Is It Ok To Sleep With Other Girls?

I don't think that you understand that there is a difference between guys and girls. now-a-days people prasie guys for losing their virginity but look down on girls who do it at a young age. most likely your girlfriend was has this mentality, and that makes it hard for her to just decide to do it one random day. she is not going to do it with a guy who she thinks will eventually leave her or only wants her for sex, because to her sex isn't a "need" its an important new experience in her life and you don't sound like you are going to make it special for her. to you sex is just a necessity, like eating and drinking, not a big deal, she probably noticed that.

Dude, C'mon. Asking her for an open relationship is like breaking up with her, it just makes you look more like an ass hole. Talk to her. Either you two will find a common ground or figure out that the relationship isn't going to work. One night stands and cheating, don't let that kind of thing ruin something that could be special. Find out exactly when the time is right for her, let her know you care. Don't make it all about you. Communication is the real key.

please break up with her...if that's how you feel

If the girl isn't important enough for you to wait for her then you should probably end the relationship. I personally would hate an open relationship. I wouldn't want to share my guy I would want him to myself, but if she doesn't want to have sex then deal with it or move on.

if you guys don't agree on the same thing, break up with her.. or stop being a selfish dich head!

you are one of the biggest d***s I have ever seen on this site. if you are seriously planning to cheat on your girlfriend because you don't know how to properly whack yourself off, then you don't deserve your girlfriend. and don't try to say, "well, I have a penis and I need to get off" because it's called you have 2 hands for that. even considering cheating on her shows that you don't love her and maybe you two shouldn't be together. you are honestly a scum bag.

what if the roles were reversed? would you find it acceptable if she decided to screw other people? think about it you douchebag.

Typical guy...all they want is sex. Their walking penis's...
they use girls to get their satisfaction

Douche bag.
Really?
Asking whether or not it would be OK to have sex with other girls while in a monogamous because of your penis? Put all these answers together and everyone is right, she doesn't deserve to be cheated on just because of her beliefs, it's called jacking off, and where the hell did you learn your views on relationships? Because apparently you forgot to learn about respect for other people's views and beliefs. You are probably the biggest a-hole I've ever seen on this site, and the ironic part is you claim to not to be. Hahahahahaa jokes on you, douche.

Wait for her. It will be worth it :) Imagine if she wanted to have sex with another guy.

To the poster of this:

Dude, seriously you need to stop commenting below because you sound like such a douche bag.

Dammit, why do you guys always think with the d***?

Do you love her, don't you? Have you been very considerate with her? Have you hugged her and/or kissed her? And most important: Can you put her in first place instead of your needs? I know that as humans, we have needs, but that is not reason to be with another in order to satisfy them.

When she said that she wants to wait for the right time, she meant that she want her first time very, but very special. She doesn't want to be rushed with it, you must not pushed her with it, and don't take her to a common place to make love.

You have to show her that you really care for her, that she is not only to satisfy only your needs (that can be another reason about why she is waiting). And while she decides, try to choose and prepare the perfect atmosphere, the perfect time, the perfect place and the perfect situation in order to make it. As a guy, you have to plan that because you love her so you also want it to be very special, don't you?

I find it horrible that you think sex is not "anything special." I realize that many people of my generation are of this notion that "sex is no big deal." Sex is a big deal, with big implications, and big consequences if you are not careful. Casual sex with multiple partners is probably one of the biggest reasons for HIV being borderline epidemic and is most definitely the biggest reason for illegitimate children being born unto broken families. Beyond that, at least for most women, it is a huge emotional commitment.

As for sex being a need. It isn't. You... can... live... without... sex. I don't care if you jack off to porn or buy a flesh-light or whatever it is that you do to get your jollies off, but make sure you remain faithful. As others have said, if this isn't possible, the ONLY right thing for you to do is to let her go. If you can't get over yourself, she definitely deserves some one better.

If you really did love her you would put your needs aside and wait for her.

don't be a tool, you can please your self.

If you love her enough, you can wait. It may not seem like it, but I highly doubt any deadly consequences if you don't have sex anytime soon. And you definitely shouldn't sleep with other girls. If it's really this difficult for you the question should be, should I stay with her and wait or break up with her.

At least she's not waiting until marriage. You've made it through 6 months, and I'm sure you won't have to wait much longer.

if she's not meeting your needs and you can't control yourself, then you need to end the relationship. not sneak around and be unfaithful.

"If I have a one night stand,how would it affect her,especially if she doesn't even know about it?(and don't even say STDS)cause I would never give a partner an STD"---You do know you can get STDs from people. It doesn't just go one way.

