Ok I have been seeing this guy. We have done some stuff together but never went all the way. Yesterday I told him that I was gonna give him my virginity to him and his response was "(my name) not me" why did he say that? please help me understand what he meant by that . thanks.
well girl if he is popular of one of those big cats,i mean rich and stuffs,maybe he mean like ur gonna lose ur virginity to him for what he is,not for who he is.
That first time is a big thing. As a guy, if a girl decided to give me hers, I'd make sure she wanted to do that. There are no guarantees in life, which speaks volumes about a relationship. I myself, stopped myself from taking a girls virginity also. I did not want to take that ?pure-ness? away from her. We had done other things also, but I didn't feel I should be the one to take it "then". I felt like I owed her more than, what she was allowing. But I didn't understand that she chose me, she must have thought I was special. So just let him know that you are sure about what how you feel. You want him to have it. Hes guilty of something not being sincere maybe, I'm not sure. Be careful!
Yeah when we give it out to someone is because we think that person is special. Just like you said, I also think that he might feel guilty later...... but I don't want him to feel that way, but I could understand why he does not want it in a way...... I like your thought! - 3 months ago
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I'm glad you do...the person I gave this respect to didn't at the time & I have no idea what she thinks now. Be aware of the guy that will hit & quit. & be smart! - 3 months ago
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What make you think that you did not deserve it? did you like her? or you did not want something serious with her? I can imagine why this guy hinted at me that he was not the one, but even though he might not be, I still want him to be the one..... thanks for your input once again! - 3 months ago
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I didn't feel I deserved it because I didn't see us getting married. I wanted to work to something serious with her. See if she felt the way you do, then yeah, I would have went ahead and did it. I felt as though she wanted more. I did like her, but for some reason she stopped being attractive to me. So I felt even worst, but I was glad I did not do it. I know I would have treated her special, but I don't know, I guess it meant more to me that she didn't get hurt.
He is trying to tell you that since what you want to give him is a gift, he doesn't want to burden of it. So, he may not have long term plans for you guys. If he did, then he would feel honored by you wanting your first time to be with him.
Are there any other signs that may lead you to think that he doesn't want a stable relationship with you?
Well we live like an hour and a half from each other and we see like twice a month or something... - 3 months ago
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Yeah, it seems like he thinks of you as his "sometime" thing whereas you have deeper feelings. If a man is telling you no, I would take it and find someone else. - 3 months ago
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Well I think that he meant he did not deserve it ....... or maybe the way I told him made it sound weird and he did not know what to say .... like I don't think he would say ohh yeah let me take it ... but yeah I do believe that I am his "sometime" thing...... - 3 months ago
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because me and my ex started dating andi wasnt a virgin and he knew but hated that detail.well i took his virginity and hew was shy about it at first...
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