Why the Wait?

Why wait? It's ridiculous! Never know when your next day could be you last. To live without the experience of pleasure and joy is absurd. I had my first sex the night before I joined the Army(Infantry at that) and had no intention of marrying, yet had no wish to possibly die in combat with knowing a woman's warmth and pleasure. After that memorable moment, I swore never to wait again! Sex is too good be waiting for just one person for your entire life.

To have sex or not to have sex is a very personal question. Some people do it because their faith decrees it. Some people do it to get attention. I did it when I did it because I had a lot of hormones in my body that was driving me to experiment and play with it and I now have a lot of experiences.

First, I have had sex with several virgins and it wasn't much fun. They were very afraid and self-conscious during. My wedding night was incredible because we didn't have to fumble around. I also don't believe in the church mantra that sex is wrong and bad so save it for the one you love. That makes no sense to me.

Two, virginity is valuable only if you believe that. Frankly, I don't believe anything written by humans thousands of years ago that has been translated numerous times based on beliefs of the times.

I have had sex with many partners over my years and I really don't worry about my past sexual experiences with regards to my wife. I love my wife and we have a great sexual relationship which is certainly enhances because we have been able to bring other ideas and activities into our marriage.

In todays world I would never assume any more that the person you initially marry will be the person you are with the rest of your life. Sex has nothing to do with commitment unless you say it does. I have a feeling that most people don't believe in that otherwise we wouldn't have sex with anyone other than the first person we every had sex with. I certainly don't see people who get divorced not having sex in their next relationships. And even priests can't stop from doing it.

I'm waiting for marriage. I personally hope you're waiting for a while longer, as according to your profile, you're fifteen. That's far too young to have sex, IMHO. Okay, back to the question.

Anyhoo, the reasons I'm waiting:
1. I see my virginity as being the ultimate wedding gift I can give to my wife some day. I want her to know that I only want her, and nobody else. I want her to know that I'm giving myself to her and nobody but her, nor have I ever given myself to anybody else.
2. Dating relationships nowadays are too fickle for me to trust them with something as valuable as my virginity. They get made and broken too quickly and for the slightest of reasons, so I can't trust that what I give to her will remain with her and only her until I am married to her.
3. All the responsibilities that come along with having sex for the first time, or even the potential responsibilities, can only be held within marriage. That goes from babies to the emotional backlash of sex.
4. Honestly, if I only ever have sex with one woman, my wife at that, do you think I will ever think about how so-n-so was better? Nope. She will be the best, and absolutely awesome at that.
5. I value commitment highly, and I don't give it lightly. I don't want to be bonded like that to someone that may think that some day I may not want it or that I'll regret it. I want her to feel absolutely comfortable in the fact that I only ever want her. Okay, I realize that I'm basically repeating number one, but it is the absolute truth.
6. Last, but definitely not least, I am a Christian, and I believe that it should be kept for marriage. Sex creates an emotional, spiritual, and physical bond that can't be broken easily or without some damage being done. I never want it to come to that, so sex will be kept for marriage.

The reason that I put number six last wasn't because I think it's less important or that I base my feelings and beliefs on it, but rather that I have reasons for waiting. The faith I have just reinforces my commitment to waiting for marriage. I'm not so shallow as to say I believe in something for no better reason than that I have that religion/faith. I do it because I have actually thought about it. There is some strange reason to my madness.

I waited till I was 23. Not because I was waiting for marriage, or mister right, just waiting for someone I felt comfortable enough with to share that part of myself! I don't think people should have to wait till they or married, nor do I think you should sleep with every person you possibly can! Sex is great! But sex is also something that should be shared between two people who care about one another! When you have sex with someone, you give them a little piece of yourself that you can never get back! Don't share yourself with just anyone! Make sure he is worth it! Make sure he respects you and is not with you just for sex!

You are only 16! It is ok to still be a virgin! Don't rush things because you think everyone else is doing it! When it is right you will know and it will be great! And you won't regret it like most girls your age.

I didn't wait because I knew I'd never marry anyone without knowing if we were sexually compatible or not. Besides, sex is great. Why let the married people have all the fun? I can't imagine waiting in this day and age when there's very little stigma attached to premarital sex. It just seems so backwards.

I wanted to wait but that changed once it happened. Now I am with my second pregnancy. I really did want to wait. I wanted to be a doctor. I am still going to follow my dream.

I grew up with a VERY religious background. Raised as a Baha'i I was always taught to wait for marriage before you have sex. However, I lost my virginity to my boyfriend of 2 years when I was sixteen. I felt really REALLY crappy about losing it and fought with my own insecurities until I decided to leave the Baha'i faith a few months ago. I have had sex with about 3 guys, one I was in love with one I really liked and one was a hook-up with a friend. I have come tot he conclusion that for me, having sex before I'm married is perfectly fine. I think it's healthy to be sexually active at my age (I'm almost 20). The decision should be up to you though. In my opinion, I think sex should be left for a person who you really love. This doesn't necessarily mean marriage. Sex feels VERY different with someone you don't have feelings for as opposed to someone you love. Keep that in mind, but really think about it before you go ahead and have sex.

People are religious. And it's part of their religion to wait until marriage. & plus, I hope you're not a slut, and are willing to give out your virginity to someone random, like at a club or something. I suggest you should wait for someone you really love, and if you really love them, then losing your virginity to them would be special.

U have to wait for the person who's right for you. There lots of jerks out there honey and the least thing you want is a bad experience on your first time. Since your under 18 it should be something more like magical and if you really really wanna do then do it with a guy who you date for a long time enough to know you can trust. Yet you might not like it very very much at first but it takes practice.