We've been together for about 4 years almost and the past year or so we just stopped having sex. I always bring it up and he says he doesn't know why and I ask if it's me and he says no but I don't know. He won't even make out with me or nothing. The only thing I do is jerk him off once in a while that's it. I'm like certain he's not cheating because I'm always with him and he's not gay but I don't know what to do.
Update: Something that doesn't make sense is there were times in the past months when I found he had accounts with porn sites and that made me upset because here I am right in front of him but he rather look at porn and he tells me he isn't in the mood?
2 months ago
Picking porn over a real girl isn't cool and I wouldn't blame you for dropping him, but if you really want his attention, then become one of his fantasies. Log on to some of the sites to see what turns him on. If it is not illegal or dangerous and not a total turn off to you, then give it a shot. Guys like when their girl can be a little naughty. If that doesn't work, then he will always choose porn over you and you will have to make a decision. be with a boyfriend who will never be with you sexually or find a new boyfriend.
I did and it was for feet ...so I'm guessing he has foot fetish...and the only thing we do once in a blue moon is he uses my feet to jerk off and it stops there... when I try touching him or down there he says "babe stop" and I don't know what to do and when I bring up sex I ask if there's something wrong with me but he says no he isn't in the mood.. but its been like this for so long and I know he really does love me because everything else is fine he does everything to make happy except for sex . - 2 months ago
he looks at porn while there is a sweet girl 2 seconds away from him and desiring to have sex with him . there is a problem there but you said you are sure he is not cheating on you he is neither gay. well I think for sure he doesn't love you again if he doesn't want to have sex with you and he got some issue that you can't help him at the moment so I think its best you find someone who love you and deverse to have sex with you . I don't think he deverse to have sex with you
Do you know what kind of porn he was looking at? There are many, many fetish type sites, and if he has a specific fetish, it's the only thing that is going to do it for him.
If that is the case, he may be afraid to talk to you about it, because it maybe a socially taboo act, and he may believe you would not be receptive.
If that is true, it comes down to if you are willing to participate, or if it's something you can not do. Either way, be respectful, and be supportive.
Hmmm sounds like he's about to tell you we need to talk and then break up with you, once a guy doesn't want to get physically involved with a girl that means he's either cheating but you say its not the case or he's ready to end the relationship. That's not good you better talk to him about it and find out if you want to salvage the relationship, but for the love of god do not get all bitchy about it, he won't talk to you trust me, but if you ask him calmly and he is more than likely to say what's on his mind.
I don't think that he wants to end it because he really does love me but I think he either has like some kind of problem down there or he isn't attracted to me anymore because he says like he's not in the mood and on several occassions I saw he had accoutns with porn sites and that just makes me mad because I'm his girlfriend who he has right in front of him but yet he'd rather look at porn? but he says he isn't in the mood? makes no sense and he won't even make out with me either - 2 months ago
I agree with the others. I would stop jerking him off. When you do does it get hard rather quickly? How much c*m? Does he at least give you oral back? Does he try to satisfy you in any way with toys.? Is he doing it himself too much? Does he watch a lot of porn? There's a lot of ?'s here. I think he needs to be honest or go to the Dr. To try meds but then again when you do it does it get hard all the time & does he c*m? It's not fair to you. I would say that a talk is in order here.
Maybe you just need to hit the exit. This seems so out of the ordinary. There is something going on, not necessary cheating, but something that he isn't confronting, and that means he's not being honest with you. Four years is a long time to all of sudden not be honest. Which would mean he's ashamed about whatever it is.
Maybe there is a specific act that gets him motivated, but you're going to have to demand that he talk about it now, or else.
well spruce up,dye ur hair,keep fit,shave,and change ur perfume,buy some new clothes,and change some of ur attitudes,and surprise him every once in a while by sexy lingeries,strip for him,and make sure you give him hiney or nuts or vitamine Es which make his hormones peak,does he eat well?
I'm afraid there is something drastically wrong here. If after a year this has not straightened out, it probably isn't going to. You need and deserve a sexual life. What little you have is solely for his benefit. He could at least return the hand effort if he had any regard for you. I think you must consider seriously the possibility of ending this relationship.
Thatnks for responding but he def. isn't cheating he is with me all the time..honestly I think he may have lost that attraction to me since we see each other everyday - 2 months ago
I'm sorry, but having a healthy relationship includes sex. If your needs aren't being met. why would you stay? Is it just because you've been together so long? I realize long relationships have their ups and downs in the bedroom, but jeez! I hope there is a way to recreate that spark between the two of you, because not having your needs met will cause bitterness and ruin any love between you. So, I guess I would want to try to recreate that spark, that chemistry you once shared together. Maybe stop bringing it up in conversation, and just try seducing him all over again. Make him remember why he once wanted you in bed, without saying a word about the lack of sex
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What pickup lines do you use to start a conversation with someone you are attracted to?
I don't really use a "pickup line." Usually I will just ask them something basic relating to a common situation (if we're at a party, we're co-workers, etc.), and then hopefully steer it into a conversation where I can ask about them, learn about them, hopefully throw in a few jokes here and there. Past that, though, I don't always follow through, which is where I struggle.
How do they typically respond?
Usually pretty well, the interaction is more friendly than anything, so there isn't much pursued past that point. I feel good about my initial approach, I guess it's 'closing the deal' that I'm not good with.
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