Guys: is losing your virginity a big deal to you?

Some of us guys are moderate. It was a big decision when I did decide to lose it, and had been something that my long term girlfriend and I discussed in advance. I'm not saying we planned the event ("okay, at 7:15 pm this Saturday, we're doing it"), but it had been discussed about whether or not that was something we were willing to go towards. When it finally happened, it was a special moment for the two of us.

But neither of us were just trying to get it over with, nor did we feel afterward that we'd somehow failed by not waiting until marriage.

Every guy is different and they are swayed by their upbringing, social circle, media/society, and many other factors. The important thing is to figure out how you feel about it and follow through. And as time goes on, your views may change so adjust accordingly. Find a guy who feels the same as you and is respectful of your desires/wishes.

I finally went to a hooker in Frankfurt, Germany and lost it at the age of 20 just to be done with it. Back then $20 was a big deal. Bigger than loosing my virginity was. I didn't put that much of a value on it at the time but I had another 4 years left in the service and at that place and that time the chances of finding a girlfriend were less than nill.

I've never viewed it as sacred, rather a stepping stone towards the learning process. We'd all like to think we're pro's but for me I was really scared. I was scared to look like a noob not knowing how to do things well, and especially concerned for her because I wasn't ready to get anyone pregnant so I insisted we use protection many times.

For me while the act was special in my heart, the actual action was a comedy act as we were both laughing at doing stupid things. The pleasure itself was terrible but we had fun learning as we bounced between trying to be serious and in the mood vs cracking up at seeing each other perform ridiculous acts. Like my girlfriend at the time was really silent like a ninja our first time. She was expressionless and I asked if she was meditating or asleep. So she experiments with making sounds and it was too loud to the point I started to laugh.

Once we got our first session over with, the following sessions were a helluva lot better. We learned to relax and be more okay with ourselves and not be so afraid of goofing up and go with the flow of things.

I'm 21, almost 22, I had one chance to lose it but I was nervous and was not extremely aroused. Yeah it is kinda a big deal because of what society and the media does to us guys.

It's like a right of passage.

The American manly man archetype is something that's glorified by what we see on TV. It's imprinted into our young minds that that's something we should all strive for, or we fail, even if that means breaking a few hearts on the way. It's as if virginity is an obstacle.

Perfect example: Virgin friend of mine joins the marines. They find out, they don't stop giving him sh*t for it.

It's a big deal to me. I'm probably not waiting until marriage because I'm not too religious and I get horny as sh*t sometimes, but I am saving it for someone I love.

yeah losing your virginity young is like becoming a man when I was in school. its all soceity and their views

To some of us, yes it can be.

For me. it is a big deal.

Im 20 and still am a virgin. Don't get me wrong, I have had my chances, but just the way I was raised, Id rather not risk anything till I am with the girl I know I am going to marry. Not so much waiting till wedding day but if I can feel deep in my heart "This is the one".

So to me, my first time Id rather it be a special and memorable.

I was 18 when I lost it to a girl that dumped me 5 months later...Oh Well I just regret not having enough practice for Ms.Right (hope not taken the wrong way LoL)...but guys just want to get it out the way as soon as physically possible...very little regret if do with the wrong person.

When I turned 19 I was still a virgin and I felt like I was behind and was really depressed about it, so I lost it to a girl I had been dating for a week. We dated for 3 months after that. No regrets here, I was really happy I got rid of it! It was just something I wanted to experience because it seemed like everyone else already had.

Personally I don't think mine was special at all but it just depends on how that person views it. If the girl or guy considers it something very important, then its very important. If the girl doesn't care about it and is in a hurry to lose it then there is no sense in treating it like something that was sacred if you take it (long story dealing with one of my exes).
What is weird though is that the only ex I talk to is the one I lost mine too, but she is pretty damn cool.

sacred cause I'm waiting till I'm married

I don't think its sacred, but definitely want to share it with someone I love and not "loose" it as everyone seem to put it.

what are you talking about?
i think girls are the ones who place more value on their virginity and are usually the ones who try and save it for the right person.
guys usually are eager beavers when it comes to losing it.