Where me and my old high school friends met up (all girls). We're hanging out and stuff and as I'm about to leave, I'm going to hug them all goodbye and for some reason I get this really strong feeling to kiss them. All of them. And most of them I don't think are all that good looking, I just like them as friends. Like, as I'm going in to hug them, I feel this need as they get close to just go ahead and kiss them. I don't know why I get these feelings. Does it mean that I'm gay or what? I've been struggling with my sexuality, but I thought that I finally decided that I liked guys, but I just don't know. (that, and I have this thing where I"m somewhat horrified of guys.does that fear of possible intimacy make me think that I could be gay?). I was just hoping someone could help.
Well what I think you need to do is tell one of your close friends that is a girl how you feel and see if she will let you kiss her so you can see whether or not you like it and want to try more. There is nothing wrong with experimenting and seeing what you like so pic someone close that your trust not to freak out and see if they will try some things with you!
First off hun, you're not alone. Almost every girl has gone through a stage in junior high, high school or college where they've done something with, or thought about doing something with another girl. Girls are a lot different with guys in the fact that girls get a lot closer to each other then guys do. When girls talk to each other, they are inches away from each others face, while guys keep their distance. Girls also are a lot more emotionally attached with each other then guys. They hug each other more often, and do a lot more touching then guys do. They will also swap clothes, change in front of each other, sleep in the same bed, or even shower together. They just have a lot stronger and closer bond with each other. Also girls just naturally have cute bodies. So to be honest, you are not different by thinking a girl is cute, or wanting to do something with one or more. It doesn't make you gay, it doesn't make you bi, it just makes you normal. Many girls do some experimenting when they're young. One thing leads to another, and it just happens. But you're normal hun. Don't worry about it.
Ok here's what I think. Maybe the fact that your struggling with your sexuality you feel that by making a move on a friend will be easier to take rejection or come to terms with wanting to be with other women if its someone you know really well rather thank making out with a random girl at the bar or a party. Your never really going to know until you experiment but I truly think that you should just be who you are, but ask yourself what you really want and go with it.
Kissing on the cheek or lips doesn't mean you're gay, even if you were happy to do it. It's natural, society makes us believe it's always a homosexual thing. Sometimes it's not a matter of gay or straight, but in between, liking both but one more than the other. Don't be afraid to explore a bit more and get a better idea of what it is you like and want. :)
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