I let my boyfriend finger me , does he expect something in return ? Even though he says he doesn't ? What does he expect , help! im kind of young & I've never done anything to a guy . Should I feel bad for not doing anything to pleasure him back ?
I don't think he should expect anything in return because you don't owe him anything back. You already gave yourself to him when you let him pleasure you that way so everything is equal. You got something you enjoyed and so did he. Too often in a relationship partners feel that if they do something sexual to the other one, that other one ownes them a favor back. I never thought doing something sexual to my girlfriend was a favor. I always think of it as something I WANT to do to her because I'm going to enjoy doing it to her as much as I hope she enjoys receiving it. He shouldn't expect anything in return or else he's bartering with you. So just take him for his word. Definitely don't feel bad no matter how often you let him do that to you as long as you both enjoy it. That applies the same to anything else you let him do that he wants to do to you or anything you want to do to him that he lets you do.
To be honest he probably considers him self lucky to have gotten that far. It is nice to do something for him, it shows him that you are as into it as he is but it doesn't have to be at that same moment, if you havn't done much of this before then just relax and enjoy what he is doing, and then do something for him a bit later on. Make sure you you give him feedback, make noises and don't be afraid to tell him exactly what you want, trust me I've been there before and there is nothing worse than being inexperienced, not getting any feedback or signals from her and trying to work it all out through guess work.
It is normal for you to want to give something back to him and feel bad for not. Unfortunately, many women I know don't know how to receive completely. At some point he will probably want to be pleasured in some way, but you can tell him if you aren't comfortable with it. Open communication is the best way to ensure everyone gets what they want. If he is telling you that he isn't expecting anything in return, believe him. If he isn't telling you the truth it is him that is hurt by it, but men get turned on by seeing/feeling a womans vagina and especially seeing you turned on. Let him enjoy that aspect of it.
When you are ready and he is ready to accept your attention in return, ask him how to make him feel good. It's very exciting to do give something to your guy that you know is just for his pleasure.
Just don't go any faster than your comfort level. Don't be afraid to ask him what he likes.
Especially, don't be afraid to ask for what you like, too!
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