I stopped having sex with my husband 5 years ago. He is a great father of our children and he is very nice to me, but I have made it clear to him that I do not want to have sex with him anymore. Should I stay with him or divorce him? Our children are young.
What!? You stopped having sex with your husband and now are wondering whether to divorce him because you're not having sex. Sounds like you cut off your nose to spite your face.
Since you made the decision to stop having sex, and he's a good father, then what's the problem?
Why did you stop having sex is my question to your question. Did he cheat on you, or did your priorities change? Does he want sex, but you just lost interest? Are you the one wanting sex, but he doesn't?
You first need to consider your children; my roommate works with parents that are going thru divorces, and the system puts the kids thru hell. Matter of fact, because of how they kids are treated in the court system, there have been parents that actually beg the judge that they have come to a parental agreement about how their kids will be taken care of after the divorce, but then the so called child advocate group comes back and demands a full evaluation for thousands of dollars; and well, you end you p with financially destroyed parents, not to mention, emotionally destroyed parents and kids. So before you divorce him, you should look into what will your selfish actions bring to your kids.
I mean, if your husband hasn't said anything bout you not wanting to have sex for 5 years, then maybe best to stay in the marriage for the kids. And again, how come you stopped having sex with him? Did your mom instinct take over?
I wonder why you don't wanna have sex with him anymore? Do you still love him and just don't feel like having sex anymore? and I think you should talk to him about it. Maybe he is fine with your decision. i got to know a couple who got divorced and it was really terrible for the kids, all the fights and one day their dad was home and one day he wasn't so they were confused and scared about what's going on. so in case you chose to get divorced make sure you try to explain your kids what's going on and that you both still love them. and I hope you can solve our ,sex problem'' without getting divorced
I'd recommend the book "The Sex-Starved Marriage. " It could help you figure out why you don't want sex with him (even if you think you already know). I am divorced, with two children, and it is tough! If he is a good guy, please do what you can to try to work it out. At least then you'll know you tried. Have you done marriage counseling?
Thanks for the comments. I have two reasons why I don't have sex with him anymore. First, I was never that interested in sex to begin with; I'm not sure why, but that's just how I am. Second, I think he is having an affair, although he has denied it, I don't believe him. He stopped trying to have sex with me about a year and a half ago, because I kept saying no. To be quite honest with you, I'm perfectly fine with my husband getting sex elsewhere, because I don't want to give it to him. - 5 months ago
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