Any ideas? Should we be having sex?

It seems like having sex is very important to you. I don't think you should try to pressure her, but I also don't think there's anything wrong with letting her know this. If she plans on not having sex until marriage it'd be good to find this out. Then you can figure out if that's something you can deal with or not.

It sounds to me as if you're more concerned with conforming to societal standards for your relationship than actually thinking about what it is you truly want, and what's best for your relationship. Moreover, If she isn't ready, she'll probably regret it after; if you love her, that will hurt you more than anything. You both need to just discuss what's right for you. Bottom line, don't let your friends or peers change your judgment on your own relationship. They aren't the ones in it, you are.

You know you're ready for sex when it feels the right time. You shouldn't have to ask if you should be doing it.

People develop at their own pace, and no one should judge you for still being a virgin, if they do it says more about them. Never feel inadequate against them.

Your girlfriend obviously doesn't seem quite ready and you don't seem it either, but just chill the time will come when you both will be, and you can share something special with someone you love. This is your relationship, not anyone else's.

you should only have sex after you're sure that both of you are ready for that experience. Because, hence what your friends say, sex is something intimate shared between 2 people. And they can't tell you when its time for you to do it, that's up to you and your girlfriend. And if your girlfriend is very very horny, I think that sex would be something that's on her agenda for sometime in the near future. but you should ask her what she thinks first

Just don't pressure her. The only way she will ever let it happen is if she loves you and wants to make you happy. screw what anyone else thinks. she is the one you love! :)

You can't let your friends or anyone else dictate to you what is right and wrong in your relationships. You have a once in a lifetime chance to save yourself for marriage. Once it's gone, it's gone and something that you can't get back. So you will want to really think about that before you venture there. I found that usually my friends that bragged, it wasn't even like that. They either lied or made things a lot bigger deal then they actually were so it sounded good. You will know when it's right for you and her. Just be patient. You might try having a talk with her about kissing and telling (or the lack of). That's never a good idea.

Ignore everyone who makes you feel like you must. They can be as promiscuous as they like. But their number one concern is probably not how you and your girlfriend are doing as a couple. Having said that, I have to agree that oral sex is sex. Technically it's a different act, but it's a sex act. What is the significance of being a virgin in one sense and not the other? If I know a girl has had oral sex with someone, then I don't consider her a virgin. That's me. You may see it differently. Some guys would feel left out if they had regular sex but their girlfriend wouldn't do oral. Some girls will let more than one guy have sex, but save their kisses for only the boyfriend. (True) In some peoples' way of thinking, even touching or a thought of sex is adultery. And you have countries where it is considered improper to even see a girls face. I have read that there is a surgical procedure that can make her appear to be a virgin when she isn't. What's the point? How pure is it to deceive? (again I've only read that). So there's this concept of saving some part of you for that one person. But which part? Should it really be your heart? And if it's you're heart, then what part of you physically is or isn't off limits? You hear about the person who gets caught cheating and pleads."but it didn't mean anything". So how would you feel if she would allow you to do anything you wanted, but she made it known that she was really in love with this other guy and always would be? Count your blessings.

You should only have sex when both of you are ready to have sex. Just because your friends are having sex doesn't mean you should.

I curious to know what your reasons for or against having sex. I know some people argue that if you have sex before you get married then you aren't able to give yourself that person completely. I say that if you aren't having sex before you get married then you really don't know who you are and what you want from a sexual partner and it is pretty tough to make a commitment to one person for the rest of your life with such limited knowledge.

There may be other reasons, but I would tell your friends that the two of you just aren't ready for it yet. If you are absolutely ready then talk to your girlfriend about it. She may have some sort of up bringing that preaches church dogma that says no to sex.

I say be true to yourself. Have sex if you are ready for it. If your girlfriend is not ready for it then let her be true to herself. There is nothing wrong with waiting just like there is nothing wrong with going ahead and having sex.

Heh, I'm sure there are people in your position. Sex really isn't a necessity,
but it seems to be coming that way with our society. You shouldn't really be ashamed
that you haven't had sex. I'm 18 and I've never had a girlfriend or even hugged a girl
until the one I have now. So basically my first hug was a few months ago. In my opinion,
oral sex is sex. Hence why the word 'sex' is in that term. And yeah, every guy would like
to do the "real thing". I admit I have before, but I controlled that easily. I know it isn't an
absolute necessity, but it's in the nature of men. And it's good you don't pressure her.
Just keep it that way until she brings it up or asks for it or whatever. As I say, there's no
point in doing it if both people can't enjoy it. I know I wouldn't enjoy it if my girlfriend didn't
enjoy it. But don't worry about being a virgin. If anything, you should be proud of it. My
girlfriend and I are waiting until after marriage to do anything like that. Don't be shy to tell
your friends you haven't done the deed. It really isn't like they're going to look down at
you.

But this is just my point of view on this. I know others have different says on this.