Boyfriend says "sex doesn't do it for him"...What do I do?

doesn't like the way it feels? hmm. is he using a condom? that could feel weird but after being together so long, just use the pill after being tested for stds

i know EXACTLY where your coming from, I lost way too long and rarely come from sex .as a man that is weird but here is why:

-stressed from the day
-paranoid I will get her pregnant, a REAL worry if not seriously committed 100%
-afraid of an std
-sometimes it feels better to come WITHOUT the vagina on it, it just feels like more of a release.at times for me it feels like the puzzy dampens the effect

don't cheat, it will kill him and you, if nothing else, END it but don't cheat.first tho, talk to him, find out what he likes, turns him on, and like in other posts, BE A TEASE! men love that and will come BIG time

Well, here are my thoughts and input.

We all seem to experience a shift or change in our life every so 7 years.

He might be overworked or just lost his desire since he knows what is coming.
Try to change the routine and look for new ways of setting up the environment.

It is usually the the other way around and we guys are the one that can't get enough of it.

Maybe it is time for some jealousy and teasing in your life.
Go out and flirt around and see if he cares or not.

Push some buttons and make him understand you are alive and not just a toy.
Go out for dinner and enjoy being friends with no kids.

Believe me when you have kids it will be a new thing all over again.

One lesson learned well in life is that friends outdo the plain sex part.

So, don't cheat since it does not pay off.
It will put a major crack in your mindset about your relationship and will only fill the void for the moment.

Take a break from each other and see if you miss each other, see what happens.

just a few suggestions to think about.

Hope this helps a little bit and clears the mind.

Dr.S

Buy a vibrating dildo.

Talk to him about and tell him how it makes you feel and leaves you unsatisfied. It may not be weird to him but it is clearly a point of frustration for you and he should care about you just as much as he cares about himself.

Right now it seems like he cares more about himself because you are letting him jerk off on you or giving him a blow job which in a sense is a bit about power.

Talk to him and if it feels like you are talking to a wall then consider your options. You are still young and life is finite so don't waste all your emotions on a one way street!

PLEASE first off don't cheat. Even if things don't work out you can still hopefully remain friends.

I understand you when you say that you are unsatisfied, but you do love him & he is your best friend.

Now I may be wrong here but it's nothing against you or there is nothing wrong with you BUT is he looking at too much porn & gratifying himself?

I knew a guy (honest not me) that he became a sexual. He started to use porn to "enhance" his sex life but just got used to doing it by himself. You know the right pressure & speed at the right time that sort of thing.
You have already talked to him what in the world doesn't he like the way it feels?
I have also heard that for some reason it hurts when a guy finishes. I don't know if it's the position or what but he then must see a doctor.

Look at this website link & see if that helps any.

As hard as it is to do you two must talk.
Good Luck I hope that everything works out ok

Does he wear a condom when you have sex, but not when you go down on him? If that's the case, the increased sensation from being bare might be the culprit. Otherwise I'm not sure. I suppose you guys might just not be the best fit down there. Like if your pussy was kind of big and his penis was kind of small I could see him liking your mouth better. You could try having him f*** you, but then finishing in your mouth and see if he likes that.

did you ever try different ways of blowing him