"I'm not trying to come off as selfish or as an a-hole,but any guy can tell you we have needs,and that whole waiting thing gets old."---Yes you are unfortunately. I've read all your responses and you definitely are. Yes, all guys have needs but we learn to take care of them ourselves. Being able to keep it under control and not have sex whenever we felt like it no matter if we are in a relationship or not is what separates us from being animals. Dogs on the other hand can't control it and that's why you see them humping someone's leg.

If you really loved this girl then you would respect her wishes to wait instead of trying to do something like this behind her back just so you can be relieved one time. You're just being selfish and only thinking of yourself. You don't deserve her and she doesn't deserve to be stuck with someone like you

Rolls around... The first time is critical! to ask for an open relationship will be selfish. No offense but to even think of cheating means you don't care. You knew what you were getting into when she told you she was a virgin, and you aren't. Females need to pace themselves and all you need to do is prove you won't betray her despite asking and thinking of a secret hook up is plain wrong. Don't build a relationship on lies and secrets.

Hey, everything is ok as long as both of you are ok with it. If you want an open relationship, tell her. Then if she wants to break up, she can do that.

lmfao yo this is mad ignorant..if you love her..then wait...if you really need sex that much then break up with her.i mean damn..im f***ing 16 and I can even see tht

if she is a virgin who doesn't want to have sex with you, and you have the uncontrollable need for sex, you should just dump her.

Don't dump her because she is not giving you what you want, dump her because, frankly, she deserves better than some jerk off who can't control himself. Obviously she has made a wise decision in not sleeping with you, since you are easily one of the saddest excuses for a man (and in your case I use the term man loosely, since you behavior is more simian in nature) that I have ever been unfortunate enough to witness.

Either this girl deserves far better than you, or you are a troll looking to start a flame war...


either way, you are a douche.

Wow your a ****ing idiot. No wonder some girls don't trust guys

When she said she was holding out, and you said you weren't, the conversation usually leads naturally into whether you're going to get sex outside the relationship, and if so, how.

If she said she was holding out, and you said nothing, then you were dishonest, with either her, or yourself. You now have to go back and have the conversation that you really should have had at the beginning of the relationship. It'll be uncomfortable, and the relationship might blow up--or not--but if you love this girl, you owe it to her to put this relationship on an honest footing.

You don't need sex, you want sex. There's a difference.
You just need to learn self control. I have chosen to be Abstinent for the past year, and so far I'm still alive. So I'm sure you don't ''need'' it.
If you are considering sleeping with other women, you obviously don't love this girl. My advice would be: Keep it in your pants and grow closer emotionally. Because only then will you be ready for sex.
If you can't do that , than hopefully this girl doesn't loose something so special, to someone who can't tell the difference between love and the ''needs'' of his Penis.

You do not NEED sex. No one NEEDS sex. "any guy can tell you we have needs." I'm a guy, and I say that we all have WANTS, and you're making excuses. So my first suggestion is that you be honest with us, and honest with yourself, and say "I WANT sex."

My second suggestion is that you decide which is more important to you: sex, or this girlfriend. If sex is more important, break up with her and go get laid. If the girlfriend is more important, learn to distinguish between WANTS and NEEDS.

dumb question is dumb

"I'm not trying to come off as selfish or as an a hole," You are failing miserably. Sex is not a need it is a want. You should do this woman a favor and just leave her before she really gets hurt.

If you are tired of waiting, at least giver her enough respect to break up with her before you have sex with someone else. She doesn't deserve to be cheated on because she is abstaining from sex. Plus it is not a need, it is what you want. The Pope doesn't have sex, does he? Must not be a necessity. Your life doesn't depend on it.

Anyway, I think you sound like a douche already, but when you made the comment "Or she would put aside her mentality of "waiting" and have sex with me" you sound like a super douche. She shouldn't have to compromise her morals for you.

yea... any guy? really? please don't condemn the entire gender here. you are a sex addict, and a douche.
if it means that much to you... go on the interwebs and take care of yourself. because frankly, if sex is so important to you, you will be doing that anyway because you will not be able to have a deep meaningful relationship.

no man if she is a good girl and you love her don't sleep with other girls that will mess things up between you guys I done that she was a virgin and I was not she told me to go have sex then we only lasted 2 months after that and I loved her and miss her now keep to jacking off and a lot of 4 play she will come around man

The fact that you're seriously considering having an affair behind her back just makes me glad she was smart enough to not give up her virginity to you during these six months.

Now go die in a fire.