I've never got the big "O"?

Especially when guys first get in the arena, they're really a bit clueless. There's no magic bullet for every woman, and I assure you: When you climax it will be impossible for either of you to doubt it! The key (as I say with most all facets of a relationship) is communication and yes this applies even in bed. If you experiment at length and find what feels good and what doesn't you can communicate that to your partner to help out. It would be helpful to try to orgasm yourself and see where that takes you.

As for come, women have the ability to release fluids too. The reaction is normal, and can accompany an orgasm if you "let it happen". Many hold back out of fear, but the more you practice you'll know the difference. For males, we know the difference between ejaculation and urination but we use the same muscles to start or stop both. The same principal applies to you too! It's going to take time, and another important thing here is to try new things. You'd be surprised what fun both parties involved can have!

P.S. Guys have the bad tendency to stop stimulation before you have a chance to fully climax. Also, try some foreplay in the beginning and really build up to it a while. I wish you all the health and enjoyment in the world, and may it bring you closer together as well. To make you feel better: No one is a born pro and that goes for either side. It takes practice.

all you really need to do if you wanna make yourself cum is to just, before you take a shower let the water run and put your vagina under the running water and let it hit your clit or whatever you prefer it to stimulate and that should also work like the hot tub or whatever but I think the whole bathtub is safer since you don't have water shooting out with all that pressure

The only way that you will ever cum during intercourse, is if you learn to cum by yourself. Lay down on your tummy, place your left hand down by your clit. Place your right hand on your right thigh to grip for momentum. So it will be like you are laying on top of your hands. With your left hand, you will be using your index and middle finger to rub on your clit. You need to be aroused, so try a dirty movie or magazine to get you "in the mood" the first time. I remember the first time I masturbated was while a saw a porno, my urge led me to find my clit. I watched and rubbed, and then the orgasm hit. You haven't had an orgasm yet, but when you do, you will definitely know! Just enjoy a naughty movie alone, which will make you tingle in the spot that you need to rub. I hope you have a big O very soon.

idk bout sex but if you want a definite orgasm.masturbate with a jet in a hot tub or something. Just don't let it spray in ur vagina. it works every time. b patient.