Neighbor teen keeps popping up with..

All I know is... I really wish I had a neighbor like that.

JUST KIDDING!

Clearly, the young mademoiselle knows that she has some lemons to sell at the stand, and she is hoping your husband gets thirsty. She also doesn't seem to understand territoriality very well (or the fact that she might be inviting a visit from an angry Tigress).

Perhaps you should have a talk with the young lady's Mother... then again, the younger girls tend to flaunt just about everything God gave them, ready to sell the farm at auction and all that.

Me? I grew up in the 'Ole South, with this kinda thing would have gotten you one of two things: Pregnant or run out of the County; the Lady picks.

She's 17, just *this* far from being grown. You'd be well within your rights to have a woman-to-woman talk with her.

BUT, she's clearly not yet mature in how to handle her sexuality, so I wonder how well she would take criticism of how she expresses it. Tread lightly.

As much as you'd like to give her a piece of her mind, you have to be the grownup here. Besides, given how she acts, how she dresses, just how firm a hold do her parents have on her anyway?

P.S.; Even though you sense a sexual threat from her, and even though you sense it accurately, this girl can never get wind of this. Otherwise, in this stupid little contest she's engaged you in, she's won.

I remember when I was 32-33, our neighbor's daughters were always in their garden in bikini, when weather and/or their schoolwork didn't send them inside. I remember they had a birthday party for a 16th anniversary. Yes, I saw them, of course, and we talked. No sweat, no problem, no desire: to me they were just kids. My wife knew it . It never was a problem between us.

Buy a gun? Haha, no but on a serious note...


I wouldn't talk to her mom directly about it, I would say you use subtlety with the girl, or having your husband make himself less appealing to her. Having you talk to the girl, or going and kissing your husband may be bad. If you go kiss him in front of her a bunch, who knows, she could get ridiculously jealous, and quite possibly try a hell of a lot harder to get his attention. Who knows, possibly take even more clothing off?

Have your husband be very frank with her, have him act somewhat reserved. If he makes any movements, or says a wrong word, she could very well construe it to be him coming on to her. Which is obviously not the desired result... The idea of manure is a good idea actually, unless she spent half her recent life on a farm, there is really little chance in hell that she won't get turned off a little from it. The more he gets on himself could be the better.


Have you talked to your husband about it? What types of things does he say?

Idk, a suggestion could be, that if you tell him every-time she comes over youl do something for him (could be sexual or not, that's completely your call) then at one point I wouldn't be surprised if he even payed attention to her. Sure, he may be glad she comes over, but that's not because he would get to see her, its because he may get something in return (Monday night football with the guys and no kids to interrupt maybe? I don't know what he likes...)


Thats about all I got for now, other than the obvious, don't be upfront and rude with the girl. I don't think you would, you seem to have common sense to me. Hah

try to talk wt her and ask her the problem wt she was facing

I think you're extremely insecure.

I don't think talking to her mom is going to help, especially at that age. At that young an age to be flirting with much older guys and showing off her body, it sounds like a classic case of child molestation to me. I'm a Criminal Justice major btw and if a girl has that behavior it usually means she has something going on at home in the present or in the past.

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If she feels at ease in her bikini, why should she wear more? Because you're prudish or jealous?
Even if your husbands gets a boner from it he'll not take her serious anyway.

I don't think you are over reacting. It is your job to be protective of your spouse, just balance your concern with respecting your husbands feelings. You don't want to make him feel like you don't trust him.

I have a feeling talking to her parents won't do much since they don't seem to care that she is laying out half naked by the road anyway. I think you would have better luck getting your husband to try to turn her off: refer to her as a kid, start spreading manure on the lawn right by her, wearing headphones and ignoring her, or just pack up and leave when she comes out.

