How to ask a guy friend to sleep with me?

I'm very sorry to hear of your loss. As to the subject of this thread, wow, I could see that getting very complicated very quickly. You've acknowledged that you miss the feeling of a trusted partner so I'm guessing you're feeling lonely. That would seem to be quite natural after losing a spouse. You also mentioned that you have a trusted guy friend. Now I would ask - and forgive me if this sounds tacky but - what is it you're looking for from this friend. By "sleep with me," are you horny and want sex or are you just looking for someone to hold/be close to you as you sleep? Are you looking to initiate a relationship with this man?

If it's just sex you're after, I think you need to be very up front with said man so he knows you're not looking for a relationship. Also, realize how this might look from his perspective. That he's a kind of "rebound" guy. It's difficult to put into words all the complications that could cause - but I'm sure you've already considered them. I think the best advice is to go slow, talk to him and be completely honest about your needs/expectations and see how he reacts. But be prepared for things to get strange. Wish I could help more. I wish you the absolute best and hope things go well!

Please let me know what happens; message me.

Also, I'm so sorry for your loss and it was rude of me to not acknowledge this.

Dan

Gently explain what you wrote above; any man would understand.

i wouldn't because then you would have a dependency on him and more things

Mlle., certainly not.

The simple way is to be honest and be open; but be a lady (which I am sure you are, from the way you write).

In other words, your let your actions define you. Men are known for the statements they make. It is for us to say "I love you", for instance. A woman is always known by the love she gives. (And this is true, whether it be to her friends, her husband, or her friends).

Walk up to your male friend, and give him a warm hug. Look him dead in the eyes and say "I miss being with a GOOD man... I want to trust you, can I do that?"

No, you won't sound like a jerk for expressing your feelings.
Just say I know this might come as a surprise to you but...
I've been thinking about you lately in an intimate way...
He'll probably respond by really?
And continue to say you know I've always wondered how you were in that department.
And then it'll lead on to you two making plans in the sometime future.
I'm sure he won't have a problem with this. Good luck!