How do I seduce him when I have no confidence?

When my wife is horny she always gets into bed wearing nothing. She will often try to do this without me seeing.

So when I get in I can tell she is naked and she wants to get horny. She likes me to take control at this point, although I would love her to grab me and in particular grab my penis and start playing with it, whilst we are kissing.

So this might be a good way for you to start. And if you grab his manhood or take his hand and place it on your breasts or pussy, he'll soon get the idea you are in the mood for sex.

Alternatively, wearing sexy lingerie will always turn a man on big time.

If you've been going out for a year now and aren't even comfortable talking about sex, what is the rest of your relationship like? I don't even want to know.

Ask yourself why you would feel unconfident being with someone you've been with for a year. If it's because you're afraid he'll say nasty things, leave. If it's not, go ahead and do whatever.

Just think, how awful it feels that he might reject you if you ask, that is how he feels every time he asks you. A little afraid you will shoot him down. That's crazy isn't it?

Men want to feel wanted too. They are dying for it. They spend their whole lives chasing the girls they want, being told no a million times, having to ask her for sex, having to be told no a million times. Every guy has something in him that is just dying to be longed for the way he has longed after a woman.

So he doesn't just want someone saying "OK I'm horny, have sex with me." He wants to feel that you want him and are so horny that you are going to take control. Don't see it as being some dominatrix, it's just giving him the best compliment you can give him. Remember when you guys were first together and you caught him looking at you? Didn't it feel good? It makes him feel that way (and more) when you can't keep your hands off him.

As far as what you want to do in bed, I think the best way to do that is tell him what you want. If you can't say it, write it down and give it to him. Then see how he responds. If he likes the idea, a lot of the nerves are taking away cause he is now excited too. Then you can try it after its on the table. If you feel uncomfortable starting with telling him one of your fantasies, ask him for something like a position that you would never think about asking for but think is interesting. When he is willing to do it for you and then you see how everything is still OK in the relationship, you will start to get more at ease with revealing what's in your mind.

And you will see that just cause you have sexual desires, it doesn't mean he thinks you are a slut. He is going to respond better than you expect probably. I used to feel weird telling my guy stuff but now every time he says his trademark "I like the sound of that", I get chills cause I got a green light. Sometimes he says "I don't know about that" and that lets me know he isn't interested and I back off. At first it hurt. But now I just know we have different desires but we gel most of the time.

Rome wasn't built in a day. It takes really small, really embarrassing steps to get to a point of comfortableness with all this. But after a couple times of seeing all is well, he will be telling you to ease up cause he can't keep up with you. :)

It can be intimidating to act out your personal desires. Women are taught almost from birth to be "good", anything less than Maiden Mary is slutty, so overcoming a natural inclination for modesty can be extremely difficult. It can also induce feelings of shame - weren't we all taught to fear our sexuality? First know this - wanting sex is not wrong. There is nothing unnatural about expressing your horniness.
My husband and I have signals we use. He knows when I go to bed naked, I want to have sex. When I kiss him deeply and give his ass a little squeeze, I want to have sex. When I tell him I'm tired and ask him to come lay down with me, I want to have sex. Nothing flamboyant, nothing overly obvious - just small signals to let him know I want him.
You can hand him a note to meet you in bed - and be there naked when he arrives. Send him a text. Explain to him explicitly what you want him to do to you in a letter, and leave a time and place to meet you when he's done reading it. Have you thought about blind folding him? Some women don't like to be "watched" when acting out their naughty desires, so it's easy to lower your inhibitions when there is no one looking.
Don't feel bad about your shyness, it's very common. Very, very common. It isn't anything you have to conquer overnight, just take baby steps until you get where you want to be. I'll tell you this though, nothing more satisfactory than doing exactly what you want.

Good luck and get a blindfold!