NO Orgasm .. HELP! ( my 1st time not so good)

the first time is always nerve wrecking. if it didn't happen the first time, it might happen the second :]

open talk with him and that is the only solution

Most women can't have orgasms from intercourse by itself. You can try positions where you or he can finger you while having intercourse at the same time.

Vaginal orgasm takes time, experience. But the research is fun!
When I first slept with my girlfriends, we rarely came together.
In time we almost always had simultaneous orgasms.

You've got the right attitude!

Ted

You don't need to let him know. Just next time your intimate, gently say to him "this time let me drive" and kiss him. Then, take control of the lovemaking so you can get him where you like him. Be on top, you get the most control from there and go slow but finding your spots.

If you want to teach him directly to find you, at another time, just ask if he minds if you give him some directions to see if you can find another sweet spot (course you know its finding if for the first time).

React massively when he gets a good motion going, this will positively reinforce the position in his mind and he will try it again often.

My advice to you is never say someone got it wrong during sex. Just each time, give more direction and take more control without pressuring him to make changes.

This will tend to make you man a more confident lover and more much more f**kable.

Welcome to the real world. a finger constantly touching the clitoris is completely different than a penis consuming your vagina. It's going to take time and patience to learn the difference.

Explore. Try different speeds and positions. Think of it as homework! Find a position you like (also, if he's smaller, having your legs over his shoulders (like Flo Rida once sang) can help with penetration. And never underestimate the power of foreplay. Take your time. Make sure your body is prepped and ready to go.

It takes time, and often the block is mental. Completely relax, and don't think about how long it's taking... it will only make things worse. But the biggest thing is to NEVER fake an orgasm! Be honest and upfront with him, and I'm sure he'll be more than willing to work on it with you. It's unfortunate, but men orgasm easier than women do.

OK so ya Gotta be turned on (four play helps) and relaxed. take it slow at first. and to help him don't go play with his penis until you are ready to have sex. (he'll last longer). also like someone else said research definitely helps. Cosmopolitan.com (the magazine) is a great place to start. and don't get discouraged it'll take time and practice. But the more into it you both are the better it will be.

"...god but not great!" ? Is the reason it was not great really because of the lack of orgasm that you maybe expected? Great sex is great sex. It has nothing to do with the orgasm. It's not the end, it's the journey that is fun. Try focusing on just the fun sex. In your case since it was your first, maybe you were physically stressed and mentally anxious about it being the first. This can really affect your experience. Talk about it. Always talk about it honestly and maturely. If you are interested then try it again but talk it through first and ask him to work WITH you on reaching an orgasm. As you are doing it, verbally guide him. If orgasm through straight old fashioned intercourse is really that important then keep at it and both of you will get "better" at it. It is very common for women to not experience a real or full orgasm from straight penis-->vaginal sex. Add some fingers (his or your own). Add some dirty talk. Women really get off on talking during sex (as long as it's not cheesy or stupid macho stuff). It's no big deal really. This is so common. This could be a perfect opportunity to ask him to go down on you to "finish" you off. Hopefully he enjoys or doesn't mind giving you oral.

I highly recommend that you both just try whatever turns you both on from moment to moment and enjoy the ride. Have fun. The reason people have "better" orgasms with other people compared to what anyone can give themselves (masturbating) is NOT because the orgasm itself is any better but because the ride getting there is more interesting with another person.

Nothing odd about what you had happen. Orgasm's through just penis in the vagina is difficult for many women unless some other stimulation is going on at the same time. Next time tell him to rub your clit while he is inside you or you yourself rub it. When he fingers you he can get to your G spot where in many positions the penis doesn't make it.

I would not say anything yet. Most people do not have great sex their first time. And even then, most women do not have an orgasm with penetration alone. I would give it some time, get to know each other in the carnal sense. It can take some time to become comfortable with each other when you begin to have sex with someone.

After a bit, if it does not get better for you, then you can broach the subject. Be careful though, as it can be touchy. Instead of telling him he is doing wrong, give him ideas for new things to try that you think the both of you would enjoy, whether it be toys, a new position, role playing, etc. He will see it as experimenting, and you won't come off as unsatisfied, because that would only hurt his feelings, and also make him self conscious.

Well since you were a virgin, I wouldn't expect to orgasm the first couple of times. Everything feels new and sometimes painful so chances are that you will not orgasm. Work with your Boyfriend to find positions, speeds, techniques that work for the both of you and enjoy the ride! Orgasms will come, be patient!