Who should lead the first sexual experience?

I think it should be a mutual experience, with each helping the other. If he is on top, maybe she can put it in. If she is on top, maybe he should put it in. It is a matter of negotiation and communication that demonstrates just how well you are willing to work together to explore things in the future.

I agree with both of the gentlemen here. Of course, if a guy is about to have sex, what does he have to be insecure about?

I like to try new positions when I'm having sex, sometimes one's that I just fall into that second. From that perspective, a guy who need to lead. You should gauge yourself by what the guy is doing during foreplay. Say you're making out, and it's not going beyond that. Make your move, whatever you think you should do.

If it's still not going beyond what you're doing, guide him into an advance. If he's still not moving forward, you may want to check his pulse.

Seriously, if it's still not going anywhere, go ahead and reign supreme, cause you're in the driver's seat. Understand this however, if you move ahead of where he wants to be, even an insecure guy will speak up to that. Or they should. Everyone has a point in any situation where they will say the proverbial "STOP, STOP, I WANT TO GET OFF THIS RIDE!"

His won't necessarily be that, it will more than likely be something along the lines of wanting to linger in the moment, or simply not wanting to move so fast. In that case, you'll just have to enjoy the slow boat to China instead of the speed craft down the river.

But don't be afraid to communicate your wants and needs, this is about the both of you, and especially in the bedroom, the two of you should be able to agree on a semi-forged plan to reach a mutual goal.

Cheers!

I think I would feel pretty damn manly if a woman were to throw me down and have her way with me. If not, who cares about manliness? I have done both and I personally think that it is really cool if the woman makes the move. That reduces the likelihood of the guy thinking that he is pressuring you into something you may not want or may not be open to.

Generally guys are always willing so the question is the woman. None of you wierdo guys that take offense to that statement better comment either.

I love it when my woman initiates sex or leads because it lets me know that she really wants me! I remember a time when she practically pushed me up against a wall and began making out with me. I almost ripped her clothes off - that's how much it turned me on! However, I think that it depends on the guy. You could try it and see if he seems to like it. If not, let him lead the next time! I know that it totally turns a lot of guys on. If a guy is insecure, he might not like it.

The first time it should be mutual so you both know you want each other! I don't think it necessarily makes a man feel more manly to take the lead but sometimes it can be nice for a guy to take the lead!

When you have sex it should just flow - it usually does for me!