Is it OK to ask your girlfriend her ''sex history''?

It's ok to ask how many.. just odn't ask too many details it gets kind of creepy, my fiance and I have gotten to the ok so have you or haven't you done that with someone before thing. we also don't know numbers so its kind of like I pretend he's only slept with 4 people and he does the same for me. neither of us are perfect... but we love each other and a number doesn't matter.. I will definitly say you havethe right to knwo if she had or has any diseases and I would reccomend getting checked fo ranythign togethr because some diseases do not present right away and you can give somethign to one another wihtout even knowing it

yeah I think why not. I would ask my boyfriend (if I had one) and I'm ready to hear what he has to say. I confess it might affect me a tiny bit about how I view him.
the response to the answer is important, to some, it's a sensitive issue

Most of the answers so far have been good, in my opinion - and all have been honest, which is always nice :)...

My opinion: it is totally okay to ask, but (as most people have said) be prepared and aware that you may not like the answer(s)...

the number of guys question, and the penis size one seem like the most prickly... but ask if you want to (and feel free to share the answers :)

You definitely have the right to ask, but don't ask the questions you don't want the answers to.

I asked my boyfriend and I was ready for his answer.

Some people may get completely turned off by their partner's answer, so be forewarned, you could hear something you will never forget and will never think of her in the same way again.

Don't ask. It will either kill you or both of you.

You'll know when you sleep with her.

Its fine if you ask her, but if you hear something you don't like don't hold it against her

I think its time for you to play a little game called "21 questions"... I hope you know the rules! It an extremely easy way for you to get the answers that you need, while you are having fun. She might get a chance to ask you some questions that she had in her mind too. Kill 2 birds with one stone

You should wait till both of you are comfortable talking about sex period and then the next factor is if you're gonna judge her no. If she says 60 then what. If you don't really want to know then don't ask, or don't ask for a specific #. You can ask was it a lot of guys or a little or under 10 or more, whatever.

My history I started at 15 and was very promiscuous because I thought guys would stay if I did it and that's what they wanted. I'm harder to get now then before because I'm more mature and I know who deserves what and who doesn't. History is the past you can look at that but you can't solely judge based on that. Thoughts and values change I'm a history major and you can't blame people for choices they made in the time that it seemed right based on what they knew. What they believe now and the trust you can have in them is all that matters really.

i think its okay to ask but not all at once, like its a questionnaire type thing, and I think asking who she has been with is a little weird, and maybe feel offended.
i would ask her when you guys are talking about that stuff and ask her one question every few says...

Don't ask... Only ask the questions that might relate to her (or you even) have any diseases. It's called keeping yourself safe. HOWEVER don't ask all those details. I know it sucks not knowing but sometimes you just don't want to know. Asking her all these details will make her feel uncomfortable and judged. The past is the past, she has moved on so don't bring it up.

I speak from experience, my current boyfriend was a virgin and I wasn't. It's not like I was easy or anything sleeping with random guys, just a few past boyfriends I dated for awhile. I feel as though those details are none of his business. And it upsets me when he judges me for it.

If you're sleeping with her (or plan to) it's your business to know how many guys she has been with, but other than that, the rest is none of your business. It was in her past and has nothing to do with your relationship. All that matters is the way that she is NOW, not how she used to be. You're going to start pushing her away if you ask any of these questions...

I think its ok to ask, my boyfriend and I asked each other after we where only going out a few weeks just because I wanted to be careful and see if there was any change that he could have an STD.

No number is a good number! don't ask her, it will only lead to a nasty arguement!

I wouldn't ask her that. Especially not about the penis size. What do you exactly want to hear? That she only had sex with 1 guy and that he sucked and had a small penis?

wow, that's a bit too much information to be asking of her. and details, really!? you will surely creep her out. DO NOT ASK HER.

no, is not ok to ask her about her sex history. why do you care anyway? she can lie to you if she wants to. I could never understand why men want to know that. what is now is important and I think if she was dating you for six months already she is not easy.
so. that's the best evidence. her personality, her soul, how she is with you, how you feel around her, your love, these are important. not what she did while she not even knew you exist.
so common don't be crazy!

Don't ask, Don't tell.

If you still feel really curious and want to ask her ask yourself these questions:
1) What do expect to get out of these questions? relief? knowledge? information?
2) Are you prepared to hear her answers? even if it means that she was loose or has been with a really well hung guy?
3) If she had sex with a guy that she is still in contact with, are you ok with that?
4) If she has done lots more things in bed than you, are you going to think differently of her?

Basically, look before you leap. You could wreck a great relationship because of this question!

Don't ask...just know that you are the best or she wouldn't be with you now!

If you're curious out of a sense of entertainment, meaning it's interesting but basically doesn't matter to you, then I'd say sure, ask away. If you know that it would bother you if you found out that she slept with three times the number of guys, as girls that you've slept with, then instead I'd do a little self-examination to see why it would bug you. Any standard you're considering applying to her needs to apply just as strictly to you, if you want to avoid being hypocritical.

If you're just worried about STDs or whatever, then just ask her, and be honest with her in return. (Being coy about these things is silly when there are STDs like chlamydia that show no symptoms until more serious complications arise later on.)

Yes it is, honesty is a huge part of making a relationship successful. Just keep in mind that it's best to just know the littlest of details or not at all. But even I can't take my own advice.

All you may need to know are the outlines (and she told them)
I do believe you can ask her about some generalities (no details) but I also believe you've no right to insist on getting them if she doesn't want to tell you them. Everyone his entitled to his "private garden". So is she.

Her exes are entitled to privacy too. That's a question of fairness:
How would YOU feel if your exes started telling their stories about you (size, failures, shortcomings etc) to their boyfriends (who may be your acquaintances or friends)?

If she told you she might as well tell everything about you to her next boyfriend. Think about it.

Proceed very carefully if you have even the slightest inkling that you'll get jealous (which I think you already eluded to). I can speak from experience that there were a couple times I wish I hadn't known the answer. Her past is just that. She's with you now and it doesn't really matter - neither of you can change it. Good luck.

Does it matter? Her sexual history is irrelevant, just ask her to get tested (and reciprocate). As long as she's not disease-infested, why do you care how many people she has had sex with? And in the event that she does test positive, well, you'll have a reason to inquire.

Her past is her business, and if she feels like telling you about her ghosts of penis past, then so be it. otherwise, it is irrelevant to your relationship, and will otherwise give her the signal that you are very insecure if you ask

Experience ... there is no such thing, with the exception of learning your girlfriends cues and responding to them. The fact is, not all men/ladies like the same things, so experience and all the neat tricks that worked on John, may not work on Adam. The only thing that separates a good lay from a bad quickie, is the level of communication.. and not just open conversation.. the ability to read body cues, and quickly respond, or change actions according to your partners signal

Men should not bring this up..Let the woman bring it up 1st if it is even brought up!

This is one of those rare situations where ignorance really is bliss - best not to ask.

Be careful with this issue. If you weren't her first you have to accept that she does have a past, but at the same time she may have more experience than you can be comfortable with. Don't ask questions to which you do not want the answer. Personally I think you should realize its better to wonder than to know the details of her past since those may really bother you.

The answers never, ever help, and usually blow up relationships. Unless you're positively, drop-dead certain that you're ready for anything--and I mean brothers, sisters, cats, goats, and the city of Denver--just don't bother.

You don't need to know, you don't want to know.

don't bother it'll just get you upset and the past is the past