Cute and pure vs. hot / sexy and experienced.

wow
if all the girls in all the high school were like you
i think the world would be a better place
and for the most part yes ur parents are right
guys will change but not for a long time they won't
and by NO means should you turn into those girls
guys in high school just want sex
you have a lot going for you don't let a guy mess it up for you
and when the time comes right; you'll have mr.perfect
im in the same situation as you
except I'm thinking about being a douche bag cause nice guys get no where in todays world

Don't stress about it. I found that after high school most of the "cool" people didn't do much with their lives. I particularly laughed about one really hot popular girl who was working at a fast food place when I came home to visit from college. Be true to yourself and realize that there are plenty of guys who will want to start long term relationships with beautiful honorable women that end in marriage. Besides, the guys who are jerks to you now are certainly not the ones you would want to marry.

If it helps, my beautiful bride was very like you describe in high school: smart, cute, modest, loads of self respect, didn't care much for the "in crowd"

ok do you need to change? Not at all! you sounds perfect the way you are.. don't change just so you can get a guy who will treat you poorly.. I wish I could of found a girl like that when I was 16.. I would of been soo happy, they are so rare and hard to find they always seem to be gone before I can catch them.

now the guys you are talking about who like the "hot " and "sexy" girls only like them because they are easy. let me repeat that. THEY ONLY WANT TO SLEEP WITH THEM.
ok so do you really want a guy who only wants to sleep with you? and the second you say ilove you he's out the door? most guys won't be as ready for a true relationship till their late 20's and even 30's. so don't hate on yourself because you can't find a sweet guy for you now.

and the jerks who are hitting on you they are looking for the same thing as the guys going for the easy girls. but they see you as a challenge. they want to try and turn a good girl bad. they think if they can sleep with someone who quiet and reserved, like you then they can sleep with anyone because they know how to play the game.
i really hope you can find a guy who's up to your standards and will treat you well. but unfortunately in high school that's hard to find. I'm sure you will find a cute guy ready to settle wen you are in college or start working.

oh and just so you know this is coming from a guy trying to find a girl that acts like you.. right now all the girls are in party mode. and I'm trying to find the one who's not. I'm looking for the girl who's still got respect for herself and who can still be attractive when dressing modest. those girls are hard to come by because the bad boys have gotten to them. they have changed them and I really wish I could find one again.

Something that will become clear as you get older is that most people are a little bit right, and a little bit wrong, so that no one is completely right, or completely wrong.

The question, then, that you should gain the habit of asking is whether what you're doing makes sense, and whether it makes sense *at this moment*.

Specifically:

There's nothing wrong, at all, with carrying yourself with modesty and self-respect. It won't even affect your sex life. You'll find some trouble, though, if you are so modest that you appear fearful, and so self-respecting that you appear arrogant. (Bonus, useless hint: Modesty goes over much better if you have an extravagant sense of humor.)

Because if you enjoy sex, and want to share it with someone who cares about you, you need to avoid seeming like those people who hate sexuality, and seek to punish those who enjoy it. The latter, obviously, cannot date a sex-loving partner, of any kind--we will avoid them, for the sake of our own health and happiness. Only the ignorant and the self-hating date these, not the men you want to attract.

Moral: You can be a prude, but not too much.

There's also nothing wrong with enjoying your sexuality. Loudly. With many others. In many ways. And it will greatly improve your sex life.

But it's a risky course. There's pregnancy, obviously. But even if you never have intercourse, there are risks of having sex in the wrong way with the wrong people. You can spend too much time with damaged people, who may seek to damage you. You can be so detached and mechanical that you can lose the joy of it, and a joyless partner is a desperate relationship. You can do too much. You can do too little.

Judgement comes from experience, and experience, from bad judgement. You make mistakes, painful ones. You suffer. You learn.

Obviously, the risks of sex are no reason to avoid it altogether, any more than the risks of driving or the risks of eating. The intelligent, responsible adult's approach to risk isn't flight--it's caution.

(There's also the social risk, best ignored; only people of bad character judge others by their sexuality--whether they're prudes or whores. Avoid bad people, and this will never, ever, be an issue.)

Moral: You can be a whore, but not too much.

So are your parents right? A little, in my opinion. I care more about inner beauty than I did when I was younger, but honestly, not much more. What I care most about, now, is simple character--can she talk, can she listen, is she honest, is she nice. If she's a woman of basic human virtue, I take her, fully confident that I can work out the small stuff.

There's a classic comparison I saw on TV. They were comparing two iconic women of the 50's in which cute was Audrey Hepburn, and hot/sexy was Marilyn Monroe. I guess you need to figure out what makes you the most comfortable.

NO don't change if I knew you in real life I would ask you out because I love the girls that have morals and principles because I feel like over sexified women are like a commercial to me I dislike it the majority of the time I have a feeling that if you stay the way you say in your question you will most likely not have a jerk for a boyfriend and yes its true there are more jerk guys then guys like me who actually will make an attempt not to curse well at least from my experience there are more jerks.

Whatever makes you feel good. It's all about how you feel.I'm 18, I like hot /sexy girls but I don't want girls just for sex. I just think that you first have to be physically attracted to a girl and then emotionally, it's just my way of thinking, even though I may be the only one that thinks that way. I've never been out with a plain looking girl. (Not to offend anyone).

Be pure because the guys you see going for the so called "hot" girls are probably jerks who only want those girls for sex, not for a relationship. You sound like a really sweet girl and you shouldn't change a thing. I remember when I was in high school (im 20 now), I kind of disliked most of the hot girls at my school because most were bitches, and plus they'd never talk too me since I was an average looking guy, and sadly some of the more normal girls in my school thought they had to act like that to get guys and it turned me off. Even today in college I see some of the "hot" girls still acting like bitches, but they get the guys who are jerks. Stay the way you are and you will find the right guy, just like I'll hopefully find the right girl.
Good Luck

Stay as you are, trust me. You will eventually, in time find a guy for you. The only changes you should ever make in your life are ones YOU want and you know you will be happy with. If you change to suit other people or even to attract guys, you may find yourself not happy as you will be lying to yourself and them.

Your still young and guys aren't thinking straight around your age. :D

What's right is right..and what's wrong is wrong.. I never seen anyone disrespecting morals or manners! Even @$@%_@& DON'T ! I think that's enough of an answer..
Earning respect is the most important thing in a long-term relationship..trust me..

guys in high school just want sex. well most of them. they don't really like these girls, its just easier to get sex out of them. so yeah they are getting the attention but they rarely get the guys heart. I would not envy these girls..do you know how many of those girls are being used simply for sex and then the guy ends up with a friend of hers later on? they end up feeling so used and worthless. the guys that are jerks to you are really just saying "hey I'm a typical horny guy that's not about sh*t and I just wanna use girls. I'm mad because your not one of them" so just ignore him. a girl like you is gonna attract good guys that want relationships.

i went to school with so many players that messed around and had fun with the hot experienced girls. when they settle down and get married they forget all about those girls and go for a respectable girl.

hot girls get short term attention from boys..respectable girls that don't give it up to everybody and their friends get real love from men. a real man is not gonna take a girl seriously that gave it up to everybody before she could even legally vote.

Hang in there. This will get easier as you get older. It will get a lot easier in college, as you will find that there are guys around who like smart girls and are willing to make a move on them. I'm sorry, I know it sucks now, but it really, really will get better.