Help, how come I get so close but can't reach the orgasm?

i would imagine at this point its all in your head. when you keep thinking " I wanna cum, I wanna cum" guess what? you wont! it goes for guys too, see I last a very very long time, and this is part of the problem, you just need to completely relax, make sure your really wet, turned on and teased, and go with the flow. thing is, be OK with not cumming, and it will happen, just like single people wanting a relationship, when they stop caring if they are single or not, they usually end up in one vs the people who LOOK for relationships yet can never find a good one or worse yet and settle

You're a squirter, and that's really cool.

Good advice:
Masturbate, get comfortable playing with yourself, don't expect to cum the first times, but enjoy it. Do it regularly and get comfortable being that exposed.
Exercise. Not just regular workouts, but PC muscle training. The PC muscle is the the pubococcyx muscle and it stretches from your pubic area to your tail bone. If you penetrate yourself with a finger, try squeezing it with your vagina, that's the muscle that you need to work out. Your anus will also move a little forward and inwards. It's pretty easy to distinguish. Tighten the muscle, hold it for 5 to 20 seconds, depending on how strong it is, and repeat the contractions and the isometric "holding" period 10 times. Do this 3 times a day for a couple of weeks, and it will prepare you for orgasmic potential. Nobody can see you do it. Do it in the morning, after you pee, on the toilet, on the bus or in the car on the way home, and in bed before you fall asleep. It's so unnoticeable, you can have a conversation whilst improving your orgasmic potential!
Foreplay. Before sex, have long foreplay with oral stimulus and a lot of kissing. Get comfortable with the situation.
Massage. You don't know how to "chase the orgasm" yet, which will let you reach the climax instead of being inches away. To climax, you need to be so relaxed that you won't think about how uncommon and strange the peeing sensation is when it arrives, and good half hour massage concentrated around the legs, thighs and external genital organs, including the butt (very important, do it well), will relax the surrounding musculature, preparing it for the "cramps" of orgasm.
Try to have him eat you out before attempting orgasmic intercourse. Have him eat you out whilst he fingers you. He should be using a water based lubricant, and enough of it, and focus on your g-spot. His fingers should almost gently stab you behind your pubic bone, right on the internal continuation of your clit. NB! Cut and file fingernails. More pressure is applied when you tell him to. Communicate what you like and what can make it better. You share this quest with him, and he'll be thrilled when you cum, with or without the awesome squirting effect. Being comfortable, letting him help you, and encouraging him is important. Remember, lying in between your legs, eating out pussy and fingering at the same time is hard work, and he will most likely need practice too. Patience, it'll all be worth it.

When you feel like you have to pee, let yourself go. There are physiological mechanisms that will prevent you from urinating whilst sexually aroused, and hopefully, a clear liquid will sprout from you vagina (it's not from your urethra) and it will be awesome. Make sure you pee before sex, it will ease your mind when you KNOW there is no need for your body to urinate.

Good luck!

I think its normal. Have you tried to play with your clit during sex? I also think the urge to pee is normal, in fact women who squirt get that sensation. You also may want to try a vibrator on that clit ans see if you can get that orgasm.

Good luck!

I had a similar problem. Honestly, I wasn't able to orgasm until one day when I get very drunk with my boyfriend. Keep in mind, I trust him very much and it was really just watching a movie and drinking (The Graduate, PS). However, the alcohol relaxed me enough to not worry about it and I was able to orgasm. It was amazing, because after 5 years of trying I felt like I had made a breakthrough and ever since then it's been so much easier and I can do it without the alcohol =]

The thing that helped me get there with my guy? Getting myself there alone first.

There's no way he's going to know how to do it right if you can't really direct him. Invest in a massaging shower head. Those things are fantastic. :) also, relax! A lot of reaching orgasm has to do with areas of the brain shutting down. (kind of crazy, isn't it? ) there was a good article about it in scientific american recently (http://www.Sciam.Com/article.Cfm?Id=the-orgasmic-mind) which might be worth reading. It'll come one day, and the less you worry, the easier it gets.

Dude I have the same problem! SOMEONE HELP

Just vaginal intercourse doesn't make all girls orgasm. Try to pull out all the stops if you have to, rub your clit, have him talk to you and do all the things that turn you on. Try having him eat you out first. And don't concentrate on that fact that you've never had an orgasm, just close your eyes and think about how amazing he's making you feel and you'll get it.

I agree with the first guy and the first girl. The urge to pee is normal and the fact that you can't get off is not abnormal. Try the things you suggest. I have that problem too and you just have to try things to get a feel for what you like. You do need a vibrator though that way once you figure out what it takes then you can tell your guy. Is he going deep enough? I have this whole not getting quite there problem too so I'm hosting a toy party so you might wanna try that too

For me, clit stimulation and hitting the G spot work every time. Try masturbating by yourself until you reach an orgasm so you can experiment with what it takes for you to reach an orgasm and apply that to you and your partner.

Try running the bathtub faucet and lay down in the tub with your clit under the running water. This works for me every time! I was doing this before I ever had sex so I knew how great an orgasm was, so then it was easier for me to instruct my boyfriend on what I liked.

I'm sorry but I'm just curious how you have never touched yourself? Like... Babies do it and we get curious as our bodies change and such... I started masturbating when I was like 8, so I guess I just can't understand how you would not do it. What do you have against it or whatever?

It's totally normal. A lot of women have trouble orgasming for the first time. Have you tried to do it yourself? It doesn't sound like you have. If not, you really should. Once you can get there on your own it becomes so much easier to guide a guy through doing it.