My boyfriend and I have been dating for at least a year and we thought we'd wait until both of us are 18 to have sex. But we have been fooling around a lot and one day we went a bit far and decided to see what sex felt like. So he put his penis in me, to cut the story short. So now I am quite confused about whether we have had sex or not, because technically we have.but would you really count that as sex?
To the Question Asker: That one comment you made too one of the answers - " But I guess it just depends on perspective " is what's most important - "YOUR PERSPECTIVE!" because that's the only one that really counts. That guy that you made that comment to made the most sense to me. Like if your boyfriend instead had touched the tip of his tongue to your pus*y and that's all, did you guys have oral sex? Or, you touch the tip of his penis with your tongue, did you give him a bj? I'd say you two were just experimenting to see what sensation you'd both feel but refrained from doing anything more so that you could still retain your virginity. I'd say technically you didn't but you touched - with is penis instead of his finger.
I'm not sure why there is such a big fuss about being a virgin or not. By definition being a virgin is someone who hasn't done something. You are no longer a virgin at intercourse, but you are a virgin I would assume at anal sex. All it means is that you do have the experience of having intercourse. You may be a virgin at having really good sex. Don't worry. You are not going to go to and burn in hell just because you have had sex. If that was the case then a good number of Catholic priests will be there first.
So, technically you are not a virgin when it comes to intercourse, but what is your definition of sex. I happen to think that kissing passionately is a sexual activity.
I'd not consider that as having sex. Instead I'd say that was big time making out. If he just put his penis in but you guys didn't like go at it or at least try to go at it, I'd say then how could that be having sex. It'd be like what if you touched your b/f's penis to see how it felt hard and that's all you did. Would you call that giving him a hj or jacking him off? You won't be confused when you actually have sex because it'll be more than just a "touching" experience. So I'd say you're still a virgin. Like if you told me you had done that with your ex but now you and me are going together, I'd consider you a virgin and that'd be pretty special. .
You're the only person here who thinks different...what you said is what I thought as well, but the majority of people seem to think that I have and that's what confuses me. But I guess it just depends on perspective - 2 months ago
This is basically what happened to me. I was confused on if me and this guy had sex. I explained the story to my friend and she said that I definitely lost my virginity and did count as sex. With one thrust, orgasm or not, you totally lost your virginity. Like everyone else said, it wasn't good sex but it was sex.
Honey you are no longer a virgin and never will be again. You have had sex, not good sex as tassy said, but sex indeed is what you had. Might as well keep going now, but be sure to wrap that penis or you will have more than sex to worry about.
If you have never had sex but you have masturbated are you still a virgin? I haven't ever had sex with a guy. A guy has NEVER fingered me or gone down...
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