I went through my boyfriends internet history, there was some regular porn on it and quite a lot of gay porn. I was so shocked, I've spoken to him about it and at first he denied most of it, but I didn't believe him and later on he told me he was just curious and was just looking, he didn't say anything else, he keeps repeating that he loves me and he is sorry. (Just to clear things up, we are sexually active and its great for both of us)
What do I do :S what am I meant to think? Is he gay, bisexual? HELP!
I'd say to let the first thing go, and if it happens again, start getting concerned. I mean, every guy gets "curious", and if they deny it, they're lying. If you see new stuff on there again, start taking note of how he physically acts with other guys, if it's more than the normal "guy stuff" then maybe ask him how he feels about homosexuality, don't go accusing, just be comforting and understanding.
So I spoke to him again, and he is now saying he was interested and had gay feelings then but he doesn't anymore, he swears and he is fully attracted to me, But when given the chance to let me look at his history again, he says I can't, its his privacy What the hell then, so confusing, if he was bi would he tell me? Or maybe he is scared that ill break up with him. Arch so bloody confusing, I'm so freaked out :/ - 7 months ago
"(Just to clear things up, we are sexually active and its great for both of us)" Sounds like this is something that you've had to ask him to verify? I'd say he's definitely got the seed of doubt, at least, which is a dangerous thing. However, I don't think you should worry about it too much, it'll work itself out.
Though if you wanted to expedite the process with some entertaining human comedy, you could offer to have a threesome with him and another random dude and see how that plays out.
For now I think you can assume he is just curious as to what it looked like. As long as he doesn't want to try that stuff with another guy, things should be fine.
For now, I'd try to not bring it up. It's clearly making him uncomfortable and, whether he's gay or not, he won't appreciate it. However, that doesn't mean you should completely ignore it either. Try to watch for signals--but keep in mind that tons of guys have some of the "stereotypical" gay traits. It could honestly be curiosity. There are many people who label themselves as bi-curious--they're curious about their gender, possibly enough to try it out a few times, but, in terms of a relationship, would always choose a member of the opposite sex! Also, I think right now you have to start asking yourself how you'd feel if it turns out he is bisexual and still wants to be with you; it may amount to nothing, but it might help if it comes up...
He may be gay. But I tend to agree with brismith92 -- your boyfriend is most probably Bi (although he may still be in denial about that, not just to you, but to himself...). Down the road, he may choose to go one way or the other, or he may choose to go both ways. One thing is pretty sure -- he's not just your average heterosexual boyfriend type of guy. If you are uncomfortable with that (and sounds like you are...), probably better to deal with it now, rather than later. Oh, and if I were you, I'd be extra careful to be sure your boyfriend always wears a condom when he is having sex with you. Good luck!
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