She's fresh meat. Keep an eye on her. 17 year olds can be quite irrational. Your husband obviously shys away from any inappropriate contact with her. The girl may have a crush, which could lead to jealousy, which could lead to lies. I think it's great that you're protective enough over your husband to care about this. Definitely go to her parents and explain the situation. Girls will lie if they don't get their way, and it could ultimately harm your husband.

no I think you are being protective of your husband and that shows you love him. the girl may not realize what she is doing is wrong. either way you need to talk to someone about it so yes I would say talk to her parents as it's not only inappropriate for your husband but also for your children as well but don't resort to violence as it can get you into a lot of trouble.

by almost nothing do you mean a short skirt or shorts and a shirt with a little midriff, or like a bikini?

I can understand why you'd be pi*sed off,i don't think you are over reacting for feeling like this...but...i have to say,how does your husband feel about this?
Doesn't he just see her as a silly child trying to get attention? Do you trust him and his judgment?
If so,you should try and use that as reassurance because really, the faith in him that he's not going to react to it should make it less of an issue for.

If she is coming over trying to sell you stuff,your husband should behave as though she is a mild annoyance for doing that,without drawing attention to the fact she is dressed in a revealing way or anything else, and she will grow bored of it soon enough.

Remember if its attention she is after, even bad attention is attention so don't let on to how annoyed you are or react.

I don't know, remember your man looks at her and sees a child,well,pretty much,and her behavior isn't attractive...she is a young girl with poor self esteem looking for attention to make herself feel better/validate herself...thats actually quite sad

There's always gonna be some half naked chick walking down the block in front of your husband. There will be other women in his life who tries to attract him. If has respect for you, and loves you. You should trust him enough to know that he will not give into temptation.

i think you should talk to your husband about it first. see if its just you being jealous, which is normal, or if he has noticed it too. her mother might get offended if you go up to her telling her her daughter is a slut that's hitting on your husband.

if you re right and she is hitting on him, tell him to break it off with her. if she doesn't quit. then go talk to her mother. have it as a last result.

I remember being a girl that age and I was dying to get noticed by any man. I wore skimpy outfits that made me look hideous and I never had the body for those kind of clothes. I think that was part of the problem.

In my freshman year of college, I worked really hard to seduce a married classmate. He worked for a bank in town and was picking up some additional classes. We flirted a lot, and I really got into it. He had no idea how much I had invested in my fantasy-relationship with him.

He finally was very blunt about not taking the bait I had offered. It hurt my feelings, but he got the message across. I backed way off and never approached him again. It wasn't the only time I tried to catch the attention of a married man, there were others, but this guy did the best job of shutting me down - cold, he stopped me in my tracks.

I know you and your husband are just fine, this isn't that type of issue. But, on the other hand, this isn't something the type of behavior you want your kids to witness either. So, I would talk to your husband about making it abundantly obvious that he isn't interested in the girl and he doesn't appreciate her display in front of his children. In this, situation your husband holds all the cards.

I don't blame you for being annoyed, but maybe you shouldn't be so concerned. I hope that you feel like you can trust your husband. If you do trust him, then try to laugh at the situation.

Talking to her mother could blow up. If you really want to say something, maybe invite her mother over a coffee to welcome her to the neighborhood. During the conversation ("so tell me about your family"), I'm pretty sure you'll get an opportunity to make a sarcastic remark about the girl's clothing and tanning habits ("well, the men of the neighborhood sure get a treat seeing your daughter out on the lawn all the time..." or "I was concerned for your daughter when my husband was barbequing. She was so close there could have been an accident with an ember!"). But don't try to have a "talk" about it. Her mother is likely to be in denial, get offended, and start a neighborhood war.

I teach undergraduates who are only a little older than your neighbor's daughter. They can wear some pretty crazy stuff and not even have any idea how people might respond. Maybe this girl isn't doing it deliberately, but is just clueless!

That would p*ss me off, I think you should talk to her mom. And next time she comes to the door you should answer it.
haha and next time she's out there and your husbands in the front yard go and kiss and hug all over him.

Probably not the best advice I suppose since I'm only 17 myself but I hate teenage girls and the way they act so that would severely tick me off if I was in your position!