Making Love vs Casual Sex?

I make love to my wife. My heart and soul is in it. But before I was married I had a "f buddy" who was an ex-girlfriend who would call me late at night when she was horny, and if I was in the mood she'd invite me to hers to spend the night. She'd be horny and have no way to satisfy herself, which is where I came in. It was not love making, just good sex.

To just "f" someone, I think is hard, lusty sex.

Yeah there's a difference. Making love is for someone you really care about & could be THE ONE. After getting naked & intimate or having sex, you still wanna be with that person snuggling or talking & sharing ideas & POVs. And just feeling good being with that person.
You should feel more emotion even if the sex isn't superlative.

Having sex is for someone you are attracted to & wanna get naked with. Your lust takes over & is satisfied until you are horny again.

Both are good.
-Male POV

I believe that making love is something you do when you have created a connection with your partner and you are looking to mutually expand the energy between each other through the act of sex. It is very connecting.

I feel that casual sex is more about getting each other off and that is not a bad thing. It is less about connecting to the person you are with and getting a desire met. And that is not to say that you can't have casual sex with your partner. Most of the time we make love, but sometimes there is just the selfish need to be fulfilled.

To me, making love differs because you care so deeply about the person you're with that you become selfless and totally consumed in the union between you. There aren't any games involved, you just let yourself be as close as possible to that one person, without concern for climax, time or external factors. There is, in my opinion, no need for casual sex to be different from making love, but the closeness to a person decides whether you'll be committed enough to feel like you're making love, and that experience is very subjective. When I have been making love to my girl, I feel connected to her, way more than any casual encounter could ever give me.

It's very hard to define, but to me, making love is a sexual expression for how I feel, whilst casual sex is for getting us off, and then, my main concern would be myself and how I feel. Does that sound terrible?

I just think it's what you make it out to be, how much it means to you, and what you want you partner to think of it.

I can't have casual sex though I wish I could! There's this little voice in my head that won't allow it. I actually got a girl in this position once and I was shocked at how easy it was to say no. I knew it was the right thing to do and I was very happy not to go through with it. I know she wanted it and we were really good friends. It could have been an ideal friends-with-benefits thing but I really have to want to be close to her that way for it to work for me. This is one guy who's big head thinks for his little head!

To me its night and day.

If I love the person its way more intense, not to mention I'm way way harder cause I am aroused emotionally and physically. Also when I'm making love, I cum way harder. Also no horrible feelings of remorse afterwards which some guys get after causal sex.

To be completely honest, If I'm making love, I don't even care if I cum (though I do really care that she does), its mostly about being close and making her feel great.

There's definitely a difference. Casual sex can be good but when you're with someone that you really care about and love there's a very strong emotional connection that cannot be mistaken for just sex. If you have that connection then you'll know and you won't be in such a hurry to push him out the door.or get going yourself, whatever the case may be. If you're in love then you're making love. You cuddle up and fall asleep in each others arms and wake up in the morning with no regrets.

i don't mean to sound rude but why do people refer to sex as 'making love'? you're not creating anything.

but to answer your question, I prefer 'making love' as it's more satisfying for me to see that I'm pleasing my significant other. I doesn't matter too much to me if I don't get off. sex to me should be a physical extension of one's emotions. to be honest, I'd rather just be held underneath the covers.

i can't say that I've ever had casual sex as I need to care about the person in order to have sex with him. but I guess it'd just be a physical thing where you just satisfy your sexual urges and then be done with each other. so no cuddles after sex. no bringing him a sandwich in his t-shirt after sex. lol.yeah I make a him a sandwich after if it was intense. that and/or a back rub.

usually during sex you just are feeling great and good about what is going on. but when making love you feel passion and there is a connection there besides just the penis in you vagina.