How can I have good sex?

My belief is that your problem is that you have never had meaningful sex. You may be able to share intimate moments, but when it comes to sex itself, you tense up and start to worry about it. In fact, from the sounds of it, it seems that your worrying has started to turn into a resentment toward sex. But it is fixable. Don't rush into sexual relationships. We already know how those have turned out. Make sure that you have found a man that you have a true emotional and intimate connection with. When you find the man that you can anxiously look forward to stripping off those clothes and inhibitions with, then I'll bet the sex will be better for you.

Also, quit pressuring yourself. Feel free to express to your man what you want. Many men out there are so caught up pleasing themselves, that they have no idea how to please a woman. Take a little control, and guide the man to the pleasure spots. Some times a few lessons makes a better student, if you know what I mean. Sex can be such a great gift if it is with the right person.

Hmm if you do sex with the love you will get an orgasm trust me

Wow. I think you've already convinced yourself that your non sexual and could actually be involved with someone and never have sex. It is entirely "up to you" I would first ask your gyno if you might have a hormonal imbalance that's affecting your drive. Don't accept a quick answer from the doctor as some don't actually concern themselves with that. Yes, It does help to learn your own body. Spend some time privately and do purchase a toy. Don't feel like your nasty because you did. Use the internet to order if you are embarrassed. I'm speaking from experience here because my wife had the same issues and it took 10 years for her to even accept the idea that she might come and she did and does every time now. Finally.

I think it's about being comfortable with yourself and your own sexuality. Sometimes girls are reluctant to discuss sex openly because they think, for whatever reason, female shouldn't think or talk or enjoy sex. Whether it'd be religious up bringing or body image problem. These can have a negative impact on your sex life. I think the first step to achieving an orgasm is learn to pleasure yourself. You have to be open minded and stop thinking it as something that's "dirty" or "sinful". Be happy about your own body. Learn to gain more self confidence and try to be less self conscious. Based on your description, it seems as though you have already concluded that you'll never enjoy sex. Which is counter productive, a self fulfilling prophecy. So learn to love yourself. And I don't just mean sexually.