Threesome - How do I convince my Girlfriend?

Well, I think threesomes are great, but like dakadan said, you need to be in a good place in your relationship so she knows things are secure. Offer to her that within the threesome you won't touch the other girl. Let her do the stuff with the other girl, this will allow her to feel like you aren't trying to be with another woman.

Personally, every time I've been in one, it was with 2 other people that were not in relationships. Also, people that I didn't "like," yes I was attracted to them, but only sexually. That way no jealousy issues can come up.

It seems to me that your girlfriend obviously likes the idea but would rather it stay a fantasy. Trying to coerce her in to it is not a good idea really because she will think you want a threesome more than you want her

I think a gentleman wouldn't try to convince his girlfriend to do something she clearly didn't seem keen on doing. And a gentleman wouldn't even think of pulling the , "But you said." and "if you love me you'll do it." lines. Why would you want her to do something she doesn't want to do? Time to put on your big boy undies and think of another favor.

I believe you're thinking about yourself and what you want. It's nice that you've considered why she may not want to have a threesome, but frankly, by pushing the issue you're being disrespectful.

Threesomes sound like a great idea in theory, but rarely happen without there being some sort of repercussions. Doing something like that can bring out insecurities in even the most confident people.

I have had a number of threesomes and it really depends on the woman and her level of security and/or interest in pursuing a threesome. First you both have to be in a very good place. Don't to it to save the relationship or just after coming off a big fight. Second, you need to pamper her and let her feel and know that she is very special. Third, make sure you set up boundaries and stand by them rigidly. She may say something like we can start off, but if I decide I don't want to do anything then we have to stop. She may try it to test you and you better be ready for it.

Finally, if you do go for it take things very slowly. Do not focus on the other woman. Women protect themselves against abandonment and are always on the lookout for it. It is a very secure woman who isn't. It is part of the oxytocin/estrogen mix of things.

Never push her into anything she absolutely doesn't want to do. If she has mentioned it in the past then she might be open to it. It is probably not a common conversation that she has and could be scared of it. If done right it can be a lot of fun.

well a 3some is a good idea, but then why don't you try swing clubs for better results?

a few months ago, on my girlfriend's birthday, I had that bitter-sweet chance to have a threesome. I was with my girlfriend, and in walked her best friend, who had always wanted to be with me. the sight of me with my girlfriend turned her on, and she asked to join. I didn't say a word. it was the girlfriend who said yes. for as much fun as it was, in the end, it wasn't worth the guilt trip I had to go through! the girlfriend got jealous, saying I was into her friend too much, even though I kept to the girlfriend! I fought with the girlfriend, the friend, and ended up looking like the jerk, when really I didn't need the late addition. take it from a guy who has been with a willing girlfriend, it never works out the way the fantasy is imagined! how about another idea for a favor!