First Time

Never, ever be embarrassed to talk about sex. Ever! One of the best things you can do in a relationship is be completely open about sex. It is freeing and it is actually bonding (if it isn't criticism). I am in the best relationship of my life and one of the reasons is we can talk about anything. Especially sex. That means we talk about fantasies and desires and fears and past experiences. Not everyone is comfortable giving all the details (and we don't). But don't you want to know stories of his childhood? Or who broke his heart? Or who his first crush was? So why is sex off limits? Sex has probably affected him in more ways then some of the stories he tells you about his life. It's a very intimate part of both people and a great bonding tool.

As for a guy penetrating you, I'm not sure if you mean does a guy immediately come the first time he has sex period or the first time he has sex with you. And no, not all guys come immediately for either. But some do for both. For the same reason. They are very excited and nervous. So if a guy comes immediately, it doesn't mean he is a virgin. I've known a guy who had slept with like 20 women in his life and then didn't have sex for a couple years and then the first time he was in one girl came immediately. Everyone's different.

"I'm too embarrassed to ask him."

Then it may be a good idea to wait with sex until you feel more at ease talking about it.

It depends sex for the first time is so exciting that guys tend to get aroused to the point of cumming very quickly. For some reason my first time I took forever so that's not always true. I had this one girlfriend who was a virgin say what's the big deal it only lasts like five seconds. I was like no that's not true. I think that in really good sex the majority of the time is spent doing something other than just penetrating that's what making love is about cherishing each others bodies to the fullest

false! they don't climax at first, some males can't last a min but on the first time were scared of our penis getting bled on.

Climaxing immediately will depend on the guy. That didn't happen my first time, but it's certainly possible.

No, it's not an invasion of privacy. He is your boyfriend. You two are supposed to communicate. Always ask your sexual partner about their past sexual history, it can help keep you safe.

That was definitely not true for me, but I know its like that for a lot of guys. I actually couldn't even climax my first time! and it took forever my second time. Also, definitely ask him if he's a virgin. You're his girlfriend, of course you deserve to know!

It wouldn't be an invasion of privacy to ask him..How would you know otherwise?

I pretty much came in 10 seconds my first time..Managed 30 seconds my second time haha..I figured a few things out after that :)

It's not in any way an invasion of privacy! It's your body and you are the only one who is going to protect it. If you two are going to be intimate then you need to have the talk, for both of your and his safety and happiness. Don't be shy to ask once it is out of the way both of you will feel better!

Good luck.

if you plan on being intimate and having sex with him then that's a question you need to ask for your own safety..