Anyone angry over circumcision? I hate my parents for allowing it.

I wish every day that I wasn't circumcised. I would give up everything I have to have a whole and complete body. What mother would take a knife to her own son? Who would hurt their own child? Whenever my mom said something like "I would die for you, never let anyone harm you," I just couldn't believe her. My glans rubs against my clothing all day and causes me constant pain. Sex will never be as pleasurable for me, and women prefer uncirced men because it gives them more pleasure too. I am jealous of dogs. Maybe in heaven I will have my foreskin? I just wish I had been given the choice of which body parts I got to keep and which were thrown in the dumpster. I was a beautiful baby boy and my own mother couldn't accept all of me. Minutes after birth I had to be butchered. Even though I know she thought it was best, never intended any harm, and wasn't even the one who wanted it (Dad did), I can't trust her. I could never get close to her, and I'm in my twenties and living on my own now. No matter how I consciously think, I feel deep down that my mother didn't save me from harm the one chance she had.

I feel terrible knowing any man, no matter how average, could please my girlfriend more than I can.

I feel like a woman who had one breast amputated so that "you would have a 50% less chance of breast cancer". Any woman in that state would be breast-obsessed and feel inferior to every woman on the street. She would feel unsexy and incomplete. That is how I feel. All men have an invisible competition with each other and I am always the loser because I'm not really a man. I am what is left over of what could have been a man.

I have a good job, a girlfriend who loves me and I plan on marrying, and many friends. I still feel incomplete because despite all that I have, I don't have my own body. I never got used to it, I just learned to endure it. I am disgusted with my own penis - it is scarred and repulsive. I was denied my sexuality, and sexual pleasure, the beautiful union that joins two souls.

Why did my parents do this to me? Why couldn't they love me for who I was? Did the 9 months in my mother mean anything? I know they didn't think it would cause me pain, but I've never healed from the scars they left on my soul. No matter what I think, deep down I don't trust them, don't want to be near them, and am scared of what they are capable of. I know these are irrational thoughts but I can't get them out of my head and it has poisoned my relationship with them. I never told them how I felt, because it would break their heart to know I hate and resent them, but I never bonded with my own parents because of my own one-sided anger, and that hurts just as much as being incomplete.

I've never seen so many stupid f***s and dumb bitches in one place. I can relate to everything OP said, and in no way is he a p**** for being angry at his mother about the circumcision. If you're one of the homosexuals who posted here trying to degrade him for it, I suggest you shut the f*** up and get yourself educated.

Circumcision has ruined my life as well. As I got older and discovered masturbation, I realized I could regulate the flow of blood under my penis, where the veins integrated with the scar skin outside. It affected everything in me, literally. From all my 5 senses,my thinking process, to causing great anger for no reason and great depression. It almost acted like some unnatural valve that shouldn't be there. Ofcoarse, I couldn't explain this to any1, and even when I tried, no1 could relate to what I was saying, because that situation was unique to only me. Anyways, one day I guess I touched it the wrong way or too rough and it caused even more blockage, that only got worse and worse. My family keeps telling me to go get it checked out, but I don't think its fixable at this point and have lost all trust in doctors.

Ive been dealing with this ever since I hit puberty, instead of enjoying life. I'm now in my mid 20s and am seriously considering suicide. I'm even studying afterlife and reincarnation before I do it. All because of the stupid, unnecessary, barbaric f***ing surgery. Not to mention, I'm actually really good looking and had to turn down a good share of fine, beautiful girls because of it.

Do you see it now? Did that paint a pretty good picture of what its like for males like us, and what we have to go through? Some dudes might not have a problem with it, and it that's fine if that's what you want. I would have no complaints, if I decided to get circumscribed when I was old enough to know that I didn't need my penis for just peeing, instead of being no older than 6 and having my retarded family convince me that I will be unworthy in the eyes of God, if I didn't get it done...If you're intact, you have no idea how good you have it, and how much sh*t you don't have to deal with.

Anonymous User... you have every right to be livid with your parents. That being said, I assume that most of these posts are made by ignorant, immature and shallow girls. I'm pleased to say I'm a female American intactivist. A man has every right to ALL of his anatomy. Those who are posting of the 'medical' benefits would be smart to note that even the American Cancer Association and American Association of pediatrics doesn't consider this procedure necessary until there actually IS a problem. This argument comes down to a culture of shallow people, mostly women. The prevention of HIV amongst the masses is better prevented by the use of condoms.

Also, I'd like for everyone to check out an actual circumcision procedure. Now ladies... as a new mother I can honestly tell you that subjecting a newborn child to such a painful procedure is not only dangerous, its immoral. How many of you can honestly tell me that you'd allow someone to strap your child's legs apart while he is dissected without anesthetic? I can tell you the screams and cries will burn a hole right through you. I half suspect most of you to continue in your ignorance and not actually 'watch' a procedure being performed in order to blind yourself of the truth, but that's not my problem. Just wait until your child is like this poor guy who is approaching you and asking "why did you mutilate me?" All you'll be able to say is that "we didn't care about you or what you'd want, its about what we want". Great parenting!

I'd also like to note for those girls out there that the female genitalia is no prize. We have a higher chance of developing an infection than an intact male ever would. The ACTUAL statistics is less than 1%. An intact male has a 1% chance of getting an infection, while a mutilated male has a .1% chance. Either way you look at it, the percentages don't justify it. However, I would like to add for all those discriminatory ladies out there, if you cut off a girls clitoral hood they have a lesser chance of getting an infection... so I guess that means we should start doing that to baby girls or they'll have a 4% chance of infection ;) Don't screw with those of us who actually know the facts or we'll make you eat~* your words.

~*Rachel*~

I don't think your mom is a sick, twisted person for thinking it's okay. Circumcision is done for a number of reasons and used to be pretty routine (at least in a number of countries, especially in North America). For many, its for religious reasons, and it was also commonly believed that circumcision was more hygienic (which is not necessarily true) and decreased the chances of someone getting HIV when they would eventually become sexually active (which we also know now to be false). I don't think a lot of people really considered that circumcision is a form of mutilation, and it was also believed that pain does not adversely affect babies since they don't remember it (another fallacy).

I don't agree with male circumcision, but when considering the decisions your parents made, you have to consider them in their context. We've come along way in our thinking and knowledge when it comes to this topic.

On the other side of the coin, my mother once confided in me that she worries my younger brother might have negative feelings toward her because she chose NOT to have him circumcised (we live in a culture where most boys his age are circumcised and she was worried that he might be or feel like he might be discriminated because he ISN'T circumcised).

Hi. I'm from the UK, hardly anyone here is circ'd. I can't believe that girls in the US like it more circ'd, I don't believe they have ever been with an uncirc'd man, saying all the things they have said. I have only been with one circ'd man who was an ex and sex was not good, because it just felt too rough, and I would get dry in no time, and It would become uncomfortable. There is something you can do though, you can get your foreskin restored (foreskin restoration). There are lots of methods, do a google search. Basically you stretch the shaft skin over the head, and in time new cells grow and eventually it completely covers the head, like the foreskin did. I say do that, you will have reclaimed you body back then, and no matter what girls say, when you have sex, it will feel better for both people.