I want really really turn on my husband and an completely open to suggestions. I never take the initiative.

Eatable condoms or better yet you should wear eatable panties. One or both will surely turn on your man.

A considerate night:
Make food, something relatively light, but not to fiberish, he may be bloated. A fish dish is recommended. Give him a massage and let him sleep for half an hour, wake him up by cuddling, give him time to want to have sex. Let him be awake, rested not full, not hungry, feeling fit.

Then give him a blowjob he won't be likely to forget. Get out the lube and put lots on his genitals. Whilst using your hands to gently masturbate him (gently massaging with a rotational movement), and sucking his dickhead (pardon my english). The longer you take, the gentler you are, the more you listen to his wishes, the more he will like it. Make him come close several times, and then have him cum in you mouth, if you really want to spoil him, swallow. He need not end it there. Instead of orgasming from the blowjob, you can have him make love to you, which he will be most thrilled to do after a good BJ.

Tickle his balls, lick under them, massage around the root of the penis whilst sucking it. There are a million ways to turn him on, of which you probably know best, but spoiling him is the best way to encourage arousal in my opinion.

For more kinky advice, maybe try a prostate massage if he can handle such. a lot of us feel raped when this happens, no matter the amount of lube and care, so really; think about it first, and ASK!

Dress up like a maid, and never leave character.
Sensory deprivation. Give him ear plugs, a blindfold that covers his nose, and his sensory perception will increase as he's deprived of his other senses.
Invite you best friend over for a threesome.
Download some porn for you to watch during foreplay.

Tons of fun stuff to do, but not knowing what kind of relationship you have, it's hard to make a tailored response.

Good luck!

Nothing turns a guy in more than knowing he's really wanted. You should express your desires. I asked a question in this forum earlier called "Why do girls like sex?" and you sound like a typical girl from my life. Your husband may also feel like I do if that's the case.

I agree with EvilSheepEmpire to ask him what he would like. Creating an open channel of communication will really allow you both to be more fully expressive sexually.

Something many guys probably haven’t thought about before is the male g-spot massage aka prostate massage.

To do this you will use your very well lubricated finger to go up through his anus which is how you can reach the prostate gland. You will feel a silky smooth area up towards his penis. If you massage this area while stroking his penis or giving him oral sex it will intensify the overall stimulation he receives. During an orgasm you will feel the prostate pulse. This is what expels his semen. He will quite possibly have the best orgasm of his life. I know for me and many of my clients they would rank some of their top-10 orgasms from this type of stimulation.

Make sure you get a good silicon-based lubricant because most men, especially heterosexual men, aren't used to something going in that direction through the anus. Make sure it is a good quality lube (Eros is the one I use, but there are others) and that there is lots of it and go slowly.

Go read a copy of "How to be a great lover" by Lou Paget

Now tie him up (now he can't initiate). Drag you fingers over his body slowly. Eventually get to the cock. Tease the balls and the cock. Jack him off slowly. Take him right up to the edge of orgasm, stop and let him come down a little. Then crank him up again. Repeat until he offers you a new car. Then smile and jack off in front of him. After you come, finish him off anyway you like. Be coy and teasing. He should love it.

use shock factor, dress sexy and use all the tools you have at your disposal on him, he'll love it, f*** him and then make him lick your pussy dry, if he refuses get a vibrator and tell him unless he does what you say it will be used on him, when he licks you out use it anyway

wait until he's asleep, handcuff him to the bed, and then get your toys out, when he wakes up tell him he going nowhere till you have had your fun with him.

the first time he cums tell him its not good enough, and tell him he's going nowhere until he cums again.

Then give him a blowjob but order him not to cum in your mouth if he does make him swallow it all.

The start for a healthy sex life with your husband is in communication. instead of "finding out" what he wants, let him "tell you".

What I mean is. on a particular night, let him know that he will be calling all of the shots, at a romantic dinner and in the bedroom that night. ask him what he wants you to wear, and what he wants you to do.

When a man feels like he is in control, he will take initiative and leave with a more satisfied experience.

The same can work for you. on a particular night, let yourself call all of the night from play to play, and in this way, you effectively communicate with your husband because you are no longer having to tip-toe around romantic questions and feelings, you are simply asking for the fulfillment of your desires from your spouse.

This is effective communication.