Why do guys do this?

Well, it depends on how it happened. if it was a spur of the moment thing--I can tell you right now that guys don't think about the consequences until after the climax. The reason being is that our sex drive (which was present beforehand) almost completely diminishes, so sometimes bad choices are made.

Or the guy could be a "player" and only wanted to have sex with you, and as movie-themed as that sounds, it really does happen.

Or he could have gone down this path--> once you have sex--no matter how emotionally detached you think you are--things change in your head. You start to really analyze things and you get scared or secure.

If' its a spur of the moment thing, don't expect to have a good relationship anyway. If its a player deal, don't expect anything. If it's the last theory, he'll come around with the right prompting. But don't let it drag you down, it's his loss, right?

This may be a hard lesson for you, but the sooner you learn the better off you will be. Males and females are more different than genitalia. Females seek relationships, an emotional attachment. Males are not seeking an attachment, they are seeking sex. You may not like that, but now that you know it, you can use the information to adjust your relationships.

if you are referring to one night stands, you have to accept the fact that you might not see that person again and just enjoy the moment of experiencing your sexuality with another person.

if you are referring to guys that date a girl until she puts out and then ditches. it is because they are selfish. they care more about their own personal conquests than what they can experience sharing themselves with another person

here is something that I have seen women do, weather or not it works you will have to find out (I am a guy, the game works different for me) but it does weed out selfish people.

next time you are considering a guy. take something from him. during the flirting process snatch something that you can wear. nothing expensive or to sentimental. like a bracelet, necklace, hat, and put it on. say something cute or funny like "hey this looks better on me" or "ahha so this is how you get all the girls". see how long he lets you keep it for. the purpose here is not to steal his junk but to see how quickly he will show his selfish self-centered side(which is why I would throw in a small comment on their vanity as listed above). if he gets pissed or confused or tries to snatch it back to quickly--------need I say more.

like I said, I know women that do things like this and women have done it to me. and I have know guys that have been thrown off by it because they were that selfish and all mighty about themselves.

actually it's spelled with an "E"

Well you see boycrazy1. A lot of men are assholes I think the technical term is. Seriously sit down and look at the guy and think could I not have guessed this would happen. Here is a sure fire was to stop it happening.

Choose your own hot rating out of 10 then reduce by 1.5 to produce a real rating. then pick guys that are at least .5 under this. This means they want you a little more than you want them so they will stay with you. You may fall in love you never know but there is a lot less chance of a guy dumping you.

Think about it.

Stephen
New Zealand

First of all you are just 16 and like it or not you shouldn't be sexually active anyway. Probably why you are asking this question!

At your age girls that put out are hard to find so any guy who can get the opportunity to bang you is going to do so and then search out his next.

Date a guy for quite sometime and get to know him before dropping your panties for him.

You get labeled as easy and you will live with it for a long time hon

Good Luck whatever you do, and hope I didn't piss you off too much, just trying to give you the real facts of life