I don't want to have sex with my boyfriend....

Don't worry whether your boyfriend gets mad or not. Based on your experience of having sex early in a relationship, it has been bad for you so you need to change that pattern. You can only do that by holding back the sexual part of your next relationship and instead working at the "couple" part that has to do with emotions, commitment, trust and love, etc. In other words, you want to see how much a guy likes you first and if he's in the relationship because of "you" or because of what he can get out of you. Don't look at it as holding off. Instead look at it as how it should have been with you in the first place and with any other couples that want a relationship that makes sense and isn't all centered around doing sexual things. Any guy that puts your relationship on the line because you don't agree to have sex early on you need to push out the door and tell him to not come back! You dump his a*s just like that! You sound like a really nice girl that deserves much better than what you've been getting. Just start demanding respect and feelings from your boyfriend now. If you do, that's what you'll eventually get. The reason guys leave girls that dish out early is because giving out early means they don't have all that much value so no use to stay for the cheapies. Value comes from being more scarce. Also, when a guy has to work for something it means much more to them... well that goes with everything. Free stuff is.. well free and it's a throwaway. But when you have to pay a price for something, you take better care of it because you plan to keep it around for awhile. If this boyfriend of yours gives you a hard time on that, he needs to be the first one to go. You'll be so proud of yourself for taking a stand. Good luck!

I've had a girl do that to me before. She didn't wanna have sex, and I thought it was because of me. We finally had sex and it was pretty bad. She pretty much sabotaged the relationship after that because she figured I'd leave her. I figured we could always work on the sex, but she just kept digging herself in a bigger hole, doubting herself all the time. Honestly you could be bad at sex. BUT it could just be that you're putting unwanted pressure on yourself and this relationship. I think if you keep putting off the sex without telling him why, there's a possibility he will start to get frustrated...

If a man is pushing or pressuring for sex and you don't want to or feel its not right, dont. If a man really loves you, you can say no to sex and all he will say is "Okay, I understand" and stay with you.

Don't put out as early or often.

Don't have sex with him! If he's worth it and if he feels you're worth it, he'll wait. Also if you wait, and find out that he wasn't worth it, you won't feel like you're used. If he gets mad, tell him you're a) worth it and b) not a slut. I don't think guys break up with you if you're bad at sex either, I think it's because they were just looking for a one time thing, and you've satisfied that, you should wait and find out if this guy is just looking for the same thing and if not then sleep with him when YOU'RE ready.