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Think you should let him know you find him very sad (whilst being a little understanding since he's your man). Although most men have looked at porn in their lives its a very sad thing and a desperate act.

If you two have a sexual relationship, find out why he's unhappy with it that he needs to look at porn. If you don't have one and are willing to look at starting one (and you really, seriously trust him). Give him some pictures of you being sexy to replace this unhealthy porn dependency.

Don't be mad. Feel sorry for him.

Be happy that he's being honest, but also be true to your own feelings. If it really bothers you, ask him why he needs porn when he has you. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Porn is not "normal". It's a hobby that can turn into an addiction. If you don't like it, he has to respect that.

i am impressed you were able to find a middle ground. good job, my ex girl friend would just scream at me, and did... that's why she is an ex, she couldn't ever compromise

You both sound like a happy healthy couple. No one said there would be no speed bumps.

No fool men need porn because there lousy stupid girlfriends won't f*** them when they want sex or give them blowjobs so they have to f***ing beat off to some other asshole getting what they want!

What is it about this that bothers you so much. Masturbating is just something guys do to relax and seal with their overactive sexual urges. Especially when they are young. Its not cheating its nothing to be worried about. Ask yourself why it bothers you. Is it something you want to watch with him if not go with a policy of I don't see it its not there. Don't go looking for it he'd rather not talk about it because women are often unreasonable about this stuff. If he's less interested in sex than you are then there's a problem. I doubt that's the problem. He probably doesn't want to appear needy and begging you for a quciky or a blowjob, he'd probably like to save yours and his energy for something more romantic. If ur wanting a qucikee and your both at home or wherever let him know

Listen, as much as I love porn myself, I am very well it is an addiction. Once we start getting into seeing naked women, we want to see more. Sure, maybe not this instant but sooner or later we got to see other naked women. I guess you could say it is like mentally spreading your gene pool. I know it sounds sick, but I believe you want an honest answer. If you love your man very much, try becoming his sex slave, his role player friend, his everything. You might has to do more pics, maybe your own private porn, I don't know what you are into. What ever you do though, you got to keep one thing in the back of your head...What if he shows these pics to someone else? What if you break-up and he mass produces this for his kicks or to make a few bucks? All I ask is that you keep yourself safe.

I would ditch him, but that's because I value virignity till marriage. It depends on your moral standards. If it is morally wrong and you saw how he lied, and you plan to marry him one day, think about it... Otherwise, whatever...

Said it before and by the looks I'll say it again.

Masturbation (+porn) is A COMPLETELY DIFFERENT THING to sex.

The sooner that girls understand that, and that guys admit that to themselves and their partners, the better.

Sex, by it's very nature, is a 'communal' activity. To have sex you need 2 people, both in the mood. You need to think about the other person and what they are experiencing, are you doing this right or that right or whatever. Masturbation is a selfless act. Masturbation is ONLY about yourself, you control it, and you only have to 'think' about yourself. For males, we tend to look at porn for masturbation 'feeds'. Females tend to read (anything from romance novels to cosmo).

You can be in a very happy sexual relationship and still masturbate. Both I and my girlfriend masturbate, yet we still have sex about once every two days or so. And I believe we do it for the same reason, that sometimes it's good just to have an orgasm without having to worry about all the other stuff that accompanies sex.

Do you find a that good man you'd want to spend the rest of your life is hart to find?
Did you know that it's part of a woman's biology to find one man to support her & her children?

Did you know that it's part of a male's biology to mate with as many women as possible?
Now when you start to think about how hard it is for a man to commit to one woman, and ignore that natural urge, do you start to see how he might be showing he loves you by not sleeping with other women instead?

Here's the thing with the porn issue:
Not only is it a tricky topic to talk about if you were to make it sound like a bad thing to watch, but it can also be utterly embarrasing.
Think about how many people talk about what porn they watched in their daily conversation..NONE! It's taboo! And it all relates to the one thing that brings man and women togeather!..

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PORN IS THE ANSWER TO MANY SEXUAL FANTASIES!

Men masturbate. Women masturbate. Men watch porn. Women watch porn
We all want sex, and we all have our own fantasies in the bedroom.
If you're willing, and comfortable taking the next step to connect with your loved one, the next time you're in bed, you should open up to him by asking him to watch porn with you.
There are some types of porn that are crazier than others, but there is most likely a type for anyone.Safest ones for both men and women to watch would be lesbien porn, or just watching an attractive guy and girl do it!

