Does that make me gay?

I get the impression that sometimes not wanting something to be is not our choice. Other people say it's all about choice. But urges can be powerful. It always seemed to me like bi people have the best of both worlds. And if I was a woman I think I would be bi. That sounds bizarre coming from a guy probably. I can just see a woman being attracted both ways. And I think I could deal with a girlfriend having female friend as well, even if I wasn't included. At least I would try to be that liberal. In your case, you have the option to explore, read, ask, listen and gather all kinds of input that might be of use. Talk to people who were where you are now and ended up going different directions. Don't just get one side and don't let anyone pressure you into going one direction or the other before you're ready . Take your time and be with who YOU want to be with, regardless of what terms people like to attach to it. Media brainwashing? By the way a lot of guys can't deal with this concept at all. They think that if they had the chance, they could take any gay girl and reason or pleasure her into being straight. She's just "misguided" after all. I don't think any amount of peer pressure or hype can get someone excited about something that is entirely against their nature.

It could mean you are gay. It could mean you are bi-sexual, It could just be a passing curiosity. None of them is wrong.

Let me ask you a question about not wanting to be gay.are you afraid of it because society frowns on it? What if there was a society that didn't meddle in what peoples sexual preferences were and were accepting of homosexuality? Would you still not want to be gay?

Being gay does not make you wrong or bad. It just means you have a preference to couple with someone of the same gender. However, what I am hearing is that you are attracted to both. That could mean you are bi-sexual. There is another term not used too frequently called ambi-sexual, which means you have a preference for one sex, but will hook up with the other under the right circumstances.

My suggestion is to try it out. I know there are a number of swing clubs that are out there and it seems that many of the women that participate in them are bi-curious. Depending on where you live you could go to one of these to see what it would be like to kiss a woman. One caution about swing clubs though is that many women really want to establish a connection with someone and swing clubs sometimes is more about having sex than creating that connection. You might find that you don't enjoy kissing a women from a swing club because that connection hasn't been created. It will be up to you to create the right situation for yourself.

If you do kiss a woman to try it I suggest just relaxing and enjoying it and really be open to the experience and not necessarily creating that that is who you are. And there is no harm in trying. If you don't like it then it doesn't mean you are irrevocably gay or straight.

Wow

talk about media brainwashing. Sorry if its a offensive comment, I really hate being impolite.

But this one hits me in a soft spot. Two girls is more appealing than a guy and a girl kissing ? Wow.

Well, I guess you like what you like, whatever makes you happy. I simply feel that this effect is because of mainstream media.

To me gay means the same thing as being straight. If you love this woman like you would a man then you are gay but if it is just to kiss and make out then it is simply called a new experience.

Maybe you are just curious, or possibly bi sexual?