Having a gay friend.

Are you supposed to throw away the friendship because he's gay? That's stupid. If you get along, I don't see why it matters.

It is totally fine. I know plenty of straight people who are friends with gay people. I'm straight and I have gays friends.

You are friends with this guy. You have known him for years. He deserves your support and your friendship.

If anyone is giving you a hard time about this, then that person is the one with the problem. Don't change your friends to satisfy a trouble-maker. Just tell people who ask that you are straight and that you have been friends with the gay guy for a long time and you think people need to mind their own business. You presumably date women, so you're covered.

As long as he knows you don't swing that way why not. In fact gay men make excellent wing men.

It's not just O.K., it's NECESSARY for straight males to have a gay friends. If every straight guy had a real friendship with a gay guy, 99% of the bullsh*t nonsense about homosexuality ("My girlfriend tickled my butthole. Am I gay now?) would instantly disappear.

That's why everyone has turned on you, the godd*mn savages--not because they think you're gay, but because they think that you'll start calling them out on their bullsh*t nonsense. And if you're even half a friend, if you can even spell the word "loyalty", then you owe it to your gay friend to do so.

I have had friends who are gays over the years. And I cannot see how this is in any way a bad thing. For me or for anyone else. Anyone who thinks that just because you have a gay friend, you are gay just perpetuates discrimination. It has taken so many years for society to get past the differences or race, and still struggles with religious differences, and obviously has not applied this knowledge to sexual preference. Discrimination is Discrimination.
I am a straight, married man, and have had friends who are gay males and females. And I think no less of them. I cannot even understand why anyone would even say why it would matter.
Despite all our differences, we are ALL flawed and imperfect. So who is anybody to judge anybody!

Of course it's okay for a straight male to have a gay friend just like it is to have any other person as a friend. I'm sure in most all cases it's an sexual orientation a person doesn't choose to have and wish they didn't, but they still have to do the best then can and live with it if they can't change it. I can see the situation you're in with everyone that knows he's gay thinking you must be gay too since you've been his friend for so long. You know, if I were you I wouldn't worry about what others think because if they can see straight and notice the friends you keep and how you've been and how you are now, whatever erroneous opinions they now have will soon change to how they thought of you in the past for lack of facts. I'm sure it'll really hurt your friend if you abandon him and I'm sure you wouldn't want him doing that to you. Just tell anyone that thinks you're gay because of your friendship with him to go and fly a kite, and then just go about your usual business with the friends that believe you because they are your true friends anyway... not the ones that are accusing you. More than ever this guy needs you now to stay being his loyal friend because obviously he's not been like one of those gays that have flaunted their orientation. Just know that no one chooses to be gay anymore than they choose to be handicapped physically or mentally, or of a race that's has a history of being discriminated against ... or even from a very poor family. From here on in, don't concern yourself anymore with what other believe and instead believe in yourself and believe that this guy is having a hard time even if it doesn't show on the outside. Someday if not now, you'll be glad you did.

I think that the simple fact that someone is gay should not break a friendship.

I don't understand how being friends with a gay person makes you seem gay. Does being friends with a guy who voted for John McCain automatically make you a Republican? Does being friends with a Wisconsin native automatically make you a Green Bay Packers fan? Seems like a lot of people in your life are jumping to conclusions.

My opinion is that I don't care about who other people have sex with. My life's too short to care about what turns someone else on. But whether gay or straight, I don't want to hear too much gossip about the last person they slept with, or how their partner likes X, Y and Z in bed. As a general rule, I think that the details of people's sex lives ought to remain private.

I also think it's shallow to dump someone as a friend if you discover they're gay. But I also think that if this guy had a girlfriend and was cheating on her, he was out of line and caused her a lot of pain and confusion. So if he was two-timing, he needs to admit that he was wrong about it. If he didn't apologize and own up to his error, I'd reconsider the friendship. I don't want to associate with people who show such disrespect for others.

So that's my two cents on the subject.

I feel it doesn't matter. In all honesty they can think what they want, just make sure your gay friend doesn't find you attractive. That could lead to an awkward moment. He is your best friend, he's no different. He just swings the other way. If I was you I would back him up for that because Gay people have gone through a lot and he can't help. For males its not a choice.

I have two friends who are complete nerds but does that make me a nerd?

Of course not just like you having a gay friend doesn't mean you are gay. I'm sure there's a fancy fallacy in there somewhere.

It's cliche to say that you should ignore people's compliments and accusations but I know that the day in and day out battle is tough. There are still ignorant people about the gays but slowly by each generations people will get more and more comfortable.

I think if the two of you are good friends and have all the important qualities such as trust kinship, you should continue to be his friend.

I've had 1 gay friend in my life and it was fun. I went to gay bars and asked a lot of questions about the gay world. He and I are no longer friends because he did a lot of drugs but people assumed things and I was able to shrug them off because san diego is fairly crowded and I think pretty tolerant.

It absolutely is okay. People who make such ridiculous assumptions with no evidence other than a FRIENDSHIP are just juvenile. I have gay friends and I'm not gay. There is no evidence against me nor for me, but if people assume then hey, they are the ones that are wrong.