Watching others might make you, yourself aroused, and if you show your man you're enjoying it, maybe you can get complete some of those dirty acts/fantasies in bed that night. I assure you, this doesn't work for everybody, but the trick is to suggest a type of porn to look up and watch together..by asking to watch his porn, it's like you're invading his privacy.

The more comfortable, and less shocked you both became by discussing your personal fantasies out of the bedroom, the more likely you will find a way to complete them, and the more of a catch you will each become!

Feel free to message any questions related to sex, or pornography.


Best of luck,

Diamond Smith

As a guy, what I can say is just talk it out with him. It really depends on you. If you think the vulgarity of it is really bad, then make him stop.

The only feasible reason (okay, maybe not the only, but one of the reasons) I see for him is he might not be getting (or not be happy) with his present sex life. I don't mean to offend you, but that's just one of the reasons I see.

So, in my opinion, I think you should just talk it out with him.

Lying? That's a show-stopper.

Get away from him as fast as you can. You'll save yourself a lot of hurt.

Ted

maybe your just not doing it for him that sux my sex life is so good

no your lucky he has that that way things don't get old in your sex life

WHY are girls such control freaks about porn and masturbation?
No, you shouldn't be mad.

Don't be mad at him for looking at porn, it's very common even for guys in a relationship with active sex lives.

What I would be mad about is that he's dumb enough to pay for porn when it is so easy to get for free.

Should not be a big deal. Hell porn is healthy, looking and jerking right now to some, should not be a big deal most guys do it.

he says he will stop looking at it, they all say that ! don't be surprised if you find him looking at it again..i think they just like looking at different girls. your pictures will get old sometime.

It's normal for guys to watch porn, whether they are in a relationship or not. I lived with my ex boyfriend for awhile and he would watch porn if I didn't feel like having sex, or if I wasn't around. I think you should let your boyfriend watch porn so he doesn't have to hide it from you. Just know its normal and be confident, know why he's with you. the girls in the porno don't matter.

Men like porn. Women like porn. If they don't then they haven't found the right porn and haven't learned much about their sexuality yet. Or maybe they don't because they are trapped in that puritanical self-inflicted hell that plagues our society.

It sounds like he is being open and honest which is great. Return the favor and be just as open and honest. Communicate. Find out though why and if you really don't like porn or don't like him enjoying porn. There's a porn for everyone, especially these days with the internet. Let yourself be open to it and really give it a chance. Try enjoying it WITH him and talk about it. It can be a great tool for empowering and awakening people sexually, plus it makes for some really good mood enhancement.

no no no get into it with him as in watch it with him even masturbate with him once and see how he likes it be open to things like that it could make your relationship interesting

Ok it's good he understands and that you found a reasonable compromise but in my opinion-so what if he looks at porn? It doesn't mean he loves you less or is any less attracted to you. He also cannot nor never will touch these girls.

i don't see why girls care. honestly I would say get over it. men watch porn. he's probably not gonna stop, just hide the fact that he does it. unless the porn is affecting your relationship (i.e. he is comparing you to girls in porn, watches it excessively, wants to try out some crazy/degrading stuff he saw in the porn) its not a big deal. it doesn't mean he's not attracted to you just because he watches it, its not a big deal

I don't find it acceptable, but I guess it depends on there own moral standards. I wouldn't allow it and probably would do them the favor of leaving if they continued watching it, because I wouldn't want to force them to stop. but you should let him know you don't like it and see if he respects you enough or likes you enough to stop watching it.

i'd pull him by the ear. I won't tolerate it. I'll tell it to his face. I would he rathe rlook at me and not some random girl on the net. that's insulting to me. besides I'd take it as 'oh I'm not hot enough for you?yeah I wouldn't want that. don't 'get mad, just takl to him calmly and say 'no it's not ok'

It's normal for guys and girls to masturbate. If he's masturbating to porn, then it shouldn't be a big deal. Look at it this way, he's dealing with his own sexual needs. It's much healthier to masturbate to porn than to having you get him off several times a day or to going to other girls for meaningless sex. Plus, sometimes it's just nice to have some "fun time" on your own.

If you have issues with porn, for example because of exploitation of women, or still feel uncomfortable with the idea of him using it to masturbate, then talk it out with him. Discuss, don't confront.