Should I Tell My Mom I Was Sexually Abused By My Father?

maybe now isn't the right time. maybe when your older conditions will be ideal

Maybe it would be best to seek professional help for now. They would know the best steps to take with your situation more than anyone else. There are many organizations and counselors even at college campuses who can help. It's unfortunate but I'm sure they've dealt with similar situations as yours and could help you handle and solve this problem. Eventually, your mother will have to know. Stay strong!

Yes... you should. And if she denies it, let her be. The main thing here is to fine closure for yourself.

I feel really sad for you. With the way your dad is, your mom could probably find someone much better. I don't know if he is a violent type of alcoholic but tell your mom what happened between you and your uncle wasn't the first time and that it happened from someone else and before telling her who it is; remind her not to directly confront him if he is physically abusive. If she immediately rushes at him yelling, he may lash out. I wouldn't confront him yourself for you safety. Tell her and ask if there is any friends you both can stay with in case staying at the house is not safe. I don't want to scare you but it's hard to tell how he might react if he knows other people know. If your mom knows this then, like you said, she may get the push needed to leave this pathetic man and find a better person for both her AND you! She may be able to finally say she wants a divorce. Nothing is more precious to a mother than her child. If you tell her, I'm sure she'd rather leave him to protect you than to keep you in constant misery. I'll try to reply again tomorrow when I have a clearer head (very tired). This is very serious and I hope more people will take some time to help you out.

You will have to come to term with it, maybe get some professinal help,

RE: updates - You're going through a stage of development and life change, it's natural that these feelings come up now. Are you in a new relationship, or has your relationship become closer? Maybe you just broke up, moved, etc? Have you looked into counseling? If you need to chat in private, go ahead and send me a message. I'm willing to help all I can.

/hug

Wow... As the dad of a little girl, I feel nauseated and angry. I'm sorry you've had to deal with that. Should you tell your mom? My instinct tells me yes. She needs to know the man she married. And you should. Your uncle molested other girls - your father may too. Do what you can to protect them. It's a hard decision. I'm sorry.

Yes, and send him to prison

Send that asshole to prison.

Yes. You should.

look I know is something to fear. but this also happened to me and it was traumatizing this always brings me to tears... but except I was sexually abused by my uncle ...i told my mother...she told me never to tell my father because my father loves me to death and my father was capable of killing my uncle..this happened 6 years ago..my father still doesn't know. my advise to you is to tell your mother...you might go to some difficult stuff and it feels horrible but do it for the best... just remember don't you ever let that stop you from being your self or living your life like you should...GOODLUCK..

Yes tell. Please don't feel guilty you did NOTHING wrong. He is the monster who did this to you. He has to take responsibility, do what is best for you. I can't imagine living with that for years and years, for your mental health and sanity you should tell.

I'm not a mother but I am a guardian to a child and if anything happened to her I would want to know as soon as possible. I would hate to think she hid that for years and felt she couldn't tell anyone. Seriously SCREW her marriage, look at it like this, the longer you don't say anything the longer she is married to a rapist pervert. You don't deserve to go through this alone.

I am so sorry. I really beleive you should tell her though, she has a right to know, she would probably want to know. Think if you had a child and he/she was molested by your husband or boyfriend, you would probably want to know right? Your mother loves you, and obviously this is weighing on your heart and has been for a while. Also by not saying something he could get the chance to do it again. I would just sit her down and just tell her that this has been something you have been trying to deal with for years, and its hard to tell her, and that its going to hurt, but you felt she should know and go on from there.

I think you should tell your mother about this because she also has the has the right to know that the man she calls her husband hurt her young one, which is you. But I'm sorry about this big burden you feel. No one should have to go through this.

No question about it, you need to tell her.
Hope things work out for the best.

There's a lot of things to consider with this. Maybe weigh out the pros and cons. If you truly think it will break your mothers heart, and you don't want that to happen, there's a big con on telling her. But on the other hand, do you really think your mother would want to be with someone who molested her daughter? I don't have any kids but if I was a mother, I would want to know straight up, I wouldn't care if it was my parents, their siblings, or my husband. If my child was molested, and he/she waited years to tell me, like you say do I wait until he dies/divorce, I would be hurt in the sense that they didn't feel like they could tell me or the thought it would hurt me too much. If you're going to tell her, just be straight up honest. Obviously, in my eyes, I wouldn't say it with your father right there, but take her aside. Maybe at first talk about your uncle, then say there was another incident. Then tell her about it. The law really can't do anything about it now, but your mother may well do some damage. Good luck on whatever you decide. :)