If you were not the best sex partner he has ever had, he would have said something like, "you are good, but not the best". I believe you are simply jumping to conclusions on this.
Not everyone can provide that Porn Sex Experience, I am sure there are men out there who are much better than I am but I would not let this be any sort of a burden as long as I am good. Do not let this bother you one bit. If you are still apprehensive, read books, ask questions on how to give great sex. But most important of all, you must have the mental and emotional mindset to engage in sex on a positive level. After all, you never want someone to say you were a lousy lay.
I know I'm definitely not a lousy lay lol. But I want to be the best he's ever had. Is that being overambitious? - 4 months ago
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Your intention is good but slightly overambitious. I applaud your determination in gaining pleasure for your man, he is lucky to be with you while making the rest of us jealous. Heheh. Be happy in knowing you are a very good lover. - 4 months ago
He might have just been wording it carelessly not thinking (or maybe not knowing) what it might imply. He might have had better with someone else, But he was trying to say he was happy about how you two have progressed.
No, don' t dump him, that would be majorly overreacting. Have you had better? If so why judge him ( Even if not, he was telling the truth after all, you should never punish someone for that. If anything he had a slip of the tongue and wasn't tactful in his truth, a minor mistake and one we shouldn't be too hard on. We all say the wrong thing or make mistakes sometimes. )
You guys are progressing sexually and that's great. Don't let this minor thing stop you from continuing that progression. Tactfully tell him how you felt about him saying that, (it is very important to always communicate, calmly and constructively) and ask him what you could do (tell him what you would like too) together to make it the best sex EVER with any person for both of you.
That's good advice. I liked what you said about not punishing someone for telling the truth. But what do you think it actually was? A slip of tongue or was he saying I wasn't the best? - 4 months ago
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He may have meant you weren't the best, or he may have said something foolish. The only way to know for sure is to ask the man himself. Don't worry about being overambitious, go for the gold medal. Simply by trying to be the best you will pass up and be better than most of the girls he has been with, and you will probably end up being the best. The people who are the best at something always believed they could be the best. Don't ever sweat competition, just focus on your goals and getting yours - 4 months ago
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I feel like Mickey coaching Rocky Balboa lol :) - 4 months ago
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Lol! Thanks for the encouragement. I will def. Follow your advice. - 4 months ago
If he has had previous flings then yeah he has had better in the sense you feel...but generally when spoken we imply that it is the best feeling we have gone through (comparison can be with feelings caused due to other good things in life too other than being with girls)
whoa! why would you dump him....rather strange reaction over few words (if there has not been something else to go along with it)
He was with one other chick so it all boils down to if that one was better or not. - 4 months ago
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But at the same time when one says you are the best after a good session. He really would have meant in terms of being felt as never before (surely believe when he made the comparison he wasn't thinking bout his ex) - 4 months ago
My boyfriend and I were discussing something like this the other night. It's really hard to compare past sex partners to a current because you probably like your current one quite a bit and you may not care for your past because of things unrelated to your sex life. If that makes sense.
Saw you updated your question, at this point I would just let it go. It, meaning the fact that he said it, it really isn't a huge deal. I'm certain that my boyfriend has had girls do certain things better than I do, just as I've had ex boyfriends that did certain things better than him, but about each of my old lovers, there's always one thing I can say that they're better at then the others, even the ones that weren't too great at all. Dumping him over this would be silly and maybe a mistake. - 4 months ago
Whether or not he implied that he had had better sex with other girls is not a strong reason to dump him. Only for that? I mean you could have better sex with other people. Even you. Some people are better than others in that area. You could just try to improve or do other things for a change. But don't dump him over that. This is just my opinion.
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