Sex should not be something you do just for the heck of it because it's fun. It should be something you do with someone that you really love, respect, care about, and know they feel them same way. Also, it makes you look like you have no respect for yourself. No, it does not make you a bad person, but it does make you really, really immature.

I don't even know where to begin. Umm?Well,good for you