My husband likes to look at pictures of fat women, does this mean anything?

He is not necessarily attracted to fat ladies. To some (or many) men, fat ladies are just something to laugh at, ridicule, and exploit.

For example, I have heard of good looking college men play a game called "goin' hoggin'. " They would each put $50 in a jar and then all would go to a bar to pick up a fat lady. The man who brings home and has sex with the fattest lady that night wins the jar of money the next day.

A good friend of mine also pretended to be a girl in an online poker game with his roommates. His roommates were playing online poker and so was he at the same time (as the girl), but they didn't know it was him. So he (as the girl) started to flirt with them and gave them a fake AIM screen name to chat with after playing poker. He asked for pictures of his roommates and they asked for a picture of "her." And he was really flirting with them by asking "do you want rated PG or rated X?" And then he said "well it looks like all I have is X." Then he told them to maximize the chat window and he sent them a picture or a really nasty naked fat lady. To his amusement he heard them screaming in disgust in the next room and then told them about it.

So men can come up with some funny, amusing, and sometimes cruel, pranks about fat ladies for their entertainment. Men can really exploit them. I could go on and on about fat jokes. There is something about fat ladies that just amuses us. And I know it's not fair and it is extremely disrespectful. I personally have never been disrespectful to a fat lady to her face or have exploited them like the college men who played goin' hoggin', but I have made countless comments and jokes about them when they are not around.

His sense of humor might be the biggest explanation as far as why he likes to look at fat ladies. I wouldn't feel insecure about his fetish with fat ladies. I would guess he might not be attracted to them.

P.S. I've had a really difficult time writing this letter and using the words "fat lady." We have so many ugly names for them, but I tried to be respectful and didn't use any of them.

There are all sorts of reasons why I get turned on about women. None of it means that I don't love my wife when she doesn't have those features. I like variety. My wife has large natural breasts and I love them, but I love looking at women who have smaller more petite breasts too. Men are very visual and easily stimulated by seeing pictures or videos of other women.

And each of us have different fantasies that affect us. I know I go through phases where I like one thing over another and then it can change.

What I do have to constantly tell my wife is that I love her and we have a relationship that has been building for years and that is why I'm with her. It isn't because she has the best body or not.

I'm sorry, but this question makes me happy. I'm large and I know I hate seeing men look at all these anorexic models and such that make me want to go throw up everything I just ate or never eat again.