What do guys think about girls saving their virginity?

A buddy of mine in college told me about his first time. He hooked up with some girl at a party for his first time. They didn't have a committed relationship and he left feeling like sex wasn't all that impressive and hollow.

Personally, my wife and I both waited until we were married and it was as fulfilling as I expected, perhaps more so. It is so nice to be together and know we aren't being compared to any past partners.

So definitely save it for a committed, trusting, loving relationship, even if you don't wait for marriage.

we think you want to give it to your husband

My point of view better you keep it until you get married
I like my girl to be virgin

It's definitely admirable and I respect it, but if you're saving it for marriage then one thing you need to understand is that a marriage CAN fail no matter how hard you try and how much effort you put into it, just because of how time can change people. There have been many cases where the loving, kind husband changed over the years into the abusive druggie, and other such scenarios.

My opinion is this: Save yourself for someone you love, for someone special, for what you *think* is that someone, but don't wait for a ring on the finger. As long as you don't treat sex like a recreational activity or like an itch that you have to get scratched, you won't have any regrets, whether things work out with the person you're with or not.

My vote: it's not good or bad. It's your personal choice, and it's something for any man to decide. Do what works best for you, so long as that's not somehow hurting anybody else.

As general advice, though, it's usually a bad idea to give it up to a guy who's a total douche bag and doesn't respect you. If you want to play it safe, err on the side of not doing that.

its great, but I prefer the girl I am dating to save stamps or coins.. lol

I'm not telling you or anybody to mess around and I've a very good reason for it. It's called "the sex degrees of separation": link

Lloyds has a site where you can calculate it. You'll be astonished if you try: link

It depends on your age: at 16 it's normal to save your virginity for the guy you 'll make your life with.

At a certain age (up to you to determine when) you'll feel it 100% natural to go further.

Once youv'e met that special guy, by all means, take a 'test period' before marrying, to know him as good in bed as everywhere else.

Who would buy a car without driving it ? Marrying is a deeper engagement than buying a Ford or a Chevy!

I haven't met or even heard of anyone that is a virgin besides myself, so it feels like its all just a myth. :\

I think saving your virginity is a ridiculous concept. If you find a guy you like and he likes you and the mood is right go ahead and lose your virginity. However, don't go and find some guy to f*** just for the sake of losing your virginity. Keeping your virginity too long bars you from valuable skills in the bedroom as well as the experience of having a physical relationship with the opposite gender.

it depends on y ur saving ur virginity. if ya want to loose it with some one your sure you love then its cool, if ya wana wait til ur married, I wouldn't marry someone I didn't have sex with before got to have a test drive don't ya? but no don't just give it up, give it to someone special

I've _never_ known a woman who wished that she had sex earlier, or that she'd had more sexual partners.

In general, I'd be impressed with a woman (or man) who wanted to wait for sex. There are lots of what I think are very good reasons to wait. But perhaps most importantly, I've learned one of the best ways to get happiness and satisfaction in life is _not_ to give into your every feeling and desire, but to learn to _master_ your feelings and desires.

I don't mean to sound like a monk or a prude. But I do mean that no one accomplishes anything worthwhile or lasting without self-discipline. Going to college (or learning a new skill, or exercising, or using a budget to control spending...) can be difficult, demanding and boring. But we know that if we master those feelings and work through 'em, there's a reward at the end.

There's no reason sex is any different from these examples. In fact, studies show that men who are selective about their sexual partners have happier relationships and marriages. Why? Because they've learned to master their sex drive and to evaluate a woman on *all* of her qualities.

We should all try to be in touch with our feelings. But that doesn't mean we should _act_ on every feeling...

I personaly don't care if a girl is a virgin or not, what matters is the person. But I also don't think you should just give your virginity to just anyone, try to pick someone really really special. You should NOT just give it up.

I would respect that, and it would not make me think of them any less.

What girls want to hear: "yes, you should save it for someone you truly love. Sex is something women control and they shouldn't give it out so easily. Society has turned into a hedonistic sex driven society and is detrimental to female femininity."

What guys really think "Save it for me."

First time should be romantic and be a happy memory. Many females regret it but to wait is your personal choice and no guy should tell you to lose it because it wouldn't be right. I suggest if you in a relation and sex isn't going to work till wedding bells then you need to show him that it be worth the wait, because were making a huge sacrifice

its your choice. that's all there is to it. the right guy will not pressure you either way and respect your decision. were not all sex crazed maniacs. heck I'm in college and still a virgin. I hope I save it for the right girl. opinions may change but always do what you feel is right.

i really think it is precious that anyone would save their virginity. I wish I were still a virgin since once you have sex it causes soooooo many problems. keep your virginity until you feel comfortable because that is a precious gift when a guy gets to take a girls vcard. it means a lot to a girl, and if a guy really cares about the girl, it means a lot to him

Its really up to you, and how comfortable you are with it. Personally, I think that the value placed on chastity is an antique one from the days of sexual restriction, but if you don't feel like you're ready until you're married, you're not ready until you're married.

You should do what you feel is best for you. Not your man, not your friends, not society--you.

Interesting questions, once again I think it depends on the girl. In some cases I think it's great and finding a nice girl who is still a virgin is like finding a diamond in the rough, the exhilaration of the find coupled with the challenge of polishing her to my likings is a wonderful experience. On the other hand a girl who just uses "saving my virginity until I get married" as a cover because no self respecting man would want them is something completely different. I'm not against girls that do that, I just don't care either way. I think the real question here is which one do you think you are?

Men have been shamed into saying it doesn't matter to them just like women have been shamed into saying a guy's success doesn't factor into how attracted they are to them. What's politically correct for someone to say they feel and what they actually feel are radically different things in our age, and I'll just let you draw your own conclusions from that.

I think its good. You shouldn't just give it up. Guys that say that are just selfish so don't listen to them.

I think its a good thing... props to those for saving themselves for that special someone...

Wow ! I like such girls because I am also saving my virginity for my wife till marriage . It is very important for me. I will give all my love only to her and no one else.

I definitely think you shouldn't just give it up. Some guys seem to think it's a bad thing if you're a virgin because you won't be as experienced, but it can also be good. It'll really make a guy feel special if you save it and he's the one you want to lose it too.

And what if something happens and you get pregnant? It'd be a lot better if you ended up getting pregnant with a guy you love, and will stick with you, than to end up pregnant and single just because you wanted to give it up.

not sure.

i think a good goal is to get through life with as little baggage as possible. regard sex as something special, and it will stay special.

I think sex before marriage is fine. I don't know anyone that's saving themselves for marriage but then that seems to be more common amongst american christians...I don't mean any offense but what if you marry someone and then you discover that they're really bad at sex. You need a test drive before you buy the car, y'know. I don't think being promiscuous is the best thing but I also think you're young so you might as well enjoy it to a certain extent. What if you never meet anyone and never get married? What then? I know I don't want marriage and kids. Marriage really isn't a priority to me-50% of them don't work anyway so why get your hopes up for failure...

far better to be independent and do your own thing, whatever that might be!

Save it don't do it until you get married that's the prob with these girls now days they are trying to make them look and act old before their time stay young and fresh guys like someone who hasn't been used up !

Save it until marriage please! Not only will you go into your marriage knowing you can give your ENTIRE heart to your love but you have the satisfaction of knowing that you saved yourself for the one man that God picked out especially for you! You wouldn’t want your future husband going around having sex with a bunch of girls. Act now as if you were being watched by your future husband. Go ahead and date…but be careful with every kiss, every touch, and everything you promise. You could not only break his heart, but he could break yours as well!