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Why doesn't my man want to get so intimate as I do?

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LISHASAP (Age:18 to 24)     When: 3 months ago
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I always dress sexy, trying to get his attention. I play around and he just says stop. I respect it when he doesn't want to, but it seems lately, it's never. I understand he has a job that is very stressful, but so do I. It seems like whenever he wants to, its okay, but when I do it don't happen. Is it because he don't find me attractive, not interested in me sexually or another reason. We have been together now for 2 years, I would figure our sex life would still be like it was in the beginning, but it totally changed.

P. S- Note whenever he wants to it is okay and of course I say yes because I never get it when I want to. IS that the problem? Because I give it to him whenever he wants?

P. S. S- I am new to this site, so my questions might be a little out of place, but I'm learning as I go and I appreciate every ones answers. I like to learn and get advice so I can understand my boyfriend a little more and don't go fussing and nagging over little things I shouldn't.

Thank- you

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archer86 (Age:36 to 45)      When: 3 months ago
I have seen this happen before many times. The actions women have taken to fix this are many. Several women left their men for a brief time like a "Lover's Holiday" so that they can work out their problems alone until ready to go back. Others left the men completely. One woman I knew tied her man up to her bed, put ice on his crotch and raped him! Extreme, but terribly effective! Cheating is a bad idea, makes for a violent situation. I say whenever he wants it, say no for about 2 to 3 weeks. If he really loves you, he's reciprocate!

I would.

Then again, no woman would ever have a problem with lack of sex with me...
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Question Asker Hey, if he was as freaky as me I would tie him to the bed and do what needs to be done, but that won't be happening. I guess when he wants it my answer is going to be a negative.. And I'm sure he won't understand, but hopefully; eventually, he will. Thanks for your help and advice. I knew that's what needed to be done, but Its a lot better to hear from others.

Yeah. I never thought someone wouldn't want to with me, Im f.in sexy !! HAH.
&& thanks again for the best answer. -Alisha - 3 months ago
Krishan What Nonsense, These things are wrong.
- 3 months ago
Question Asker Krishan. Please explain why YOU think this answer that ARCHER86 left. I think it was a very good response and I would like to hear your reason why you think it was nonsense.? Whys it wrong?
-Alisha. - 3 months ago

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dohcrwd (Age:25 to 29)      When: 3 months ago
Miss,

It sound like a yellow light (if you know what I mean). Try to talk about it , but be ready for the worse.

I speak for my own experience.

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Anonymous User (Age:18 to 24)      When: 3 months ago
I think you should talk to him about it. Because a relationship is about two people working together for one another. If you're doing all the "work" and he's doing nothing, then that really isn't fair. It's just that if he does approach you again, don't sleep with him. I really isn't fair to you that he can get what he wants and you don't. I hope this helped!
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Question Asker This did help thanks a lot. I am not going to sleep with him when he he wants, but Im wondering if that would push him away ( && I don't cheat ,I just hope he wouldn't ) But thank-you for your advice. Helped a lot.

-Alisha - 3 months ago

 
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I'd think that archer86 is right on this. I, of course, have know personal experience with this. But if he doesn't want to have sex when you do, then don't give it to him when he wants. He'll learn that he wants sex it needs to be on both of your terms. He'll eventually think, hey this is a treat for me. Like he's lucky to get any.
With animals, if they get something (say, treats) whenever they want, it becomes less important to them. They think, they can get treats whenever, so they don't crave them as much. But if you don't give them any for a while, they are extremely happy when you do give them one.
P. S. I'd talk to him about it, too. It could mean something more than, he's tired.
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