Why did he do this?

I'm very sorry you went through that. No one should have to. Now stop reading here unless you are ready to handle what I have to say.

If you seriously think it was your fault, you should talk to a psychologist to find out why you're thinking things like that. Someone has caused you to actually see the world in a way that makes you a slave. Whether it was abusive parents or abusive kids at school, someone has conditioned you to accept being a victim. You need to find out who that was and make sure they are out of your life as well.

If you don't report it, you've just condemned the next woman to rape. Please don't listen to anyone that give you advice on repairing your relationship with this person. Society rewards people like that too often. It hurts us all.

leave him if you say NO that means NO that's considered rape

That is called RAPE.

he did that cause he was obviously horney.first you should approach him and tell him that him doing that was f***ed up! and that if he wants sex he's gotta work for it.but also sometimes even if your not in the mood have sex anyways cause its better he's doing it with you than trying to find someone else to do it with you know?.but you should do what you think is right and talking about even if its uncomfortable is usually the best solution

Ask him about it. There is a condition where, In your sleep you engage in sexual activity. He could have had that condition. Don't jump to conclusions like he willingly raped you. You are getting married and he loves you very much, perhaps he was just incredibly horny and had always fantasized about doing that with someone whom he loves and trusts.

Just remember, you are getting married. If it was only about sex, you still be boyfriend and girlfriend.

Since you asked this question you've started partially taking the blame like you think it was partially your fault. So is it or isn't it? Personally, my opinion of that is that it was "date rape"! He raped you. But if you wanna still stand by him and say it was partially your fault then just let it be because it's your call. Weren't you totally pissed off at what he did? For gosh sakes, leave this dude before he does more to you. Most girls would call the police and turn him in. Did he use a condom? You might get pregnant you know and how about std's? How long have you guys been having sex? How did he ever do this without you waking up so you could stop him? Has he been aggressive in the past when it comes to sex?

He just raped you and forcefully at that that's a sign of an abusive relationship and he's violent you should get out soon!

The thing a lot of people miss in a relationship is that self sacrifice is really important in both parties in order to maintain a long lasting, loving relationship. Putting all things aside mentioned, at times its not so much as to how do I feel, or what am I going to get out of this, but what can I do for my partner. If your boyfriend knows you weren't wanting to have sex but did anyways he should recognize the self sacrifice you made to please him. If he is a good guy he will recognize this and love you even more because your willingness to put him first over you. This should be present in both parties, but you are only responsible for yourself. Eventually it would cause him to want to do the same for you, and I am not always talking about in return for sex. Relationships aren't about me, myself, and I anymore. If you two are serious about marriage you should think on this. I get sick of people thinking its always what you want, and how you feel when it comes to relationships. If that's the case why are you even with someone in the first place. I am not saying your selfish or were being that, but think of it from this point of view.

Not married and married is the same. You should consent before having sex. Legally he raped you, but I don't see you charging anything against him. You probably love him to much to do that, so you need to really talk to him. Let him know that no matter how turned on he gets, it must be okay with you before he does anything to you. Otherwise you will call the police on him as a domestic dispute. Let him know he will never do that to you again cause it not only hurt physically but mentally too.

He's being too rough and too forceful sex should be enjoyable for both partners and not painful.

Tell him that he is being too rough and if this continue that you should break up because he not respecting your feelings and if he did he would have never done that and he mostly wants control over you. And if your bleeding after it go to your doctor or he probably popped your cherry.

confront him.

if this guy is the man you are going to marry, and you love and trust yet he VIOLATES YOU LIKE THAT? you really need to reconsider everything you have together with him. this brings it to the next level, and seriously you need to consider leaving him if he doesn't apologize and explain why he was being a pig.

Ask Him Why!
Thats The Best To Do!

My health and safety teacher told us that sometimes you can bleed a little during sex, I forget why though. But this is really serious. If you said no and he still did it then that's rape and you should tell someone. And this is just out of personal belief but if he doesn't have the self control to wait to have sex then odds are he probably doesn't have a ton of self control in other areas once your already in marriage.

I am with The Dude he raped you welcome to American

wow. I'm shocked that you're even asking this question. You need therapy. I've had tons of boyfriends and if any of them ever did that I would have seriously reevaluated our relationship(fiance or not!) It is NOT normal behavior for a guy to do that and it would not be ok with most girls since it kinda says that he is at the least a selfish prick and at the worst a sexually abusive jerk who very likely is manipulating your feelings so he can get ass whenever he wants despite what it might do to your health or feelings. Is this guy in your age group or much older? How does your family feel about him? Do your friends think he's a nice guy? About the bleeding from your vagina. tell him what he did and that you need to see a gynecologist and take note of his reaction and see if he offers to pay for it without you having to ask him.