I'm not talking bout waiting until sex for marriage. but it seems like people don't understand what sentimental value sex is supposed to have anymore. From what I always heard and thought, sex should be done wit somebody you greatly appreciate and love. And when you are ready for sex, it will be more meaningful. But it seems like now and days people are losing their virginity at the age of 14, 1 night stands, and prostitutes. All of this is just degrading the perspective of sex. is there anyone that thinks the same as I so I know I'm not alone on this situation
Update: Thanks for all of you taking this question seriously too.
A month ago
you are not alone! I also think the same thing! I think it depends on the culture you live in ... When I came to the US at the age of 18 I only knew of one kind of relationship... the BF/GF relationship. Here I learned of all the kinds of relationships ( I could name them but everyone here probably knows) you could have with a guy and I was so impressed to see teenagers - really young kids asking about BJ and all those kinds of sexual things... I never heard what a BJ is until I came here! I am not a prude, not religious and was not living in a hole... its just that here is the US seems to be very common... and people are very open minded... I have been exposed to so many cultures and this one is just so open and free... I like it don't get me wrong but I do agree that teenagers in the US should slow down a bit... there is no need to rush... and I am 24 now... I have learned a lot about relationships/ guys and stuff... and I did not need to be 14 0r 16 to start experimenting and learn... because even kids here who start at a such a young age, grow up and are still clueless about sex and relationships ...
Note: This is an opinion based on my experience so if you are an American and gonna tell me I am wrong, you'd better had explored other cultures before any counter argument...
Disagree strongly. I think the value of sex is increasing, which is why people are doing more thinking about it, and talking about it, and generally taking it seriously and trying to get it right.
What's deteriorating is the value of control over sex, the value of conformity in sex, and the value of secrecy and shame over sex. And good riddance to all that.
What makes you think the value is increasing as the number of 1 night stands increase, age keeps getting younger, and the number of prostitutes are rising from an economic recession? I really want to hear from someone that has a different veiw on this topic. - A month ago
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You have (deliberately?) missed my point, namely that the stupid little custom of telling people what kind of sex they need to have is breathing its dying breath, and we should cheerfully nail it's coffin shut.
As for your numbers, prove them; I don't believe you. - A month ago
Is there any way to get this section voted #1 question of the day/month/ all time?
I completely agree. I can only hope that it is more of a fad, and that kids these days won't start having sex purely because its looked down upon by their older friends to not have sex.
Maybe its all to rebel against the more pressing issue of waiting until marriage for sex.
The value of sex lies with its ability to allow us to continue our existence through child birth. Anything else is of much lesser value to us as a whole. Degradation and shame and such things are a mass mentality that will differ depending on where you're at and who you're with. Those 'values' have changed many times in the past, and will continue to change in the future. As far as people losing their virginity at a younger age, consider the fact most people not too far in the past died when they were 30 or so, if lucky. 14 would've been middle age to those people, and such things are passed down throughout generations before they're weeded out eventually.
Ok point taken, BUT back then, they actually needed sex so early to continue life. They knew at what age they should have sex cause their lives were much shorter. But NOW, with advanced medical care and doctors, we still continue to see teens start having sex near the ages of 14 or 15. Why? SOmetimes you hear teens braggin about at such an early age its like wtf has happened to our uprising genarations. Yea, I've lost my virginity at the age of 16, but I was in love and it was 1 of the best exp. - A month ago
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Experiences and most meaningful. I will proudly talk about who I lost it too cause she was a great deal of my life and I loved her so much. I still do unfortunately as our relationship ended 2 months ago. But teens now and days, some of them don't even remember who the persons name was. Why sabotage something meant for love? - A month ago
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As I said it takes time to weed out certain behaviors that are ingrained upon our being. That is why this sort of thing continues. The appendix used to be used to help digest raw food, since we found ways to cook food, and had no used for the appendix, it has become a vestigial organ. As is this such behavior, once there is no need for the behavior eventually it dies out. Whether or not sex is 'meant for love' is up for debate, as I pointed out, it is a mentality that you either have or don't - A month ago
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But just to be clear, I was only providing a differing viewpoint. I myself am not the kind of person to have sex just for the sake of it, or because it feels good. I prefer to share it with someone special myself. But that doesn't mean I think everyone should share the same opinion, and it doesn't mean those other people are 'wrong' I believe people should be able to believe what they want and act accordingly as long as no harm comes to anyone. oh and 'used' up there was supposed to be 'use' o.O - A month ago
What you will find if you expand your thought to other aspects of life, is that people value, or de-value things as they decide what importance those items have in their lives.
In terms of anything generational, I think you will find that the thought process of generations, and the more "unifying" views are far different from one to the other as well.
This really indicates a cultural take within each generation. And as time moves on, the generation we are part of is not going to believe in the same things as the generation that comes after us.
In fact, even though we are considered part of the same generation, one can make an argument that there is a dividing line in thought between your age group and mine.
When specifically addressing sex, the fact is that what you are talking about is a long standing view of many Americans, but the major difference is that the older generations didn't talk about it, and we do.
Actually, to correct that, the oldest living generation right now didn't talk about it at all, the next oldest make puns about it in the workplace, but never acted like anyone did those things, even though they did, the generation after that brought pornographic films to the forefront, inciting a major debate that spanned freedom of speech, freedom of press, and what would generally be tolerated in public. The following generation started incorporating parts of these themes into all media, and the generation after that has been the cause of why there is a need for sex experts to have public interface.
Who knows where it is headed, but I'm sure there is going to be more exposure and disclosure on the issues.
But in the end, all generations since the beginning have acted this way, the real difference is between what one generation is willing to voice when compared to another.
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