Okay, so I've been with my boyfriend for around 5 months and I really like him a lot. The relationship is going really well and he seems very happy with me as I am with him. Anyway, we're both 22, but I am the first girl that he has ever slept with. Besides him, I've slept with one other guy. I know we've only been dating for 5 months and I shouldn't be thinking too far ahead in the future, but I can't help but wonder if I really did end up with him- is me being the only one he's ever slept with going to be a problem along the line?
He has given me no reason what-so-ever to worry about this. He doesn't flirt with other girls and he really has never given me a reason to question anything in regards to cheating or wanting someone else.
I know he hasn't really had a lot of relationships either. He's been screwed over a couple of times in the past. I feel bad saying thing, but he's definitely not someone I ever pictured myself with. He's not at all ugly. I find him quite attractive, but he's also not someone who girls would see and want. He just doesn't put effort into what he wears or how he presents himself. He's just really not good at flirting or hitting on girls- hence why he's had so few relationships. He's hooked up with other girls- just not sex.
I know he's really committed to me and it's obvious that he really likes me. He pursued me for months before I gave him a chance- I just feel like I always wonder about the whole being a virgin before he met me. What do you guys think?
It won't be a problem as long as you both are getting what you want. If either of you are not being sexually satisfied, it will not last.
As for your feelings toward this guy....an analogy: I have brought home several dogs in my lifetime that nobody else wanted. They were the most loyal, most happy dogs I have ever owned. I enjoyed their company, but never really truly understood how I felt about them and their undying loyalty until they were gone.
This is a tough question to answer, mainly because it hits close to home with me. I have only had sex with one woman my entire life...I married her. After 15 years of marriage, we have had some good times and bad times, but some of those bad times have been a result of sex. I have to be honest when I tell you that I have always been curious about the "differences" if there were any. However, before you get scared of that comment...the reason for my curiosity was mostly because of a disinterest my wife has in sex itself. So the lacking in our sexuality led to a curiosity in other women. Though I have never acted on that curiosity, it is still there.
But let me encourage you this. If this man is the "ONE", then just make sure you do everything in your power to keep him happy and satisfied. Men love their sex, and sometime it is only from that which they don't receive from their mate, that they start looking elsewhere to get it. His curiosity will be limited by your willingness. Trust me on that. Women don't like to hear that, because it means that sometimes they have to stretch beyond their comfort zones, but isn't that better than him going out and finding someone else to satisfy his needs.
Well I can tell you from experience that I loved the first girl I slept with. I had hooked up with other girls before but she was the only I ever slept with. I think I would have been happy the rest of my life with her, but I'll admit my eyes wondered and I fantasized after a few years and her treating me like crap. I wasn't getting what I needed from her. I never cheated but the relationship just didn't work out in the end.
I believe that its possible to be with just one person in your life. Just keep it interesting.
Hey there, just hold it down. You have a really great relationship-not many people truly do. If he is in to you like you say and you are into him, then there is no problem. No matter what, because the two of you are in this relationship right now as a couple. You can handle what happens. You need to ask yourself why you are paranoid. Do you want something wrong to happen. If you can, go ahead and go to some counseling and tell him you want to develop your relationship that much stronger, like taking ballroom dance lessons. He will probably think that your nuts, but will go for the dance lessons. So just relax. Good Luck!
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