My boyfriend and I just recently started dating. He's a great kisser and everything but I'm more into the kinkier stuff. You know, neck biting and hard sucking. [i even like having my finger sucked.] He seems to not be into that at all, like he thinks it's weird[i'll admit that the finger thing is a little strange].
Like, last night we were playing around and he bit me on the neck pretty hard. I told him I liked it and he seemed all weirded out.
I mean, I thought everyone liked biting.
What do I do? Is he really so sexually conservative or do you think he's just shy at first? I feel like when we do have sex, I'll be unsatisfied due to lack of um, kink.
have to say, enjoy the biting here too.i imagine not everyone does, but whatever works.if easing into it doesn't work, then ask what the hangup is.if it's not something he likes, then can you live without it?
Well Twinkletoes, like my fingers sucked and biting, LOL
The mood and arousal makes the moment. Maybe you are just a little to fast on him and he needs to warm up a little, and I mean some sensual domination.
If he just wants to get right to it (like most younger folks) you need to make him earn his pleasure.
Just then, when that moment comes he will more open to kink. Wrap him around your finger and work it up.
Biting and pain tolerance grow with arousal, so you set the mood and pace.
PS: Try nibbling for a while, maybe biting will come later.
And you are not weird, just open minded and willing to explore.
Just because he doesn't like the kinkier side of sex doesn't mean he is conservative. In fact, he might just be into a different kind of kink. I don't think there is anything weird about liking to be bit either. I know a very large community of people into the whole BDSM world and they can go much further than simple biting.
It sounds to me like he just isn't into it. Not everybody is. You could try seeking out a BDSM community in your area where they will have people who can work with you around your particular desires.
i agree with you, if you're having issues with kissing, who knows how conservative he'll be with sexual things. but try talking to him and getting him to try some new things, maybe he just doesn't know he likes it yet!
Well, if you guys love eachother, I don't think that your kinkiness (lol) is really going to affect the relationship. Just let him know what you like. He may be weirded out but, your his girlfriend! He should pleasure you and know what to do and try, I guess. If he's not really into it at first, ask him what he likes and pleasure him, things might take off from there. I know how you feel, I'm pretty kinky myself and it took my boyfriend a while to get used to it, haha :)
How can that not affect your relationship? imo, by far the majority of guys rate sex pretty highly on the agenda when it comes to picking the girl of his dreams.. if the sex is boring and she is unwilling to experiment or even compromise (as if this guy it seems) then what is it going to be like in 25 yrs? lol I want a relationship where you are crazy in love not just good friends - A month ago
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