This question is mostly for the guys but girls can chime in if they have some advice. Basically, it takes me *forever* to ejaculate when I'm having sex. An hour is about the minimum time I've ever gotten off. It seems like a blessing because that's supposed to make me "good" in bed, but I mean it can take so long I just give up (which happens maybe 25% of the time). I think wearing condoms has a lot to do with it (but even without it still takes a long time), but I'm not going to not use them, and even the extra sensitive ones don't really help. Anyone else have this problem, and how do you deal with it?
Ha I think it's funny that you got more answers to this question from girls then you did from guys - 7 months ago
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Yeah, but I guess if a lady has slept with more than one guy she has a higher chance of having encountered this problem then just a guy. - 7 months ago
My guy does the same, and after a while he gets tired, so what I do, is get into a position that he is comfortable with: doggy style, laying down, or on top of him, or any other position that you would like with your girl.
If that doesn't work, then anal. If you haven't tried that, try it, and use lots of lube. (not too much that you constantly slip out) Usually anal works for my guy if he gets too tired.
Anal helps because I don't use a condom (probably should, but meh), but the amount of time she can take having sex that way is limited for obvious reasons. There are positions that are better/easier for me, but I'm not sure it has to do with that, it seems more of a mental thing. - 7 months ago
Does this happen when you masturbating or just when you have sex? Is it happening with the same partner or more that one? Are you nervous? Are you attracted to your partner? My ex used to have this problem when we first started having sex. It got better with time, and not using condoms helped (only after we were married did we stop).
Sex, but masturbating takes quite a while to (30 min or so). It happens with anyone. I've had that "nervous sex" feeling before, but I'm 100% comfortable with the girl I'm with now and it still happens. - 7 months ago
I used to have the girl get on top of me and ride me in such a way where she would squeeze her vaginal muscles extra as she rode me, so that I can get the most sensation possible though the condom. It puts the most pressure on the penis to have her squeeze the muscles that way, increasing the chances of ejaculating much sooner.
1) Stress or tension (from work, life, relationship, etc. ) 2) Anxiety over 'lasting too long' 3) Perhaps you are too focused on ejaculating that you don't focus on the situation 4) Your mind keeps wandering and taking you out of the moment 5) Not spending enough time on foreplay 6) Ejaculating too many times in the same week/day (this can increase the time it takes) 7) Not arousing yourself the right way (are you visual, emotional, or aroused by touch, etc. )
More than likely a few of these are coming into play. Try to relax, see what stimulates you the most, and try spending a little more time on foreplay to heighten the mood. You also might find that you are aroused in different ways, so perhaps you are very visual and just need to put a mirror on the roof (just kidding,. Kinda). :)
It may take a little while to work through this, and if it really bothers you then try talking to a sex counselor.
#s 2 and 3 are probably spot on. #6 is pretty close, but that makes the difference between 2 and 3 hours, not 2 hours and 20 minutes, unfortunately. Foreplay isn't an issue, but I think maybe I need to get her to spend more time on me. Thanks for the advice. - 7 months ago
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