Do you know someone you love to date if only they were better looking?

While I won't jump into bed with someone who leaves me completely cold, I can overlook some physical traits if her sexuality seems interesting or if she just has the right attitude.

This is especially true over the long run. You get over physical imperfections in time; personality flaws, however, are brand new, every day.

Well.. this happened to me a few months ago.. she was cute and funny and all.. and I never had the intention of dating her even if she looked better but I was thinking "i wouldn't mind dating her if she looked better".. but I wasn't gonna try anyway.. but yea she looks better now and she got a boyfriends so yayyy.. hahah no big deal but yea I see what you mean.

I've had friends that I'd never thought of dating that I'd seen differently and considered being with them and have become attracted to some of them. I don't know though, if you've already considered dating him for abit but haven't changed your mind on physical attraction perhaps he isn't for you. Usually when I like someone who was just one of my friends its just because I've looked at them differently, as in someone I would date and not just a friend. I've only done the last thing in reverse, I've dated someone got involve sexually with her and then we broke up and she became my best friend? lol

I thought women were the ones who didn't judge their partners on looks and could see past their exteriors to the beauty in people's souls ... unlike us shallow men.

I voted B. It's happened to me before where I've felt sad about it and wished I weren't shallow in that way, but I really don't think I can help it. BTW, I did feel better when it occurred to me that most guys never feel bad about not liking an unattractive girl.

First, I think attraction is not based on looks as much as there being something in that person that just drawers you to them completely. Looks play a part but I think people are just drawn to something in the other person and if that connection is there, looks don't have to matter. But if that connection is lacking, looks are the only thing that matter.

I had a friend who was a really great guy but I wasn't attracted to him. Seriously one of the greatest guys I ever met. But the connection wasn't there. I think that if he was perfect for me, I would have found him attractive. I don't think just because someone is a great person that you are automatically attracted to them.

I wasn't automatically attracted to my partner now, not cause he isn't attractive, but cause I thought he and I were at different stages in life. He is younger and I am used to being with older men. But as I got to know him more he ended up being perfect for me. And its weird cause I really see similarities in him and the other friend. They are eerily alike actually. But my partner just has some things that make me sexually want him. I can't explain what the difference between the two is but even though my friend is a great guy, I just never felt anything for him in that way cause I think one or two things weren't there. I think my huge respect for my partner is one of the biggest differences. I respected my friend but not on the level that, as a woman, it gives you the longing feelings for a man.

As far as getting over it, no I never did date him, even though he did want to pursue something. But later in life I did wonder if I should have said yes because of how good a guy he was.

The problem I think with dating someone you can't see yourself attracted to is that we don't live in a society that says we should match up for social or economic reasons. We have "love matches" not arranged marriages. So I think because we aren't used to making the best choice for our social standing or for money, it makes it difficult to want to be with someone who we aren't romantically drawn to.

If you want to give it a go with your friend, I would suggest just changing how you look at him and seeing if an attraction builds. Can you lay in bed and fantasize about him? Or is that thought gross? If you can I would say try and see what happens. But if you are hoping that if you start dating that the feelings will pop up, I think that is dangerous cause they may never come around. And then you and your friend might be hurt from the relationship ending. I would think it through in your own mind before you bring it up to him. Like if you guys go to the movies, like you normally would as friends, pretend it's a date and see if that's something that interests you.

I think you have to decide also if companionship is more important or partnership is. I think someone you aren't desiring would be a great companion but I don't know if they will ever become the other half of you.