Should I Have Sex and Get It All Over With?

Have you noticed that you haven't mentioned what you want, at all. It's pretty important.

Here's the trick to being a virgin with a sex life: don't tell him what your man won't get, tell him what he WILL get. If you're creative, energetic, and willing enough, you'll be able to keep some guys around--and happy--for quite some time.

Another way of putting this: of all the known sex acts in the universe, exactly ONE involves a guy putting his d*ck in you. If you keep the one, but offer EVERYTHING ELSE, it's not a bad trade, from where I'm sitting.

no wait till ur married cause if you don't you will regret it
and you being 18 and a virgin is NOT lame
i am 18 and a virgin

You'll live to regret it if you lose it that way, trust me. If guys are put off by you being a virgin, then you learned a valuable lesson about them, they aren't worth it. Plus, your only 18 and yet it seems a relationship is your only goal at the moment? What about school? Future? Or even respect for yourself?

Whatever you decide to do, don't assume ALL guys don't care for virginity. Some do, and some highly respect it.

Dont say lame! :( I'm a 24 yo virgin for Christ's sake. Somewhat by choice at least.

Maybe all the guys you meet are not virgins themselves and they want more experience. To some, that's just what they want. Your virtues shouldnt have to be centered around everyone else. If you want to wait and make it special. You wait. Don't give in to peer pressure or uninterested people. Probably... the reason why they were put off is because they wouldn't make it special for you anyway. They don't want that challenge. If you look at it that way, it's really worth waiting.

A buddy of mine in college told me about his first time. He hooked up with some girl at a party for his first time. They didn't have a committed relationship and he left feeling like sex wasn't all that impressive and hollow.

Personally, my wife and I both waited until we were married (ages 21 and 22) and it was as fulfilling as I expected, perhaps more so. It is so nice to be together and know we aren't being compared to any past partners.

So definitely save it for a committed, trusting, loving relationship, even if you don't wait for marriage. Don't do it "just to get it over with." I think you will regret that choice.

Yeah, I've had that problem too. I am also 18 and am still a virgin, but I just recently started dating a 21 year old virgin. Which is a huge plus when it come to that stuff. If you're ready go for it.

i think it depends on if ur ready or not

I'm in the same position! although for me its not that guys lose interest after finding out they can't have sex with me (I don't tell them which is some form of a game I play with there minds) I just know that guys lose respect for us girls when they have sex with us.
The reason I'm seriously considering having sex is because its taking up to much of my time, what I mean is I'm constantly debating whether or not I should. its becoming a waste of my time.

I also think to myself, well if guys do it and think its so freaking awesome, why the hell would I make the sacrifice to wait for one person! and give the advantage to them.

Sex has a different meaning to everyone,for some it is a way of expressing emotions,others it's just physical satisfaction.There's more to having sex than pleasure,cause there are possibly emotional/mental and physical consequences.If you do decide to have sex,be careful and use two forms of protection,since you aren't planning on having sex with a committed partner,the chances of him being there if you end up pregnant are slim to none.
Being a virgin at 18 isn't lame,sex is a personal choice and individual activity and issue.Not for the world to know.
I also don't buy the whole " if a guy loves you he'll wait" crap,because you're right,it isn't true.A guy can love a girl more than anything in the world,but if she isn't giving him what he needs,he'll either leave or cheat(and for those of you going to say sex is a want and desire,you sure all aren't singing that tune when defending a guy who cheats on his girlfriend stating she wasn't giving him sex).
There are guys who will not date a virgin,simply due to stereotypes,or past experiences and not wanting to deal with such issues.
Then there are guys who don't care.
Then there are guys who seek only virgins(they tend to be virgins themselves) and obviously he and she would value virginity and sex the same amount.
If you are physically,financially,and emotionally/mentally ready to have sex,then do so.I can not tell you whether or not to have sex or not to.

What do you want from sex? The way I'm reading it, you're seeing it like a toll road - a price you have to pay to get where you want in a relationship. What kind of connection is that?
I'm curious to know about the guys that have pushed you away when they found out that you were a virgin. Did they push you away because you were a virgin or because you wouldn't have sex with them? If it isn't a big deal, why have you waited? Sex is important to guys, and being a virgin isn't really an obstacle unless you made it one.
The only difference between a virgin and a non virgin is the fact that one had sex and the other didn't. Sex doesn't affect your personality or your outlook in life. Having sex doesn't make a woman more desirable to a man - for some guys it just makes them more available. I disagree that the majority of men don't want to have a relationship with a virgin, because you not ONLY a virgin. Most men don't want to have a relationship with a woman who doesn't interest them - sex or no sex. Sure, there are guys out there who will put up with a woman because she puts out - but that isn't a relationship.
Don't kid yourself and think that having sex will open up doors to relationships with men that you've only dreamed of, because it won't. You'll still be you. If you don't want to wait - that's your prerogative, just don't change your mind for the wrong reasons. And doing it for a guy (whether for attention or a relationship) is the wrong reason. IMO, of course.

Good luck.

Well, I don't thing that's lame at all. Usually guys that mind dating a virgin aren't worth your time

First I'm just saying that being 18 and a virgin is not lame. You should be very proud of yourself because of all the temptation and negative influences we see today, you're a very strong individual and it's a beautiful quality to have. I wouldn't give it up just for a guy. I'm not a virgin but I think that in the end you're only with the guy to make yourself happy, are you going to feel bad if you lose it like that? You have to love yourself above anyone else, it really doesn't matter what he wants or thinks because in the end it's your body, your decision and you who is going to have to deal with it.

You shouldn't look at sex as something to get out of the way. I'm not saying you have to wait until marriage or anything, but you should at least wait until it's with a guy you trust, not just some guy you know who's convenient. You will feel much better about it if it was with someone you trust and the sex itself would be better that way too.

Also, if you went out and had sex one night so that you can tell the next guy you date that you're not a virgin, he'll be expecting that to mean that you know what you're doing and if you just had sex once so you would lose that title of "virgin" you still WON'T know what you're doing and it all comes down to the same thing anyways.

By the way, being an eighteen-year-old virgin really really ISN'T a bad thing :)