I did what I said I would never do ,I allowed myself to be taken back to the place where everything once felt SO GOOD. I'm not going to sit here and tell any lies truth be told I was fully aware of what I was doing . . now I realize that to every action there is a reaction. I was close friends with a guy before , but for reasons beyond my control ( at least that's how I seen it) we were never able to be together. I moved on and so did time, but my feeling's for him never changed, at one time he was my everything . . he had always managed to be that . . and so much more. Fast forward a few years later . . it has now been a couple of month's and we're back in eachother's life. All was not well at first , but we got through a couple of thing's and I assume we're making progress. We talk once in awhile , text often , and hung out once or twice. Problem is 2day we slept together . . while we were sleeping together he told me once or twice that I had ''lost him '' . I was confused and I let him know if I had lost him we wouldn't have been sleeping together at that very moment. Funny thing is he's always letting me know how things could never be the same, the past is the past, and in fact he's always bringing up that very ''past '' !! . Wat's his deal ?? Did things just get worst for us ?? Thing is I know that sleeping with him could open up old emotion's on my behalf , but I doubt it would affect him am I right ?? I know he use to ''kinda'' like me and I even told him that I know sleeping with him could lead to me falling for him again . . so why sleep with me .
I'm not totally answering your question here, but it seems valid:
When you orgasm with a guy, there are hormones related to trust, compassion and companionship released in your brain. Some argue this is more prominent in girls than guys, but I can't verily stand by that. Look up luteinizing hormone, follicle stimulating hormone and most importantly oxytocin on wikipedia for references.
Yes it feels good, but you are clouding your judgment because you are getting something you body craves, closeness, affection and companionship, and by giving in to what you want, you are making yourself dependent on that stimulus, and moreover, you are getting dependent on that one person. This mechanism helps us get through differences we are meant to work through in a relationship, and also helps us be less stressed, but there is always a point where you have to step back and ask yourself if this is what you want, and does it, in the end, give you enough for you to pursue it on a permanent basis?
His intentions might be many, and I will not speculate, but guys are known to seek sex, and will say or do weird things in order to have it. Some aren't as mature or considerate as you might want them to be, and this is where you need your judgment to be clear. What are his intentions? How does he go about getting what he wants, and finally, do you want the same thing?
He might be a terrific guy, most guys are, at least to those they care about, so talking about what you want in a relationship, and talking about commitment will bring about the answers you need in order to make a decision you may look back on and be pleased with. Sex is a wonderful way of connecting and conveying a message of love, but when trying to get an overview of a complicated array of factors, keeping sex out of the equation may be beneficial.
Why sleep with you? He is a guy. From time to time these creatures are only looking for sex, as surprising as it is to say.
I'm sorry to have to say this, but it sounds like one or more times over the past couple years, he has been with another girl. There have been long periods of separation, right? And the two of you have had problems that have kept you apart periodically, correct? That said, when people lack a strong commitment, they naturally tend to gravitate toward someone who will be able to fulfill their emotional needs. Unfortunately, from the sound of it, you have not been that person for him for quite some time. He has found other women in the world that can be there for him and thus moved on from you.
Lol . . I knew that he has had an ex- girlfriend and girl's that he has slept with. And I have had an ex-boyfriend. I should have explained more , but there's never enough time . And your right he is a guy . . who can have almost any girl he wants , but for a second he got caught out with me. It was a bad hit for both of us MAYBE who know's ?? I don't . . So I assume the same of u - 6 months ago
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